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Hi guys I was actually on the Queer Conceptions page late last year when cordelia15 and easttowest got their BFP's. I have been so crazy busy with my life and work and the holidays and everything else that I have not had a chance to post on this side. I got my BFP in early October, and I was very scared to tell anyone until my 2nd trimester. But I follow you guys everyday and have been for over a year. So much has changed in 5 months orngtongue.gif

 

Name/Username? erinTNgirl

Who is in your family? Me and DP, diggie dog, and kitty

What pronouns do you and your family members use? she, her, and jr (90% sure it's a he)

If you're pregnant, when are you due? June 23

If you already have kids, tell us two interesting things about each of them. This is our first one. The most interesting thing right now is how (he) wiggles in there!

If you work outside the home (or inside the home at something other than parenting), what do you do? I am a registered nurse in a small hospital in an ICU.

If you stay home with your kids, what do your days tend to look like? I don't have any yet, but I will definitely have to go back to work sadly.

What are your favorite things to do when you're not working/doing the grunt work of parenting? I love to watch movies and hang with DP (she is a bar owner), playing games with friends, reading, cooking, playing with the animals, shopping, and napping :)

 

I am glad to be here and have a community to be involved with. I have so many questions for all of you guys about motherhood!! I know I can find the answers here.

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Hi Erin!!!  I was just telling my wife the other day that I wondered where you went.  :)  She's due June 23 too.  Do you just have a feeling it's a boy, or did you find out (we're having one too)?  How are you feeling?  

 

AFU, my boss just told me she's pregnant!!  I'm super excited, both for her (obviously) and because maybe that means the office will suddenly become more baby friendly.  I was guessing she was, but you don't say something like that, especially not to your boss.  Based on what she told me (due late September/early October), she must be only about 9-10 weeks.  DW has been having a rough time of it, the hormones seem to really have kicked in this week in a way they hadn't before, but I think acupuncture, exercise, and a healthy diet are helping.  We booked a vacation for the end of March that we are so looking forward to, and we're starting to tour hospitals and make real plans.  Everything is moving right along!     

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Congratulations granite and erinTNgirl!  So happy for both of you.  joy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gif

 

 

erin-Welcome back!  How is the second trimester going?  We have a lot of babies due in June.  It should be pretty exciting. 

 

granite-I only recently realized that even though you were in QC for a while and doing lots of monitoring, that you hadn't actually inseminated yet.  That's awesome you were successful the first time!  How are you feeling?

 

mrs-Since we can't go to Vegas, we want to drive somewhere and stay in California, someplace warmer.  I'm worried the doctor will say she doesn't want us driving through remote areas because we wouldn't be able to get to a hospital quickly if something happens. 

 

cordelia-Thanks! I feel a little better now.  I'm sure DW wouldn't mind, but I think they are plenty big now.  It's funny because I was talking to my sister the other day, who is very well-endowed, and she said she never bought new bras when she was pregnant.  I guess they didn't get so much bigger that she was really uncomfortable.

 

planet-I'm glad you figured some things out with your mom and found a great nanny.  I hope all goes well when W is without you for the whole day.  We were planning on flying to Vegas, but instead we are hoping to go somewhere here in California where we will be closer to a Kaiser hospital and where it is a little warmer.  Like I told mrs, I'm worried the doctor will say no to a road trip because we would be driving through remote areas for a few hours.  It's annoying because I feel fine and haven't had any problems.

 

easttowest-Congrats to your boss!  A baby-friendly office would be great.  I'm sorry DW is not feeling well.  I hope it passes soon.  So excited for your vacation too!  It will be lovely to get away before the baby comes.

 

If anyone needs their information to be updated for due dates or birthdays, please let me know.

post #284 of 539
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Originally Posted by erinTNgirl View Post

Hi guys I was actually on the Queer Conceptions page late last year when cordelia15 and easttowest got their BFP's. I have been so crazy busy with my life and work and the holidays and everything else that I have not had a chance to post on this side. I got my BFP in early October, and I was very scared to tell anyone until my 2nd trimester. But I follow you guys everyday and have been for over a year. So much has changed in 5 months orngtongue.gif

 

Name/Username? erinTNgirl

Who is in your family? Me and DP, diggie dog, and kitty

What pronouns do you and your family members use? she, her, and jr (90% sure it's a he)

If you're pregnant, when are you due? June 23

If you already have kids, tell us two interesting things about each of them. This is our first one. The most interesting thing right now is how (he) wiggles in there!

If you work outside the home (or inside the home at something other than parenting), what do you do? I am a registered nurse in a small hospital in an ICU.

If you stay home with your kids, what do your days tend to look like? I don't have any yet, but I will definitely have to go back to work sadly.

