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post #21 of 382
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Okay, this is random, but I'm getting annoyed with the armpit flab that always builds up for me during pregnancy.  Thankfully it tends to disappear (or at least shrink significantly) after baby comes but it's just flubs of tissue right now!!!!!  I feel like I have to keep tucking it into the sides of my bra. LOL  I've been working my arms out a TON this pregnancy (my lower body has been neglected in comparison, but hey...gotta do what you gotta do to avoid being in pain, right??!?), too bad it doesn't affect it.


LOL.  My version of that is backfat.  WTF.  HATE IT.  It's more minimal this time than last (probably because, like you, I've been trying to work at that area more) but still.

post #22 of 382
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LOL.  My version of that is backfat.  WTF.  HATE IT.  It's more minimal this time than last (probably because, like you, I've been trying to work at that area more) but still.

 

Oh yes, I have the backfat too!!!!  (the annoying armpit stuff is in front)  It's irritating as well, I feel like even my best bra puts in on display!!!!  Honestly, I think if I did NOT have the flab that my bra exaggerates (or at least as much of it), I wouldn't FEEL like I'd gained so much weight when I looked in the mirror.

post #23 of 382
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Originally Posted by 1babysmom View Post

 

Oh yes, I have the backfat too!!!!  (the annoying armpit stuff is in front)  It's irritating as well, I feel like even my best bra puts in on display!!!!  Honestly, I think if I did NOT have the flab that my bra exaggerates (or at least as much of it), I wouldn't FEEL like I'd gained so much weight when I looked in the mirror.


Yes, my bras are a major problem for me right now too.  Ha!

post #24 of 382
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Originally Posted by alaskanmomma View Post

Aww man, sounds like quite a few of us are having some rough times *big hugs*

I'm on state insurance, private health insurance is just so freakin' expensive. We can't afford that and we can't afford Obamacare(the penalty tax OR a plan lol).. I guess by 2016 we better get some bank flow coming in somehow :P. I'm fortunate AK is a pretty darn progressive state birth wise. Medicaid covers my midwife. They pretty much cover the 4 biggie birthing options and midwives and OB's alike. Pretty awesome! Us doulas are trying to get them to cover a certain amount of doula costs too. Just imagine the amount of money the state could save in interventions and epidurals if women could get a doula in the room :D

Calliope's car seat came in last night, the Combi Coccoro. I'm going see how it fits with the two Radian's and then ship off to Amazon DS Radian tomorrow(did I mention after I got it all set up in the car I realized there was a tear in it UGH!) 

 

Wow! That's great! I'm having a hard time finding an OB that will see me with medicaid, let alone being so lucky to be able to have midwife! (I "risked out" of the midwives' practice here because I'm VBAC...?) (I'm not upset at you, I'm actually happy you are able to have midwife, if that's what you want. Just so doggone frustrated trying to find someone, anyone, who will see me. greensad.gif)

 

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Originally Posted by jessmn View Post

What plans do you all have for Valentine's Day, if any?

 

My husband has been an absolute saint (well he always is) but throughout my pregnancy he has been the most amazing guy. Whenever I was sick, he was right there, he goes to all my appointments, doula appts, and 7 week birth class, he encourages me, listens to my craziness and anxiety, and now he basically tells me to sit on the couch with my feet up when I get home from work and he does all the cooking, cleaning, everything. He's pretty incredible. I sometimes follow him around with a chair and chat or direct things, haha. And I have NO IDEA what to do for Valentine's Day. We'll be lucky if we get out (I am much less mobile these days, sitting is fine but I don't do long distances or amounts of time standing) but I am a big crafter. I was thinking of making him a new lunch bag and filling it with things he likes or something....ah! I don't know! Nothing feels like enough!
 

 

DF has to work on Valentine's Day, so we're going to see if my mom will watch the kids the weekend after so we can go out to dinner (at buffet! eat.gif) Other than that, we might exchange gifts, but I don't know.

