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isa--do you have a humidifer in there?

mrs--we have a name list. smile.gif a rather large one. we need to knock some off--but are not going to name them until we meet them.

since we finally took another pic after weeks of not, I figured I might as well post it. 27 weeks 5 days--measuring approximately 41 weeks (if D did it right...smile.gif last time she was super close to what our doctor measured) with around 8 pounds of baby!

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Cananny - hope everything is going well at the hospital! You have done such a great job keeping those guys in so long! 

 

Wishin - what a milestone - 28 weeks! I would love it if DW could drop to half time at work. That sounds so great. Her job was a little more flexible with her previous boss so we're thinking that isn't an option now. 

 

Esenbee - sorry to hear you are having a hard time. My friends with a newborn were just telling me they were fighting due to exhaustion. The first trimester is also rough. Hopefully things will improve.

 

Seraf - I can't remember if I congratulated you on the move. That sounds really excited. Wishing you a minimally stressful move.

 

Isa - hoping for a speedy recovery in your house. We just had the crud and I sure hope we are done for a long while.

 

Lisedea - your belly is amazing! I voted for your photo, too. Such a great shot. I think we are going to do something similar with names. Our girl list is a lot longer, so I'm wondering if we will end up with 2 boys.

 

AFU - I need to get over here more than once a week as it is hard to keep up and then I ramble! Had our 12 week scan and said goodbye to our fertility doctors and nurses today. We have gotten really used to going there 1-2 times a week over the past year so we were sad but excited. We promised to come back with babies to pass around.

 

As usual our ultrasound was freaking adorable but the printed out photos look crappy. Both babies were active and baby B had its legs stretched out all the way. They have gotten so long and you could see tiny foot bones! Also we decided B must be a girl since at one point she crossed her little legs in a lady-like fashion. Hah. Baby A turned and gave us an excellent profile of its face and then put its hand up to its face. All that stuff makes this seem so real.

 

Also, we have told a ton of people as of today and that has been really fun. Tomorrow we have a family dinner in Seattle and will tell my brothers and sisters-in-law in person. I am really excited. Our mothers are absolutely thrilled to finally get to share the news with the world. In other good news, I think DW has markedly improved on the nausea front the last two days and is constantly hungry. We start weaning off hormones tomorrow, so there is a light at the end of the tunnel! My cousin who has four month old twins just offered us tons of hand me downs, including the car seats we were interested in buying. And to top off the day, we might have a buyer for our four vials of leftover Follistim finally. Today feels great! 

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lisedea-Looking good!  I voted for your photo too.  That was my favorite from your session.  How are you keeping yourself occupied while you are on bedrest away from home?  It seems like it could get pretty boring being somewhere else and not with your DP.

 

bigfood-So glad everything looks great and you have graduated!  I found some of my more annoying symptoms went away when I stopped taking my meds at the end of the first trimester.  I hope that works for mrs too.

 

Isa-I hope you are all feeling healthy soon!  A sick baby is no fun at all.  Poor thing.

 

esenbee-I'm sorry you are going through a tough time.  We are all here to support you.

 

I went to visit Cananny the other day.  I brought her some food that was better than the hospital food.  She's doing well and relaxing a bunch.  The nurses are taking good care of her.  The boys are kicking up a storm, but everyone is doing well. 

 

p.s. I registered for 4 different carriers.  Is that too much?  redface.gif

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Pokey - that is so great you can check in on Cananny and report back! That is good news. Also, 4 carriers is not too much. We already have two hand me down Ergo's, a hand me down Moby, and plan to buy Boba wraps. Of course, this is coming from someone with no previous baby-wearing experience! Well, other than a sporty old school backpack carrier. I am enthusiastic about it though. Which ones did you pick?

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bigfoot-I picked a moby wrap, a Boba Air 3G, a woven ring sling, and a baby bjorn for DW.  I also had a Beco on there but I took it off.  They are all sort of different and I would like to try them all!  DW wants to put a Steelers patch on hers, and she wants the baby to be able to face forward so he can see where he's going.  I hope people buy things from the registry.  No one in my family wore their babies so they might wonder why I have so many on my list.  Funny story:  DW told her mom that we got a co-sleeper and then had to explain to her what it is.  I then had to explain to DW that using one is not that common in mainstream circles.  It's cute that she didn't realize we were doing that wasn't the usual.

post #186 of 539
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Of course I jinxed it--we got called to pick up our poor, sick baby from daycare to handle her new, fast-moving cold ourselves. Lots of congestion and a really gross cough--any ideas on what to do to make her feel better? We've got her mattress elevated a little, and have dosed her with fever reducer. Other ideas to help her sleep would be much appreciated!

Humidifier!  It helped both of our girls as babies when they were sick.  And if she is really stuffy, take her into the bathroom with the hot shower running to breathe the steam. Hope she feels better soon.

