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Carmen: Good luck with your midwife appointment! It's amazing that you're at 20 weeks already.

Baby.fatty: We're currently travelling right now, and I think something that is oddly reassuring to me about travelling in early pregnancy is that if something goes wrong there is nothing anyone can do about it anyway, so it doesn't really matter if you are at home or away. Being nauseous away from home is harder. Can you bring whatever supplies (extra protein, ginger tea, sea-bands, vitamin B6, etc.) you would use if you did get nauseous? Hopefully you'll feel great at least until you get home from the vacation!

Planet: Our little guy needed frequent naps for a long time, and like you're doing we found it best to just try to accomodate his schedule as much as possible. At around 11 months he finally went down to two regular naps a day and it made scheduling things a lot easier.

Cananny: They are so cute! Hooray for them all being home! Hopefully you can do and visit your nurses once the babies are older.

OMOM: Happy Birthday, Sage! She sounds like an impressive climber.

Sphinxy: How did the scan go? I hope you're not having any more puking!

Seraf: The toaster! Another great toddler toy! :P
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carmen ... That's great to hear that S is on the mend! Nothing to report is nice, that means it's all as it should be.

 

omom ... I meant to say happy first birthday to Sage!  And to you too!  

 

As for climbing, I feel like a first-time mom in this regard.  E never climbed, and is still well behind most of her peers when it comes to physical adroitness and confidence, so she's never been a dare devil.  H on the other hand, is more than half monkey, I am quite sure.  

I'm still applying the whole Continuum Concept to H's bold exploration of the world, even though I cringe at time.  As in, he can explore it at his own pace and skill as much as is possible and I'm not going to be surprised or over react with every bump and fall and wail.

What does that look like?

I never help him figure out a physical challenge, so that he's always 'working' right on target.  As in, he's learned that if he can't do it, he won't do it (yet).

I don't hover unless he's above a safe fall height.

I'm ready to deal with a broken arm at some point.

When he falls, I don't even gasp.  I don't admonish either, or fuss over him, or even check if he's okay so long as he appears to be.  At the park, this gets some looks from other parents, who want to rush in and 'help' him, but I really believe that he's 'working' and figuring stuff out and unless he needs First Aid or wants to come to me for a comforting cuddle or to nurse, which he does sometimes.  Almost more often for the things he's attempted to do, but can't, rather than the tumbles.  He seeks out the comfort more for frustration, I think.

I use low, growly "uh-uh" sounds to warn him away from what I think is too dangerous and save the 'no!' for when I need to pull out the big guns, so to speak.

When I want him to steer clear of something, I physically lift him up and replace him somewhere safer (from the 15ft climbing net to the sandbox, for instance) and will stay with him for a minute to engage him fully in the new and safer activity so that he buys into it, if that makes sense.
At home, we redirect him from climbing on the table and up shelves.  I pluck him off and set him in front of something more interesting with a "uh-uh, not for climbing" added for good measure. 

We let him go crazy on the stairs as early as he could.

We let him loose outside as often as possible (we were at the park from 10-3pm yesterday! Yay spring!) so that he gets naturally worn out.

Now for my last and possibly most woo-woo part, we avoid food colouring and refined sugar as much as possible.  i notice that when he has either, he's a much wilder beast.

Just like the tribal kids intrinsically *know* not to step into the fire or jump into the raging river, he's learning our family boundaries too.  

Happy climbing!  It's pretty neat to what a kid who is SO physically intuitive!  And what a challenge for me to trust in his abilities and let the falls happen.

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So, unlike H, S is a little big for his britches. He recently tried to climb on the table but the bench was too far away. He had a couple of sizable boo boos. The older kids are allowed to climb certain things at playgrounds but not the outside of structures that smaller kids could access without skill. So they can go up a pole or swing set but not the outside of a slide. I was huge on climbing doorways and my sister was once plucked from the top of the refrigerator.
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Quick posting from phone- I also have a non-climber. I am sure we will be challenged by whatever is currently gestating!

35 weeks on Thursday! Loving these milestones.

I tested positive for Group B Strep. Those on FB have heard my grumblings. Here I'll just say that I'm annoyed, and not looking forward to an IV in labor, or arguments with the hospital staff about my decision to refuse one.

All else is fine. I am officially huge. Yesterday I walked from my car to my office, and noticed a few people staring. When I got to my office and looked in the mirror, I discovered that my shirt had ridden up, exposing a four inch strip of belly. Awesome. Even my maternity clothes don't fit anymore.

Also, I fed my kid cereal for dinner tonight. Parenting fail. Oh well. My mom arrives tomorrow to drive us crazy/make sure we don't eat cereal for dinner. I think it will actually be really helpful.

Hope everyone is well. Sorry no personals. Thinking of you all.
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Quick posting from phone- I also have a non-climber. I am sure we will be challenged by whatever is currently gestating!

35 weeks on Thursday! Loving these milestones.