 

I posted this in January thread, in response to cagnew (I think?) but this is getting ridiculous, trying to find someone to see me. I have been calling the other place close to us all week, and haven't gotten answer (after they were supposed to call me and let me know if they would take me on and didn't), so I'm thinking they aren't interested in taking me. I found a (mothering recommended) OB an hour away that takes medicaid, and called to see if they would take me, but even though they take medicaid, I guess there's different kinds, and they don't take my kind, but said they would if I called and switched my kind. So I called medicaid office and asked could I switch my kind, and they said no, that I can't switch my type until August, which obviously wouldn't work. So that OB is out. I've been crying all day, stressing out about what we're going to do. I am really thinking UC will be our only option, but DF isn't comfortable with it, and I'm not *thrilled* with the idea, so I'd rather not do it because we have no other option. DF said start looking further away, and we'll just allot a certain amount of our tax check to the extra gas, and hope that we make it when the time comes. I just don't know why it has to be so stinking hard for me to have a baby. I can't stop crying, and then I get mad at myself, because I didn't do good with DD, and she was sick, and now I can't find someone I can trust won't try to do the same thing, and then start to think maybe I should just accept a repeat c-section because that way at least I can get any prenatal care I might need or at least talk to someone if I have concerns, since no OB will even advise me if I not under their care.

post #25 of 382
I bought some bra extenders at the dollar store, that helps with the bra rolls a bit.
post #26 of 382
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Originally Posted by IronMam View Post

I bought some bra extenders at the dollar store, that helps with the bra rolls a bit.

Wanna know what's bad??  I already use one almost daily.  blush.gif  Most of my pregnancy bras are a 36ish band size with my rib cage so expanded (I'm usually a 34 when not pg), and it's not "too" small or anything (I actually have always used the extenders soley for the back flab reason), but I feel suffocated by the end of the day with anything around there so the extender helps, and early on it was helping with the appearance.  I'm thinking of ordering some 38 band bras to finish out the pregnancy, since I'll just get the inexpensive B&B ones I love that are nursing bras.  Maybe go up a cup size to so they accommodate for my pit flab. LOL

post #27 of 382

I went grocery shopping last night (from about 8-11pm, ugh). But I was able to get some of the stuff on my baby list since I was at Real Canadian Superstore (which is like a Target in that it's not just a grocery store). I got some new towels, so we can use our old ones during labor without worrying about ruining them, and some goodies for the d-day kits I'm putting together. I'm making one for me, one for DD, one for DH, and one for my BIL (who will hopefully be looking after DD while I'm in labor).

 

I've also got some packages on the way, that I'm excited about. I ordered a new diaper bag (since that lady never did send me the missing strap - currently in the process of getting a charge back with my credit card company - sigh), a really nice water bottle that opens one handed (with a button) and auto-seals (so I can easily hydrate during nursing sessions), an extra cover for the used My Brest Friend pillow I bought (so I can keep it covered when the other cover gets spit up on and needs to be washed), a big bucket of LEGO for DD for Easter, and some pens I can't buy locally but really want to try). Plus I've got my HypnoBabies home course coming, and some iron-on T-Shirt vinyl for DIY baby onesies and shirts for DD that I'm making (I have a vinyl cutter).

 

I died a plain, NB-sized onesie teal, then ombre-dyed a plain, light-blue shirt of DD's to match. The onesie will say "Baby Brother" and DD's shirt will say "I <3 My Baby Brother." They're going to be in her big sister, d-day gift basket kit thingy. I'm really excited for some of the other designs I have planned (especially the Dr. Who themed stuff).

 

I rearranged some cabinets in the kitchen today, so it's more organized, and the stuff I need regularly is easier to reach. Being as short as I am, I can't reach the top shelves without a step stool.

 

So, I'm still stressed about the sheer number of projects on my list, but at least I'm making progress.

post #28 of 382
Since week 29, 95% of every day for me is spent in some sort of pain. My sides hurt, my legs hurt (and are swelling. I never did swell with DD.) My stomach feels so stretched already, and I still have just under two months to go. Sleeping is a whole other adventure. I toss and turn so much its unreal! My carpal tunnel is very bad as well. I am in physical therapy for it. That helps some and I'll be getting a brace soon (my medical card won't cover the cost, so I have to spend $80 to get one. My therapist is going to look for a free one for me though, which is so awesome of her!)

Walmart doesn't have the stroller, carseat, pack n play, and high chair I wanted any more :-( but they did get two new ones in that are very cool looking. They are the same price, so that's cool. Just gotta get my taxes done and I can get the major stuff. Also gotta get a dresser or some other kind of storage system for the babies clothes. I am lost in that area.

I have my 3D ultrasound on the 13th and I am so looking forward to that! I just hope I don't pass out like I nearly did with DD at this. Its unreal to think I have only 8 weeks to go!
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I too am feeling the stress!

