Where do you look for an AP-friendly nanny?

[underthecalisun]

Hi,

I'm a FTM to my 16-month old son. I went back to work when my baby was 4 months old, but I was very lucky to have my parents/his parents to care for the baby untill now. My son is EBF, I continue to breastfeed, we co-sleep, he shares meals with us, we have ec'ed him since 3 months old etc. in essence, we practice attachment parenting. 

DH and I have spent some time looking for and interviewing nannies. We are having a hard time finding some one who understands not letting my son CIO or elimination communication to help my son relieve himself. We do live in a fairly mainstream neighborhood (Santa Clara in South Bay). So, where do you look for nannies who are attachment parenting friendly?

My experience has also been that some nannies tell you what you want to hear in an interview, but then turn around and do things their way on landing the job. What type of questions do you ask to get a feel for their care-giving style?

Thanks!

[JudiAU]

I talked about gentle parenting, feeding a breastfed infant, comfortable wearing the baby in the sling, physically active, I also mentioned that we did not allow tv and required the nanny to read in English. The tv thing really weeded out a ton of people. I used sitter ith and didn't have a problem.

[JudiAU]

Also wanted to say that is really okay to expect them to find some of their own way. It is okay to do things differently than you as long as it is gentle and respectful. A cosleeping infants don't have to have a nanny sleep with them. Mine adapted a nice way with a sling/exercise ball. If you come across with a few very dogmatic this is the in,y way it will be much harder. Not because they aren't willing but because you seem like a really inflexible person.

[juliejperkins]

I would say find a SAHM who practices AP. Or really make sure the nanny understands what AP means and how important it is. It is "easier" to put a baby down and let them cry. AP takes effort an you need to stress that with your nanny.