I tested positive for Group B Strep. Those on FB have heard my grumblings. Here I'll just say that I'm annoyed, and not looking forward to an IV in labor, or arguments with the hospital staff about my decision to refuse one.

All else is fine. I am officially huge. Yesterday I walked from my car to my office, and noticed a few people staring. When I got to my office and looked in the mirror, I discovered that my shirt had ridden up, exposing a four inch strip of belly. Awesome. Even my maternity clothes don't fit anymore.

Also, I fed my kid cereal for dinner tonight. Parenting fail. Oh well. My mom arrives tomorrow to drive us crazy/make sure we don't eat cereal for dinner. I think it will actually be really helpful.

Hope everyone is well. Sorry no personals. Thinking of you all.

 

Cereal for dinner isn't the end of the world...I'd still vote for you for parent of the year winky.gif

 

 

Afm: My midwife appointment went great today...I really liked the midwife (she is the only one I hadn't met yet). Heart rate is great, I'm measuring a bit big - 23ish weeks. I consistently measured 2 weeks ahead with DD too so I'm not terribly worried. Big u/s tomorrow and DP *just* found out she isn't working (which sucks) but she can make it to the appointment now love.gif

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Carmen, tomorrow! And your DP can come! That's awesome.

Tiger, cereal is loaded with 12 vitamins and minerals. If it can count as a meal at one end of the day, why not the other?
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starling - thanks :) !!! I have gates on the stairs and left them open today. She loves stairs. and you know what, she gets them. I still want to be within reach when she is heading to them because she is still small (just a year). But she appreciated more climbing challenges. She still climbed many other things - and that is fine. I will think about boundaries and starting to set them. I think my main thing is needing to create some okay climbing spaces for her.

 

Carmen - we do have an indoor play space but its too expensive to go to often. but maybe there are other places too. I'm going to look around :)

 

I wonder what I can make or put together that would be a suitable challenge.

 

Carmen - happy U/S tomorrow and YEAH that your whole family is going to be there. I'm so excited for you all.

 

Seraf - my grandma told me today that my uncle was a huge climber. he would climb kitchen cabinets. he started climbing at 9 months too. runs in the family i guess! but good to know. If I'm ever really stumped on where Sage is I'll check the top of the fridge :)

 

Knitting - I'm sorry you are dealing with GBS.

 

AFM - tonight we went out for dinner and weren't asked if it was two bills or one. I love that. Recognized as a family right away. Not our waiter was probably queer... but still. it was nice :)

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LOL, as I've been too nauseous to cook much lately, it's my DP who's been eating cereal for dinner around here! She prefers that to cooking, and I prefer to drink my nut/fruit/veg smoothies anyway... So yeah, here's hoping those vitamins & minerals will sustain DP through this rough patch.

Carmen, I'm glad you'll have your DP with you at that appt afterall.

Knitting, I'm sorry about the GBS positive result, and the tough decisions that come from it... You're almost there, though! Today my shirt rode up over my already-expanding belly as I was working on top of a ladder, which gave an eyeful to the plumber working just below me; embarassment, I hear you.

I was a climber as a kid, though mostly of trees... DP and I have talked about putting in a small bouldering wall in for the kids; wouldn't that be fun?

Thank you all so much for you supportive thoughts and suggestions for my concerns at my job: I'm still researching, and figuring out a plan. Sorry for the driveby post... I'm reading and cheering you all on!
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nak, but i've seen bunkbeds with rock climbing walls instead of ladders. i could never climb anything, but i think they look reallycool!
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Thanks everyone for the healthy thoughts. I haven't puked since Saturday, but the nausea has been wicked and the gross burping continues. Omom, I do think heat definitely played a role. Seraf, definitely considered that it could have been an unrelated bug, but it just doesn't feel like that. So probably a confluence of heat and travel and pregnancy. My appetite is coming back really slowly and I haven't been able to touch dairy yet. I swear, this pregnancy isn't just growing my baby, it's turning me into my baby. I cry randomly, I'm a fussy sleeper, I need to eat on a schedule or else I get cranky, and often need DW to rub my back to help me burp. Sorry to be negative, I'm mostly intending to be sarcastic. One day at a time...

 

Sorry about the GBS, knitting. Totally frustrating. 

 

On climbing - no kids of my own yet but this is still a fun topic for me. My older sister - very cautious. Me, walking independently at 9 months and climbing everything. Same pattern with my nephews. My parents always joked that they can't wait to see my chasing a younger version of me, but we'll see, maybe my first will continue the cautious trend.

 

Oh, and the NT scan went well, I think. I mean, I don't know whether it indicated anything or not, they'll send the results directly to my doc. It was nice to see the ultrasound again though, heartbeat is still going strong at 167 and we saw tiny arms and legs flapping around.  The tech was having a hard time getting the right position for her measurements so a couple times she bounced the scope thingy on my belly to get the baby to move and by the third time I almost smacked her hand like, dude - quit shaking the baby! I know it's probably fine but grr....

