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This is just a drive by post to say Finn is coming home tomorrow!!!! Our smallest baby has done the best! He's eating a lot and just hit the 4 lb mark today !!!

im ready for all to b home and it saddens me that gage and August are still here.. The drs think by end if next week....

ill post pics later they will b 3 weeks old Sunday :)

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So exciting cananny!
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Thank you so much for all the responses about the pinching!  Seraf, I especially liked hearing how you pretend like the tiny hand is a telephone!  It was really helpful to hear how you can make restraining the hand a little more "fun."  :)  W doesn't have access to the other boob; he's been squeezing & pinching the boob he's nursing from.  I always say things like, "No, we don't pinch people's bodies!" and "I'm not okay with being pinched!" and try to stop him, but it's often a losing battle.  I should check out some of those nursing necklaces.  I tried putting a toy on my chest to help entertain him, but he knocked it out of the way so he could pinch.  Well, at least I know it's normal! :)

 

Mrs & Bigfoot, congratulations!

 

PNW folks; I'm in Seattle & would love to meet up with y'all!

 

On taxes, UGH.  I need to learn more, but whenever I start reading stuff about taxes, my eyes glaze over.

 

Hello to all of you! xoxo

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enjoy!!!

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Babies!!! They look so good, congratulations on taking Finn home! I hope August and Gage are close behind. Love the names by the way. smile.gif
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Carmen—ugh. I hope your uterus gets past it quickly—that sounds awful. I’d vote for the airport drop-off. Now that you can’t get past security without a ticket I find that when people come inside with me it’s just a lot of awkward line-standing until you get into security and then you stand in a line while they leave. Maybe your family could drop you off and then immediately go do something fun together to make it less sad for your DD that you’re going on a trip?

Erin—yep! Those are sleep sacks. We started using them more when Edie managed to turn around completely underneath a blanket one night. She was so cute with her little feet sticking out, but we were afraid she’d smother, so the sleep sacks get a lot more use now.

AHope—glad it’s going well, if slowly! We’ve been having trouble reminding ourselves that we want her to sleep all night—I get this weird thing where I’ll decide I miss her and have to force myself not to go and get her to nurse just because I feel like it. The whole process is so weird, in some ways…

Granite—Hopefully some of that will settle down and you’ll start feeling better soon!

Bigfoot—Definitely a lid. We have a feral cat buddy who hangs out around our yard, so we will definitely do a lid.

Cananny—Yay, Finn! I bet his brothers are right on his tail! Oh, goodness, I just got to the pictures. The one of them all together so tiny is killing me over here. So sweet!

AFM—so, DP has decided to start conversations about when we’re going to start trying for another baby. It’s all a little overwhelming. My plan had always been to wait until Edie was at least a year old, so I wasn’t expecting it, but with two cousins both expecting at the same time I guess it’s been on her mind. She wants to do an ICI round before we go back to do IVF again, just to see what happens. I think we’ll do it, since she’s so enthusiastic about the idea, but I’m finding the whole thing a little overwhelming. It won’t be until July, anyway, but with a whole house renovation to be done between then and now it feels like that’s basically next weekend as far as I’m concerned. So, trying not to freak out too much.
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AFM—so, DP has decided to start conversations about when we’re going to start trying for another baby. It’s all a little overwhelming. My plan had always been to wait until Edie was at least a year old, so I wasn’t expecting it, but with two cousins both expecting at the same time I guess it’s been on her mind. She wants to do an ICI round before we go back to do IVF again, just to see what happens. I think we’ll do it, since she’s so enthusiastic about the idea, but I’m finding the whole thing a little overwhelming. It won’t be until July, anyway, but with a whole house renovation to be done between then and now it feels like that’s basically next weekend as far as I’m concerned. So, trying not to freak out too much.

Whoa!! That's incredibly exciting, and also overwhelming, for sure.  Who will be carrying this time around?  I'm thrilled about all the Chicago area queer mama babies to come in the next year or two.  And as for the sleeping thing, I completely understand about missing her at night. I would, too! She is such a love.  