What are your favorite things to do when you're not working/doing the grunt work of parenting? I love to watch movies and hang with DP (she is a bar owner), playing games with friends, reading, cooking, playing with the animals, shopping, and napping :)

 

I am glad to be here and have a community to be involved with. I have so many questions for all of you guys about motherhood!! I know I can find the answers here.

 

Welcome, erin! Congratulations :)

post #285 of 539
Erin, welcome and congrats!

Pokey, how far along will you be? Is there a reason you suspect trouble? I must have missed something.
post #286 of 539
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seraf-I'll be about 28 weeks.  I have a complete placenta previa.  My doctor didn't want me to travel in case I have bleeding so that I can get to the hospital right away.  We cancelled our trip to Vegas.  I have another ultrasound on April 1st which is after the time we were planning on travelling.  We may have to postpone the trip a little.  I haven't even the slightest spotting so it seems a little too much, but I understand that I should play it safe just in case.

post #287 of 539
Ok, I forgot the pevia. If it moves before then will you be clear?
post #288 of 539
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If it moves, I'll be totally fine, but they aren't going to check until April 1st.  That was when they scheduled the next ultrasound.  They wanted to do it about 2 months before my due date.  We were planning on going March 23-26, but maybe we will just do it in April instead.  Nothing to do but wait...

post #289 of 539

Yay, Granite is here! biggrinbounce.gif

 

Yay, Erin is back! wave.gif

 

 

Thanks, everyone, for your thoughts on clothing. I think I'm having a little style anxiety. This uber-casual working from home thing for the last year and a half, coupled with living somewhere I don't really want to be and being a little depressed about it, has meant that my normal public wardrobe hasn't really been up to date and I've put on a few pounds so most of my pre-work-from-home clothes don't fit anyway. I'm going to try that bella band thing but I'm not sure it will work because I'm quite hippy and I hear it rolls easily for women with my body shape. Pokey, thanks for the pants offer and if I were 5 inches shorter I would totally take you up on that! (I'm 5' 8") DW and I are taking a vacation in a few weeks and I want to be able to be comfortable going out for dinner and stuff. I think I'm going to just see what the stores have for me at a decent price, maybe I can pick up a few basic pieces that will work for now and later without going overboard so that I can still feel good on our trip. 

 

Also, fantastic news that I just have to share - DW has been offered and accepted a teaching position back where we want to be living and raising our family! We already own a house there so we just have to notify our tenants and hopefully get my dad to help us make a few improvements before we move back in this summer. OMG I am so relieved to know we are leaving this place and will be settled back where we want to be before this baby arrives. Of course it means I'll be switching doctors/midwives about halfway through my pregnancy, but we'll make it work!

post #290 of 539

Welcome back, Erin! 

 

Sphinxy - I can't remember where you are or if DW already suggested maternity stuff. We went to Old Navy but the store hardly had anything. She ended up getting great prices online from Old Navy and the Gap and you can combine orders since they are part of the same company. If you are lucky enough to have an H&M near you, I found some incredibly cute stuff for DW there. They only go up to an XL, though, and people snatch those up quickly. 

 

E2W - yay for baby friendly work place! We are looking forward to vacation in March/April, too. Boy, do I ever need a vacation. And I better savor it since I'm cancelling my two weeks off in the summer for the best possible reason - to save the time for maternity leave.

 

Seraf - I didn't notice the similarities between Shay and Ari until you posted that old photo! Adorable.

 

AFU - our good news is fully out. We really surprised my brothers and their wives over dinner, but they were excited for us. The big Facebook announce was overwhelmingly sweet. Literally hundreds of excited messages. People at both our jobs are thrilled. It is great to feel loved. The nosy questions are a little hard to deal with and I wish I had a more solid plan of what I was going to say. It is hard to evade direct questions and I have such varying degrees of closeness to so many different co-workers.

 

We had our MFM appointment today for the nuchal screen (ultrasound only, we refused the bloodwork) and to draw blood for the Maternit21. The doctor was super nice, but luckily it doesn't appear we will have to see her again unless any problems develop. Both babies look perfect! She did sort of scare us about trying to go past 38 weeks as apparently there is a brand new study out that shows an elevated rate of still births between weeks 38-40. We were feeling pretty firm about trying to go to term, but we both were happy to hear the other was okay with that change in plan.

 

Oh, and I almost forgot, DW started feeling flutters this week!!! Here are some good profiles of "fetus A" and "fetus B". winky.gif

 

 

post #291 of 539
Looking good Bigfoot! Are you going to find out the sexes? Good to be flexible on your plans, too, and be fully informed! I hadn't heard that about 38 weeks for twins, but I had heard of increased risk of stillbirth for singletons past a certain time - 41 weeks? 42? I am sure you will do what makes sense for you and the babies.
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We do want to find out! We are starting to have anxiety about figuring out two boy names, as we have a long girl list and only one boy name we really love. They said it was too early to tell, although we sure tried to notice anything between the legs when they were looking at the bladders. We could not see anything noteworthy! 

post #293 of 539
Bigfoot, they're adorable. 37 weeks is term, so 38 weeks isn't bad at all.