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Sphinxy, lol, people used to get concerned that I was shaking my belly too much. Practically dribbled that thing like a basketball. All my babies came out ok. I mean, S had better be pretty because he doesn't seem to be brilliant, but he's still firmly in the average range.
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Carmen, I'm hoping for a reassuring midwife appointment today!

 

Starling, listening to podcasts is a great idea.  Thanks for the tip!  That would definitely be more fun than just reading random things on my smartphone in the dark! :) (I find it too awkward to read an actual book while laying there)

 

Babyfatty, those trips sound fun!  It's kind of a tough one.  The trips might be a great distraction from the first trimester feelings, and also great experiences in general!  It would, of course, be hard if something happened if you were away from home.  will you be able to see an OB before you go to get some advice?  And as Carmen said, perhaps you could find out if there are docs on the cruise ship in case of emergencies...If it were me, I would probably go!  But it's all about what you are comfortable about. :)  Also, I'm glad you found VBAC friendly OB; I hope it proves to be good experience overall.

 

Thanks for the perspective, y'all!  It's nice to know I'm not the only one sitting in the dark with a sleeping baby (or toddler)!  Generally, I still prefer to sit up in the dark and watch movies with headphones with my DP than to lay in the bed (unless I'm also ready for bed).  However, that's what he did last night, and it was glorious!  We kept him up way past his bedtime by bringing him to a community passover seder.  I was worried about not respecting his sleep needs, but he did quite well!  He did scream the entire way home in the car :(  But once he was out of the car, he was happy.  I got him and myself all ready for bed, we got into bed together, put him on the boob, and we both fell asleep!  Amazing. :) I could do that every night.  Maybe someday!

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Haven't had much to report, but I have been following along....  OMOM -I HATE getting asked if it will be two bills or one!  Tiger -cereal is better than processes chicken nuggets.... or a hot dog.... or a lunchable... or just cookies....  I have been guilty of all of those these past 12 weeks!  Granite -I have found it VERY hard to cook!  That has lightened up a bit though, and now I can cook on most nights.  On climbing -DD loves to climb on top of the recliner, which always has me nervous, even after a year of her doing it and her being 4!  Something that helps though, is she is ALWAYS running into things, falling down, getting bumps and scrapes and booboos.  She is so clumsy, so it is kind of everyday occurrance.....

 

One thing that has been absolutely exhausting is DD waking up during the night.  She has never done this before (so it's probably making up for when she was infant).  The past month, I have not had a single full night's rest, which is totally wiping me out by 3 in the afternoon!  Either she needs to pee, she needs her twilight turtle turned back on, she had a bad dream, etc.    Any suggestion on getting her to stay asleep and not fully wake????  What is a good time to cut off liquids for the night?  We already have her potty before bed.

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Hi there!

 

My name is Abby and I got my BFP on the Ides of March (15th). So, today that makes me 5 weeks and 3 days. J I just put up some info about how I got pregnant on the How Did You or Your DP/DW Get Pregnant board. It’s funny because I’ve noticed that only queer women (that I’ve encountered so far) keep count of the exact date of their pregnancy. Last night I went to my first prenatal yoga class and when we went around the room to introduce ourselves, I was the only person who said the weeks and days versus just the weeks…anyway J

 

Yoga was really nice. I didn’t exercise at all before getting pregnant, so I’ve been super stiff and sore. I think if I keep up with this and start a prenatal swim class, that I ought to be a lot more flexible within 8 months. The only other real symptoms I’ve experienced are tiredness and extremely sensitive/sore breasts. I’m hoping nothing gets worse, but I’m expecting it will. Oh well, it’s a joyous sort of misery, isn’t it?

 

I’m really excited to follow along on this board- it’s been so fun to have other pregnant people to talk to and I’m super stoked for all the BFPs that happened in March over at QC!

 

My EDD is November 25th :)

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Yay, Welcome Sotohana!! wave.gif

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So happy to have you here, Abby!

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Just got the call - Nuchal scan test results are normal. 

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So glad to see you here, sotohana!!! My breasts are crazy sore too... And I'm looking forward to starting a prenatal yoga class too next week. Here's to increasing flexibility (and simultaneously increasing girth!)

 

Yay, Sphinxy! Happy to hear the results are good! I read your previous post aloud to my DP and she was just like, "NO KIDDING", cuz earlier yesterday evening I had a sobbing fit when I was trying to have a much-needed nap and the dog and cat wouldn't stop pawing at me... But really I was just hungry and overtired, like a baby redface.gif

 

No advice on the middle-of-the-night wake-ups, esenbee, but you have my sympathy... I can't even imagine how hard it would be on top of general pregnancy tiredness. hug2.gif

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Quickie post as it's been a long, busy day. My u/s went fine today. Everything looked "great" and "normal" and no markers or issues were seen apparently. Phew.

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:) Carmen :)

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