 

Cananny: Congrats on Finn's imminent arrival home! Hope his brothers follow suit shortly.  How are you doing? How are you adjusting to the idea of having them all to yourself? How's the milk situation? 

 

AFU: Though I hate to jinx myself by saying it, night weaning is going shockingly well.  Even with a milk cold, Lilah didn't cry at all last night.  Each time I tell her "milkies are sleeping," she just rolls over, snuggles into me, flops around a bit to get comfy, and goes back to sleep. I can hardly believe it. A week ago, I would never have believed it.  The resilience and adaptability of young children is mind boggling.  

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CocoBird: Due June 11, 2013

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Thread Starter 

Welcome.gif CocoBird!  I added your due date to the first page.  June is going to be a very busy month around here!  Tell us more about yourself.  Who is in your family?  Is this your first baby?  How are things going?

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Cananny, love the pictures. They are so dear. It's so exciting that Finn will be home soon!

Welcome, cocobird!

Isa, wow that is exciting, and overwhelming! The idea of more than one baby overwhelms me, too! :-)

Amanda, I've been following yr adventures in night weaning closely. I imagine we'll eventually be in yr shoes and it won't be easy! W loves his night nursing...

The dreaded time has come...W has almost outgrown the magical rock n play. We have no idea where to lay him down for a nap now!? The rocking helps him so much. Dang. Just has his 6 month check up and his lovely ped recommended sleep training. I told her w weren't going to consider it at this time.she was understanding but had no other helpful solutions for our night issues. I felt so overwhelmed and frustrated, like it has to be either all or nothing! Gah!
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Thanks Pokey :) My wife and I are very excited!! We already have two girls--10 and 15, who she had prior to our being together. I've been part of the family for four years. While the girls are my girls now, this is my first BABY. smile.gif

 

We are having a little girl, the due date is June 11. I am pretty sure we decided on the first name Amadora. The middle name is still up in the air! For the most part, I've been enjoying pregnancy very much! I love feeling her move around everyday--gets the hiccups almost everyday now, too! I'm overwhelmed with love for this little being. A bit earlier in my pregnancy, my ten year old daughter got something called fifths disease, or parvovirus B19. It is a very common rash that kids get, and not harmful to them or almost anyone....except fetuses. I got tested and it turns out I did get fifths disease from her (about half adults are immune, but not me). Sometimes the baby can get fifths from the mama, and usually the baby is still okay. Sometimes, though, babies develop anemia, and if this gets severe enough, may need a blood transfusion. SO, we have been having an ultrasound every week since week 23 and will continue to until week 33. So far, she is healthy, and this has just meant extra ultrasound pictures for us! The last two weeks her blood flow has sped up a bit (if it keeps speeding up that would show that she is becoming anemic) but a lot of babies who get parvo have this go back to normal before they become anemic. So that is what we are hoping for. I've been a bit worried lately but trying not to be too worried, and more excited and happy and focusing on her health. I've been lighting a candle for her and praying for her in my way as well. stillheart.gif

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Oh no coco! How scary! Hoping the best for ya!
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joy.gifcananny!!! i am so excited for Finn to sleep in his own home!! congratulations!! i am sure his brothers will be joining him soon. joy.gif

 

welcome coco! 

 

i think i know 5 people who are nightweaning right now. it's weird how those things go in waves. one of my friends just sent me an email that the first week was so horrible but now everything is great! the resilience of kids (and parents) is amazing. 

 

i would be stoked about a bellingham meet-up. my passport recently expired so i would need time to renew it if the meet-up were on the other side. we're in oly. 

 

planet - do they make bigger magic seats? or ... maybe a car seat on a vibrating washing machine? 

