Queer, Pregnant, and Parenting--February and March 2013! - Page 17

[Tourneymama]

Bigfoot~~I can tell you the sex of baby A there if you want to know! :) Okay, I just read on another post that I must have skipped that you do want to find out, so anyhow Baby A is a *Girl * I am not sure about baby B, pic isn't the clearest. There is a "Nub" therory that proves to be about 94% accurate between 11-13.6 weeks, the further along the more accurate. I have learned so much about it and it is very intresting and pretty cool :) Go to www.Ingender.com and to Gender Prediction, then to Ultrasound section. They have U/S techs who will tell you by these ultrasounds. And by knowing what I learned there, I guessed my DD and my DS both correctly myself! :)

Cananny~CONGRATS!! The boys are just as adorable as can be!! I am glad the c-sec wasn't as scary as you anticipated!! Hope they all get strong and big enough to get to go home asap!! :)

We are 22w 4 days now....Time seems to be flying which is great! Growth ultrasound in 11 days then U/s every 4 weeks since she is high risk...LOVE our doctors this time around, could not be any happier with who we chose!! (Which was just on a quick whim to get her seen asap when we got a + test!!) Totally in awe over this practice!

Also, is there a FB group or do you all just add each other on FB? I'd like to either jon or add whoever would like to be added on my page!! :~) Let me know by PM if you want to, and send me your info so I can send a request?

Hope everyone else is doing well....

Edited by Tourneymama - 3/1/13 at 4:09pm

[seraf]

CaNanny, it's so awesome that they're latching already! I'm glad you love nursing. I think mixed feedings is a great goal.

[bigfoot]

Whoa, Tourney... that is super interesting! How can you tell the parts are just not in focus? They looked at both babies' bladders and we tried to figure out if there was anything there. I thought I saw more of something on A than B, but I couldn't see anything obvious. We saw a video of a 12 week ultrasound where it was distinctly a boy. Who knows. We will have more information soon.

Edited by bigfoot - 3/13/13 at 7:33pm

[Tourneymama]

Bigfoot~Thanks for the link!! :) As far as the baby gender thing, it also has to do with the spine curve/skull shape and stuff. If the angle of the spine is 30* one way or the other, it tells you right there but the baby has to be in perfect position to get accurate spine measurements! If you look at your top u/s picture, down to the right lower and center, you see the straight solid dark white line? That indicates girl b/c of the line and the way it lays ;) Boys point upwards 30* or more angled. Hard to explain. I will have to put pics on here to kind of show the difference instead of explaining...As far as the u/s video that you mentioned seeing distinct boy at 12 weeks, I wouldn't trust them totally. Until after week 14, boys and girls can look almost identical. Girl bits are swollen and can appear as a penis/scrotum when in fact it is just swollen girl labia/clitoris. After week 14 the swelling goes down and it starts to become much easier to distinguish the two! Boys can have 3 lines (They usually say if you see 3 lines=girl) but usually with boys the middle line is almost always longer than the other two lines, whereas a girl, all 3 lines are fairly even....

[cordelia15]

tourney mom, that is so interesting!  and also btw I keep thinking that I never responded to your thread of KD name, didn't know if it was in this link or another but thanks for sharing your story and I am sorry for your poppy.  And am interested in what you come up with for names.   

bigfoot. . thanks for the link to the FB group, I want to join it too!  

[planet]

Thank you all of you who said kind things re: Wylie's first little accident. I appreciate hearing that I'm not the only one! I am still recovering. As one of you said above, it was most definitely harder on me than on him!

Cananny, thinking of you so much! You are doing an awesome job. I am so excited for you to be home with them soon! Thank goodness they are doing well. Hugs to you during this challenging time.

[Sphinxy]

Ok people, please talk to me about your experiences with sciatic pain and what in the name of all that is holy that I can do about it. 

[Tourneymama]

Thank you so much Cordelia!! ((Hugs)) As far as KD names, we are still stuck as of now...KD thought up one really cute one, in a different language but it has Papa for the first part of it and we were kinda trying avoid that. We all (My wife and myself along with the older teen kids) call him "Papa Bear" a lot and when we had a memorial walk for our DD's stillbirth, we had t-shirts made up and mine & Aprils said "Mom" on them and his said "Papa Bear" But anyhow, I dunno something will come along I am sure!! I just definetly cannot get past the "uncle" thing...Anyway, if this is the hardest part about having the baby then I am blessed because it is a minor issue, lol

[granite]

Thanks, all, for the warm welcome! And I'm glad that more of you will be part of the FB group too.

mrsandmrs, I don't think repeat betas are standard practice in our health care system here... But I'm going in to the clinic for an ultrasound at 7 weeks, which is pretty soon! Thanks for using your "red rover" magic to call me over to QP&P so quickly!