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Pokey - I will have to check out the Boba Air 3G. I got my friends a Boba wrap for their baby shower and have seen it in action and really like it. I would think a lot of couples would want different carriers and possibly different diaper bags. We sort of fit into a butch-femme couple category but magically like a lot of the same baby gear. To narrow down registry choices if you don't mind used gear I think you can craigslist the Baby Bjorn if it is one of their popular ones for $10-$20. I once got a friend's husband one at the thrift store for $5.

 

The Steelers thing is cute. DW lived in Pittsburgh for 10 years so we are Steelers fans - as much as you can be while not really being football fans. I am guessing your DW might dress the baby in a Steelers outfit? The twins might sport some black and gold or use a terrible towel for a burp cloth.

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Hi everyone, Im new to mothering.com again, I am a lesbian momma, my wife and I welcomed our little boy avi into the world 11/18/2012joy.gif just 3 months ago and I am looking for women to communicate with that i relate and talk to.... sorry for joining the thread soo late

post #189 of 539
Sky, welcome.

Pokey, we have more than 4 carriers. A long wrap, 3 short wraps tied like ring slings, two shorter wraps for other carries, a couple of pouch slings, a Mai tie, an ergo and a boba 3G. All those I have listed as wraps are just certain yardages of cloth off he bolt. The ergo and boba are similar, but the boba fits us both better, so the ergo is being passed on (we seldom wear S now that he walks so well, I generally only put him up when he's needing cuddles and I need to get something done. He's hugundus, so I'm thankful he can walk for most ouings). We use all the other things in the course of a week.

Isa, I hope Ms. E is healthy soon.

We took our first small load of stuff to the new house today. The bigs said they couldn't remember it. As we drove up O kept getting excited, "That's the pond by where we used to live, we used to feed the ducks there! That's the house where we used to live!" I said, "Honey, we're moving up here again, remember?" And he seemed quite happy. The city is Columbus. Since we live in a village of 450, it will be a huge change. We can get pizza delivered. And Chinese food. And WALK to the LIBRARY. And hear airplanes. S is especially excited about that.
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p.s. I registered for 4 different carriers.  Is that too much?  redface.gif

Definitely not!  In a given week, I use at least four different carriers, sometimes more. And that's while working full-time with a toddler.  The way I see it, a ring sling is perfect for quick hip carries; a woven is awesome for long walks, naps while carrying, and times when you want a very secure and comfortable carry; a buckle carrier or a mei tai is great for out and about; and some of the more specialized carriers (like wrap conversion mei tais) are perfect hybrids that can do just about anything, as long as you're not too worried about straps getting dirty out and about.  And a stretchy wrap (like a Moby) is LIFE SAVING with a newborn.  I know that not every baby likes all of these different kinds of carriers, but Lilah was very fussy about carriers for a long time, and I've still gotten tons of use out of over a dozen carriers.  I definitely realize that all these carriers are NOT necessary by any means.  I could totally get by with a sling and a buckle carrier. But if you enjoy babywearing, like some variety, and have the funds/gifts, it is easy to justify a bit of a collection winky.gif.  And I'm not THAT crazy. A woman posted a photo on a babywearing board of her "stash" of over a HUNDRED woven wraps, all organized by fiber and color. Holy CRAP. Anyway...enjoy!

post #191 of 539
Welcome Sky--I remember you from QC!

pokey--I love that you can visit Cananny! I so wish I could! It does get pretty boring--but really, I am starting to get used to it. Especially since I can't do much without getting really sore or tired anyway. Reading a lot and learned to knit washcloths! smile.gif Ha.

bigfoot--The ONLY name we had decided on was a girl's name. Of course.

Thanks all for your votes. smile.gif I can see who does it on the post so I thank all 15 of you! smile.gif Second steroid shot tomorrow to strengthen babies lungs. I can't believe how close we are getting...28 weeks tomorrow--it's my bronze medal! Next goal, 32 (the silver)!
post #192 of 539
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bigfoot-I picked a moby wrap, a Boba Air 3G, a woven ring sling, and a baby bjorn for DW.  I also had a Beco on there but I took it off.  They are all sort of different and I would like to try them all!  DW wants to put a Steelers patch on hers, and she wants the baby to be able to face forward so he can see where he's going.  I hope people buy things from the registry.  No one in my family wore their babies so they might wonder why I have so many on my list.  Funny story:  DW told her mom that we got a co-sleeper and then had to explain to her what it is.  I then had to explain to DW that using one is not that common in mainstream circles.  It's cute that she didn't realize we were doing that wasn't the usual.

 

I've heard lots of negative things about baby bjorns for baby's spine and hips. I used to think the same thing - that baby would want to see ahead but really, when they are that young they are interested in everything and can turn their heads to see side to side...once they are a bit older they can ride on your back and see it all :)

 

lise: you look absolutely beautiful :)

 

seraf: I looked up Columbus on wikipedia as I don't know much about it...sounds like it's a very up and coming city for raising a family...I'm not sure what that means but it sounds positive!