 

we're 15 weeks now! whoo! we started meeting doulas around town. i was worried i wouldn't connect with anyone and we would end up doula-less, but i really liked the first one we met, so i am hopeful that we'll find a good match. we even found a couple who have attended twin births, which is important to me. i know all births are different special snowflakes, but there's something reassuring about someone having seen that before and all the accompanying medical issues. i get the impression that we are really "interesting" clients, since we're queer, having twins, my wife is inducing lactation, and so on. 

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Pokey: Can you add me to the pregnant list? We're (tentatively, nervously, hopefully) expecting a baby around November 24.

Hi, everyone! wave.gif
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Pokey: Can you add me to the pregnant list? We're (tentatively, nervously, hopefully) expecting a baby around November 24.

Hi, everyone! wave.gif

Oh, November 24 would be a great birthday! Congratulations!!
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Cananny, I'm so happy for you and DP having little Finn at home! I hope the others soon follow... Absolutely loving the photos, thanks for sharing.

 

Wow, prettyisa, no kidding, having that conversation so soon would overwhelm me too! Though I guess it's also a good sign, that she's stoked on your new lives as parents, right? I wasn't around here when you were first TTC, so am wondering: Why only one ICI then straight to IVF, instead of trying IUI?

 

Glad to hear night weaning has been so successful, AmandaHope... I'm sure it's a big relief for you.

 

Welcome.gifCocobird! FX for your babe with the anemia situation... I like your positive attitude, and hope for the best.

 

Oh no, planet, losing W's preferred sleeping spot sounds tough! How about a hammock-type thing? Wouldn't take up the space that a crib would, though you'd need either a big stand for it or to put holes in the ceiling/walls, which may not work if you're renting. Or a doorway clamp-mount? IDK... Also, I guess there's the cost... I just looked them up right now and all seem pretty pricey, more than I was expecting... Good luck!

 

Yay for 15 weeks, mrsandmrs! Nausea showing any sign of letting up? Yes, I would guess that a doula would indeed see your situation as "interesting", LOL... What made you like the first doula?

 

Hurrah, Escher! Welcome back! Will you be joining the November DDC? I've looked at it a few times, but not participated yet... Still trying to gauge if it's my cup of tea or not...

 

seraf, I love your enthusiasm for the November birthdays!

 

AFM: Someone posted on here ages ago about being pregnant and feeling nauseous and getting really into bagels w/cream cheese...? Anyway, that's me right now! Every construction site I work at (my job sees me move around almost every day) is close to either a Timmy's or a Bucky's or some cafe where my salvation lies: BagelLove4Evah!!! Considering I was nearly gluten-free until pregnancy, this is a big change, LOL. I'm rolling with it.

 

Hmmmmm, hard to say where to have a PNW meet up... Not my island, that's for sure, cuz ferries are a hassle and I wouldn't want to subject anyone to that. Bellingham is great location-wise! Anyone here live there or know it well? Should we think about when Pride is in various places, and look at gathering then? I know Vancouver has their Pride on the August long weekend...

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Quick post on my phone...

Granite, that was (and still is) me - bagels and cream cheese kick ass! I too was very limited on the gluten/wheat products pre-pregnancy, but now I'm loving it. Though over the last week my love of roast potatoes and/or french fries may be even stronger. Either way, it's a carb-fest over here!

Congrats, Cananny! And thanks for the pics. SO CUTE.

Welcome, Coco!!

Do I dare say it? I think I'm getting some of my energy back. I did nap twice today, but they were brief and I got some chores done - big victory! Going offline for a week. DW and I are headed out on our final pre-baby vacation tomorrow. I SO need this!!!
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Hi Everyone,

Sphinxy: Hooray for more energy! I hope you have a great vacation!

Granite: I haven't decided if I'll get very involved with the November DDC. With our son, I sort of tried to be part of both the October and the November clubs (he was due October 27 and I was convinced he was going to come late), and it ended up just being too much and I wasn't really involved in either group. I know some people here (Seraf? Starling?) have been more involved in DDCs and have found them useful, so maybe I'll try it again this time. When are you due? It must be early November?

Seraf: I thought you would like that due date. orngbiggrin.gif 5% chance she/he will actually show up that day!