And to you as well as bigfoot, hurrah for a great ultrasound! Thanks for sharing the pics.

cananny, I'm in awe, like others have said... Look at those babies! You're incredible! Congrats to you and your DP.

Planet, I like what you wrote about being glad you and DP took leave together even though it is a financial burden. I'm hoping my DP can arrange vacation time for our kid's first month or two, so that we can get used to our new family arrangement. Glad to hear the new childcare is working out! Sorry to hear of the head bonk.

Welcome back, Erin! I remember when you got your BFP! You and easttowest too, and all that early, early testing... LOL...

That's so great that your boss is going to be having a baby too, easttowest: I hope you're right, and it leads to family-friendly changes in your workplace.,

Hi Pokey! I'm feeling pretty good, thanks for asking! And totally stoked about being pregnant, which buoys me through the moments when I'm otherwise overwhelmed or tired. I'm sorry to hear your vacation's been delayed... I'm sending placenta-moving vibes from up here in Canada...

Sphinxy, I'm sorry to hear you're suffering... Unfortunately, I don't know anything about sciatic pain. Hopefully someone here does. Congrats on the upcoming move!

Good luck with your immediate moving, seraf... Hope the kids are feeling better!

And AmandaHope, I know just what you mean... I'm so used to the slower pace of life on the QC forum, this place is crazy by comparison! It *is* hard to keep up!

AFM: As I mentioned above, my clinic is having us in on March 19th for a 7 week (approx...?) ultrasound... And that also happens to be our 2nd wedding anniversary, so FX we see a good strong heartbeat. Other than that, I've been working very long shifts that go from afternoon to early morning, and it's impossible to know if it's that or pregnancy that's making me tired, emotional, achy, nauseous, and forgetful!

[pokeyAC]

sphinxy- I have never had sciatica as far as I know, but yoga might help.  I would also recommend chiropractic.  My chiro specializes in the Webster Technique, it's all about pregnant women and keeping your pelvis and everything in line so you feel better and have a better delivery.  DW recommends ice and lying on your side with a pillow between your legs.  I hope you feel better soon.

[Sphinxy]

Thanks, granite and pokey. After observing my symptoms some more throughout the day yesterday, I am wondering if maybe it is something else. I jumped to sciatica because the immediate symptoms matched up with what I was reading online, and it can be a common experience for pregnant women at any stage. But after I rested and some of the all-over throbbing stopped, I realized that the origin of the pain was inside my hip - right where I had arthroscopic surgery 12 years ago to repair a labral tear. I am wondering whether the skeletal remodel that happens to a pregnant woman's body is either reaggravating the injury, or maybe just aggravating the old scar tissue in some way. Regardless, the pain is unbearable. There is no comfortable position for sleep. Walking or sitting with my legs straight out in front of me is ok, but most twisting, bending, and any pressure on my hip is just awful. I'm sorry I've just been a big ball of complaints around these parts lately. I'm starting to feel pretty helpless. I've got a call in to my midwife/ob's office that should be returned tomorrow, and we'll start there with medical treatment options. I've also identified a good acupuncturist nearby who I might try as well. I've really wanted to use some arnica cream (traumeel brand) on my hip to help keep any inflammation down, but you know there is just such conflicting information online about the use of these kinds of remedies, especially in the first trimester, that I feel like I should wait until I can talk to my docs tomorrow. 

Anyway, thanks for letting me rant and whine. 

[planet]

Sphinxy, sorry about your pain. I had sciatica around week 20 or so and it was excruciating. Sounds like your pain may be related to something else. Either way, I hope you figure it out and get some relief SOON! I definitely recommend acupuncture (with a practitioner who specializes in pregnancy)! It helped me a lot with my pain. Also helpful and 100% safe is craniosacral therapy. Very gentle and good for realignment, etc. may you feel better soon!

[KnittingTigers]

Hi everyone! Sphinxy, sorry about your pain. I have had terrible sciatica, and not much relieves it. Hope you get some answers and advice!

We had our two showers this weekend and they were fabulous. We received many helpful gifts, but more importantly, got to spend time with friends and celebrate. My best friend from high school drove 11 hours to attend. We stayed up way too late hanging out with her and her husband and catching up. So perfect.

Will upload a couple pics tomorrow.

[esenbee2]

We announced it to my parents last night....  They didn't have much to say.  I was expecting negative comments, which we didn't get, so that was nice.  We came over and had chinese take out with my sister (who already knew).  I replaced the fortune cookies from the restaurant with ones that I had custom made.

