HELP!! Whiny 3yr old!!

[mommylynn]

My daughter is 3 1/2 and very picky and whiny about 75% of the time. She acts like she hasen't had enough sleep but she sleeps between 10 and 12 hours a night. We have a 10 month old boy so I thought it might be because she didn't get as much attention as she used to but we make sure to take her places and do things without the baby. When she was 2 she would pick out her own clothes and get herself dressed. Now that she is 3 she wants us to do everything for her. It takes a long time to get ready in the morning.
Is she playing me or what?
I just want to know if this is normal behavior for her age?

Has anybody else ever had problems like this?

[kazmir]

HI and welcome to MDC!!!

My DD just turned 4 and had a clingy stage a few months ago. She didn't want to do much and always wanted me to play/be with her. She has moved past it so maybe it was a developmental stage.

Probably having a new baby makes things harder on her too. She is no longer the baby of the family and sees you splitting your time between them. I don't have 2 yet, but this transition probably takes some time. I would continue with the special time with her and see how it goes.

Good luck!

Robin

[steff]

Yes, I think it is normal. Well I hope anyway. You are describing my 31/2 year old dd Jayden. She was much more independant then now. She sleeps 12 hours and all day long she is whinning. I couldn't figure it out!! Then she started to pretend she was baby Jayden and it seemed like she was regressing in behaviour.(only in some areas though) It was like she wanted my attention while being someone else. Once I started to give her more pre-school time with me and she started helping me in the kitchen and stuff she has toned down alot. I think it is Attention in areas like being independant helping mom like a big girl. I truly think once they hit this age that they need more one on one with us. Every child goes through stages and any mother that has older children can correct me if I am wrong but maybe at this age 3 1/2 - 4 they need extra attention. Jayden is my oldest so I am assuming.
If it is not normal than my daughter is like yours and maybe someone else can help us both.
I hope I helped a little

steff

[RomansMamma]

This is ds#1 to a T. Totally independent child and suddenly he is just a needy whiner. I tell him that he needs to use his words and not his whine and to keep trying until he gets it right.

We have him in Montessori preschool M,W,F mornings and he is whinny there too. His teacher says the kids at school will say to him "I don't want to talk to you until you're finished whinning!" That stops him immediately