MrsandMrs & Bigfoot: Congratulations on 15 weeks! I'm glad that you're finding some good possible doulas.

Welcome, Coco! I'll keep my fingers crossed that your little one continues to be delightfully healthy. Amadora is a beautiful name.

Planet: It's so annoying that peds almost always don't have any suggestions for sleep other than sleep training. I hope you figure out another (rocking?) solution soon!

Amandahope: I've been following your night-weaning story closely, since it is something we regularly consider. I'm glad to hear that it seems to be getting easier!

Isa: I remember how crazy it felt to start thinking about a second child. It still feels a little bit crazy (we already HAVE a baby!), but now that our little guy is 16 months it feels much more doable. I'm glad now that we started charting when it still felt totally insane, since if we had waited I think that would have pushed us later than we really wanted to be. Good luck with getting started with thinking through all that!

Cananny: Congratulations! What beautiful babies you have.

AFM: My wife is going in for the second beta tomorrow, so I have my fingers very firmly crossed that we'll see appropriate doubling. fingersx.gif
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Cananny ... Those babies are magnificent.  And so are you to have brought them here safe and sound!  

 

Planet ... How about a hammock?  I've seen *gorgeous* ones that can be used for quite some time.  This is the one I've seen most often.  If we had the cash and a good place to put it, I would've had one from the get go!  That, and a bakfiets bike.  Sigh.  My two top dream items.  Haven't scored either one.  Travel always gets our money first, so not really complaining.

 

Coco ... That is worrisome about the fifths disease.  My daughter had it when I was pregnant with my son, but all was well.  Congratulations about your baby girl!  A house full of women!  Grand!

 

escher ... That's so exciting!!! Congratulations!!!  As for DDC, I'm still in touch with a handful of folks from E's DDC, but not at all with any from H's.  I think I was more attached to E's DDC because we lived very rurally and it was my first pregnancy.  With H, I couldn't be bothered.  I still was involved during my pregnancy with H, and liked connecting with other folks who were going through their pregnancies at the same time, but I didn't bond meaningfully with anyone there outside of our common factor of being pregnant, which is bond enough to enjoy a DDC.  It depends on the tone of the DDC too ... if you have a bunch of homophobes, not so much fun.  If you've got a bunch of smart, funky, crunchy peeps, right on!

 

PNW meet-up ... I'm in!  I'm always roadtripping with the kids, so I'm happy to roadtrip in the direction of a meet-up.  Especially if there is a nice state park nearby that we can park ourselves at for a few nights.

 

AFU:  Our plans to adopt our neighbour's foster daughter have been tanked.  We jumped through as many hoops as we could and then finally got a meeting with a permanent placement social worker.  They won't give her to us for a number of reasons.  Lots of "perfectly good" and vetted people are already waiting.  We can't complete the mandated MCFD education component in time, even though we are willing to pay for it privately, as well as the homestudy.  Those I could've pushed and cajolled about, but ultimately, the have a policy not to "twin" children.  As in, they won't place her with us because she is the same age as H.  Such a shitty system.  She and H are awesome together, and I understand the concerns (comparison, favouritism, etc) but I know that we'd be the best place for her anyway.   There is no way around that one.  It's so sad to me to think that we've known and loved her since birth, but MCFD will place her with "nice waiting people" before letting her become a member of a kick-ass family who would go to the ends of the earth for her.  Also, her specific worker doesn't like us because we've been so vocal (diplomatically so, but still loud) about our intentions.  And she's the one who gets to decide.  Sigh.  

We've been approved to do respite for her, so we're hoping that we can still  be a part of her life that way, and continue to do respite for her after she's been placed. 

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Pokey: Can you add me to the pregnant list? We're (tentatively, nervously, hopefully) expecting a baby around November 24.

Hi, everyone! wave.gif

 

Wow! That was fast! Welcome back escher! I think we were joy.gifon this thread together for awhile when pregnant with #1 weren't we? Congratulations!! 

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