What a night. The last few hours at least. Soren had a poop blow out that he danced in. I rolled into it. Somehow it got on one of the blankets and Sara's shirt. At this point everyone was stripped, wiped or washed. Sara offered both boys to nurse while I washed. S didn't nurse but pointed at her nipple saying "Uck" yep, somehow when she took off her shirt, she got poop on her nipple. Ewww. Fast forward an hour and the boys took turns puking all over themselves and the bed for a while. We started the night with 3 towels and half a dozen diapers and had to get another batch of both halfway through the night. Good times.
post #294 of 539
Oh Seraf, what a night! I'm so sorry. I hope that today is better!

Hi to everyone else!
post #295 of 539
Oh Seraf! I am so sorry! Sounds awful!
post #296 of 539

Seraf--oh yuck!  Hope you all get to squeeze in some rest today and the worst of it is over!   

 

Bigfoot and Mrs2--beautiful babies!!  And...boys names ARE hard!  

 

Hi Erin and Granite!!!  Welcome back and Welcome!!!!!  joy.gif

 

Planet-- I was never able to nurse in any carrier, I managed a couple of times with a ring sling but found it too uncomfortable...but not nursing I'm a DD/E and nursing I was a J cup.

 

Essenbee--I'm throwing out a big yeahthat.gif to what Starling said...hugs in the meanwhile.  

 

Cananny--gorgeous boyos!!!  Welcome Gage, Finn and August!!!!!  

 

Lise--hope bedrest is going well...I'm guessing Cananny's birth makes yours seem a bit more imminent!  But, keep baking trio!!!

 

KnittingTigers--I hope that work/growing twins/parenting/partnering balance is going okay!  

 

DW is uncomfortable with our singleton--I can only begin to imagine more than one.  But, cranial-sacral therapy has been super helpful for managing her back pain (she sees a cranial academy certified D.O. who specializes in OMT/cranial sacral work).  We keep going back and forth on names...I'm hoping we have a short list for the hospital but even the names on the short list at the moment we're sort of "meh" about.  We're trying to get our ducks in a row--a contractor is coming to do some work in our kitchen today and a few small handyman repairs.  We're listing our old house for sale (and praying it sells soon).  We are also taking a hypnobirthing class and I love it...more on that later!

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Bigfoot, they're adorable. 37 weeks is term, so 38 weeks isn't bad at all.

What a night. The last few hours at least. Soren had a poop blow out that he danced in. I rolled into it. Somehow it got on one of the blankets and Sara's shirt. At this point everyone was stripped, wiped or washed. Sara offered both boys to nurse while I washed. S didn't nurse but pointed at her nipple saying "Uck" yep, somehow when she took off her shirt, she got poop on her nipple. Ewww. Fast forward an hour and the boys took turns puking all over themselves and the bed for a while. We started the night with 3 towels and half a dozen diapers and had to get another batch of both halfway through the night. Good times.

 

Yuck, what a crappy night (bad pun intended). I hope they both feel better soon.

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Bigfoot -girl names are hard for us!  We've had 3 boys names picked for YEARS, but one name dropped out of the running a while back.  We have one girl name, but we don't have ANY middle names, and we need to pick out TWO middle names!  For the boy names, we have both middle names picked out for each of the two first names....  Picking out names with DSp is difficult because he gets offended when I calmly veto a name he likes, but acts disgusted whenever I mention any name I like.

 

wishin -I think I would go crazy if we didn't have 1 full name picked out by the time we went to hospital.....  I would totally be freaking out that the baby would never have a name if we didn't decide before hand!  When I was born, my mother had a list of names, but couldn't decide for 3 days....  All the nurses joked whenever they came in, wondering if I had a name yet.  Eventually she chose a name that wasn't even on the list!

post #299 of 539

Oh my gawd, the poop story. Sounds rough, Seraf. Hopefully you can laugh about it soon. 

post #300 of 539
Names are stressful. A and S2 had names before they were born. O and S after. O was 3 days old before we had his.

Last night was a messy night for sure, but we laughed about it. What else could we do? I read a horrible story yesterday about the kid version of SIDS, so with that in mind, sitting up rocking my babies was not the chore it might have been otherwise. A few loads of laundry is no big deal in the grand scheme of things. I'm really just hoping to keep them hydrated. A baby in my DDC was recently hospitalized after a long bought of GI illness.

We were supposed to move today, but 3 hours in the car with kids who puke without warning sounds like a bad plan. One very bright side is that Shay tells me when he needs to poop, so his diarrhea is hitting the toilet.
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