We converted to vegetarianism in 2011. Dd never really questioned it. She went with what was being given to her. I mean not whatever. She still hates all vegetables but will eat lentils and beans and her diet is v. limited. Before this her every meal consisted of meat or egg. Dairy was added in the form of cheese. Anyways, she spends enough time at grandmas to have meats around her.We have let her watch a few food documentaries with us. At that time her reaction will be like Yuck. I hate chicken. I tell her that just because we don't eat it she still needs to respect others' choices that eat it.
But this is what happened in the past few weeks. 2 weeks or so ago she comes from grandmas saying grandma gave her chicken. I am mortified to say the least. Grandma knows how fast it can constipate her too. Anyways, I didn't overreact. She says she told grandma she didn't want it but grandma still fed her. When grandma is confronted by dh grandma says dd asked for it as she was cooking some. Dd v. strongly denies grandma's story. We don't know who to believe. We want to continue sending her to grandma's once a week or less because it offers us a break from a high needs child.
The next thing that happened is the school by mistake gave her a chicken item instead of her veggie order. She ate it and didn't want me to inform the school. This is the message I was getting - that she tries to please me that she loves being vegetarian but she actually wanted the school lunch that wasn't vege. She didn't want me to inform the school so that they could keep making mistakes and she sometimes gets the non-vegetarian item.
I don't know whether I should let her go back to eating it. I hate to even think about the quality of the meat the school is serving or that grandma buys (not that they can't afford better, they just aren't educated enough and will buy what is easily available) or continue her on a diet we think is healthier and in the long run will be far more beneficial to her.
Thanks for listening. :)