 

Welcome, sky!

 

Afm: Busy day at work this morning but I had a hair cut and a nap this afternoon which was heavenly. I haven't felt baby move all day which is unsettling to me though.

post #193 of 539
Sky--welcome!

Lise--you're way ahead of everyone else! Hopefully you stay that way! smile.gif

Seraf--I'm glad they're excited! And since they'll be half the time in the little town, if it gets to be too much at least they'll know they're getting a break soon!

Thanks for the well-wishes. She's a miserable little thing at the moment--coughing herself awake and then being too angry to go back to sleep. It's looking like a fun night ahead!
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thank you all for the welcome 

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hi skyandtru - welcome! i feel like i remember your user name from the queer conceptions thread, right? nice to "see" you on the other side. i love your gorgeous profile picture! 
 

seraf - i visited columbus when i lived in pittsburgh and i remember it being a pretty hip town. i am sure you will have a great time there! 

 

carmen - do you normally feel baby frequently? im sure all is well and you'll feel it tomorrow. 

 

isa - sorry to hear about the sick kiddo.

 

lise - congrats on the bronze medal!!! 

 

i love the idea of steelers babies dressed in black & yellow with terrible towel burp cloths. i am pretty sure you can order terrible towels by the case in pittsburgh, so... 

post #196 of 539

Hello

 

Day 6 here.. and it was the most awful day.. I woke up in a bad mood from not sleeping well and then being woken for stupid shit by nurses.. It made my am really awful.. and to top it off i now have a blasted head cold :( and am miserable.. i hit a wall today of being in here.. and I still have 4 days until delivery plus 3-4 days recovery.. I am hoping I get a good night sleep and can be better tomorrow :/

 

welcome Sky

 

Pokey.. thanks again for the visit

 

Seraf.. congrats on the moving! Hoping it goes smooth

 

Mrs/Mrs and Bigfoot.. 12 weeks.. YAY.. i was sad when i left my fertility docs too.. you get so used to seeing them!

 

Sorry for not keeping up.. i think of you all often and thanks for the well wishes

 

the dr thinks the babies will all be over 4.5 pounds -5 lbs.. i am growing big babies.. and we have 4 more days... i am BEYOND ready!

 

:)

post #197 of 539
CaNanny, yay for big babies. Sorry the hospital has lost it's charm.

Carmen, I used to get nervous when my babies faced my back and I couldn't feel movement. Hopefully she turns around and keeps you calm soon. I'll have to look up Columbus. It has a huge AP community and for a while the zoo and science museum were #1 in the country.

Isa, I hope she wakes up feeling all better. The kids' other house is a farm in the woods. Little town will be once a week visits to grandma.

Mrs&mrs, we will be on the other side of the tracks from the hip part of town, lol. But a short bike ride away.

About the babies facing out, I've read the same things as Carmen with the Bjorns. It's recommended that a baby's knees be higher than her hips. Babies really do like facing forward around 3 months. I use a hip carry with a pouch or ring sling or a kangaroo kind of carry, where their legs are balled up in the sling in front of them or a high back carry. But babies are very comfortable to turn their heads and look around if they're facing in. Then they can also hide their face against you when they're tired or overstimulated, which isn't possible facing out in a carrier that holds them straight out. Lol, my other silly prejudice against the bjorn is that it only goes to 20 pound. S hit that at 2 months.
post #198 of 539

Welcome Sky!

 

Cananny - six days with several more to go and a cold sounds miserable. Hoping your cold is all cleared up before your big babies arrive!

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Cananny--So...you are telling me that you are carrying 13.5-15 pounds of baby right now?!?! Holy crap and HOORAY for big babies! So happy that you have made it this far! joy.gif

Finally decided TOGETHER on not circumsizing. Feels good to get my way but not have it just be my way...if you know what I mean. wink1.gif
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Hello all..  I've been reading along and just realized I haven't posted anything for a little bit..  I want to thank all of you who threw out hugs and support my way.  They were very appreciated.  I don't anticipate things getting much better because there are still underlying problems that just make current issues a bigger deal than they should be.  But these past few days have been calm, so it's been nice to have a break from all of DSp's negativity and criticism.  We got a new puppy (what were we thinking?!)  He is a Chi-Weenie and so adorable.  Someone on craigslist was selling two and we went to look at one for DSp's mom.  We ended up thinking they were both so cute that we took both!  SOOO, we have DSp and me, DD, our THREE dogs, the cat, our house guest and her dog.  All in 952 sq. ft!  It's exhausting to just look around the house.  DD's room hasn't been clean for 2 weeks, our room hasn't been clean for 3 weeks, the kitchen is cluttered and DD's mess has spilled over into the living room.  This weekend is time for a serious overhaul.  Maybe I will feel better after that!

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