This was also the Facebook announcement picture to all of our family and friends.  Had a lot of positive comments.  But had one comment from my cousin (male cousin, so even more awkward) asking how that works....  I understand curiosity, but really, there should be a little more tact demonstrated.  It's really not any of anyone's business!  I ended up deleting the comment so others didn't get the same idea of asking questions over the public-ness of facebook!  And I messaged him an simple, watered down, educational little note about insemination options and that we chose an anonymous donor from a bank.  Who knows what ppl would come up with on their own, and I rather stay out of ppl's imaginations, so that is why I chose to tell him, even though it was quite uncomfortable.  But sticking with an educational approach made it a little easier and less awkward sounding.  This is a cousin that lives out of state and I have only seen him once in my life, like 15 years ago, so that also made it a little easier.

[mrsandmrs]

esenbee, those fortune cookies are so cute. how are things going with DSp? 

Sphinxy -- are you sleeping with a pillow between your thighs? that can help with alignment of your hips/back. also, i have found a lot of relief in certain yoga positions, especially pigeon pose. acupuncture is a great idea, too. i hope your doctors can help with more ideas. when all else fails, i believe in unisom.... hmm, maybe my obsession with unisom is getting a little unhealthy. 

granite - i am so excited for your 7 week scan! happy anniversary, too. 

tourney -- thanks for taking a guess at the baby bits. i hope you're right. we need at least one girl because i think chances of us coming up with a second boy name are hovering around zero. we have read about 10 baby name books from the library. FX.

I have my first acupuncture appointment tonight since i've been pregnant. I went a LOT when we were TTC but then my insurance changed and i have had approximately 1 million doctor appts so i haven't been able to get back in. i really miss my acupuncturist! we have been emailing and she is soooo excited about our twinz. still waiting on the results of the maternit21, but not feeling very anxious about it.... i would like to know if there is  Y chromosome or not, but I can be patient for that. i started feeling baby flutters more over the last week, which i guess means it's real and not just in my imagination. i am simultaneously really hungry + totally averse to most food, so that's challenging. oh yeah, and i slept about 16 hours on saturday! the kiddo was at a school thing and bigfoot was working. it was fabulous. 

[esenbee2]

mrs^2 -things with DSp are going smoothly.  The root of the problem seems to be from DSp feeling pushed out regarding decisions, but he also made things so difficult, jumping to arguing and anger and all that in response to his feelings.  He has a problem with that sort of thing.  It's always been an issue, but rarely has gotten this extreme.

Oh, and I am soooo jealous of that 16 hours of sleep you got!

[KnittingTigers]

esenbee, love that announcement! very cute. I'm glad things are calm right now.

mrs&mrs, I too am jealous of all that sleep. I seriously want to send my family away for an overnight or two and sleep the entire time they're gone. Huh, maybe I'll suggest that to DP...

A couple of pics from our shower this weekend, which I may or may not delete later depending on how privacy oriented I'm feeling:

[Sphinxy]

Thank you, planet, knitting, and m&m! I am feeling loads better today and I know the well wishes from everyone here helped. 

Cute idea on the fortune cookies, esenbee! I am also impressed by how calmly you educated your cousin. I seriously would have been tempted to tell him to just go google it. I understand that some people are just unexposed and unaware, but seriously, how intrusive! 

mrs - Oh, we are so on the same page! Yes, I always sleep with a thin pillow between my legs because I have wide hips and have had pain in the past even before being pregnant. I've been SO restless lately that the night before the pain started, I tried a much thicker pillow, which probably contributed to the pain. Well call me goldilocks because last night I tried a third one that fit just right! Also I made DW pick up some Unisom at the store yesterday because I was terrified of not getting any sleep yet again. Took half of one last night and had the most incredible sleep of this pregnancy yet. Also bought myself a snoogle online that arrived today, it looks kind of intense but I'm open to trying that too. DW is eyeing it so if I don't like it I'll let her give it a go. I got about 10 hours last night and thought that was good, but wow - 16! That sounds amazing. 

Thanks for sharing the pics, knitting! So Cute!

ETA - In case anyone is in need of a good laugh, DW just said to me, "so, this might not be the right time to ask... but how long were you planning to wait before getting pregnant again?" Me: 

Edited by Sphinxy - 3/4/13 at 6:56pm

[Tourneymama]

Mrsandmrs, no problem ;) I understand you on the name thing, we have such an easy time finding girl names that we LOVE, but finding a boys name is incredibly tedious!! Still working on ours. Shouldn't be so hard huh? Lol

Cute idea on the fortune cookies!!! Very cute!!

[outdoorsy]

Opposite issue here -- we have several boy names we like but are having trouble with girl names.