 

Instead of crossing things off the to-do list we are adding to it. We have decided that the second bedroom in our apartment will be the baby's room and the office will move to the living room. We just don't have enough storage space to do anything differently. This means (in my opinion) our living space - where we spend most of our time - will be "crowded." A trip to Ikea is now in store later this month. Which  brings up the financial stress. It is tax season and until that is done DH is stressed about money - we will probably owe money this year. And - this seems so silly - we have our first of two baby showers coming up next weekend and it is stressing me out ! It is sad that I can't, in this moment at least, enjoy the idea of all of our friends and (local) family coming together to hang out. Instead I worry about all of the things we need for this baby and how much it is going to cost. 

 

In other news, I went to see my midwife yesterday - things are good! However, I have to wear arm braces for my CTS (at night) and buy compression socks. And, of course, drink more water.

 

Big sigh today!

post #30 of 382
I wear lovely compression socks too!!! It is probably the most difficult task I do just to get them on. I have them for varicose veins, and hey are hard to get on even when not pg.
post #31 of 382
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Originally Posted by 1babysmom View Post

I wear lovely compression socks too!!! It is probably the most difficult task I do just to get them on. I have them for varicose veins, and hey are hard to get on even when not pg.Oh

Hard to get on? Oh no. DH already has to help me tie my shoes. LOL. I just bought a pari of Keen Utility shoes as I can't wear sneakers to work and those are the most comfortable. I bought the compression socks on Amazon as they didn't have any at the store in my size - here is to hoping they fit. 

post #32 of 382
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Hard to get on? Oh no. DH already has to help me tie my shoes. LOL. I just bought a pari of Keen Utility shoes as I can't wear sneakers to work and those are the most comfortable. I bought the compression socks on Amazon as they didn't have any at the store in my size - here is to hoping they fit. 

They might not be as intense as the ones I have. I got them at a vein specialist a few years ago. Mine are like white socks, but with medical conpression, so you have to "peel" them on/off to get them on correctly. It is just REALLY hard for me with a giant belly. Thankfully I only choose to wear them at certain times but yeah....no small task.
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Oh and cool about the farm! What will you guys be growing?? We are a farm family as well (I was born and raised on a farm too so I will always be a farm girl at heart!).

We are still working out the fine details I think. We are going to grow a variety of vegetables and maybe some herbs. We are are small acreage so we may experiment to see what sells.  We just got our first bee hives last summer and have had chickens for years so we do those two things already.

post #35 of 382
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*sigh* I had a meeting with the lady I planned as having for a doula, I used to babysit for her, and we have a very similar birth philosophy... DH has always been kind of.. "eh" about the doula thing, even though I'm training to be one, he just doesn't get it, and thinks it's a waste of money. Her fee is $500, and I actually fudged when DH asked and said $300(I know, I know).  and DH of course AFTER the meeting and AFTER me and her planning on her being my doula for months asked about the price, and said that it's too much money because he's there(but is he really there?) He's not the super supportive type in labor, he slept through all but an hour of our sons labor! He only woke up because I shook him awake to take me to the birth center and when we got there he tried to go to sleep but couldn't since by that time it was pushing time!

I've tried explaining the benefits, he doesn't care. He doesn't care that if I DON'T have one and the kids wake up if it's a middle of the night birth or are up because it's the day time, he'll need to stretch himself between me and the kids as my support person. I REFUSE to have his mom here while I'm in labor, and I refuse to not have the kids here. I feel horrible because I've been talking back and forth with the doula for a long duration of my pregnancy about her being my doula, we met up today and discussed how I want my birth to go, what role I want out of her, etc. and now I have to say "OH HEY, NVM!" I just don't know how to tell her after all this planning of her being my doula :(. I know $500 is A LOT of money, and she did say she could be flexible with rates, but idk how to bring up it's really all a financial issue after I told her a few weeks ago it would probably be ok for me to swing the $500(because I thought it would be..) I'm sad :( 

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What plans do you all have for Valentine's Day, if any?

 

We'll probably just grab some dinner with the kiddos and DTD as our "date" when they go to bed tbh lol.gif. Unless I hint around.. a lot.. I probably won't get anything, but I hope I get some flowers or something, I'll probably spend that week talking up the flowers he got me for our anniversary. We get the kids a small stuffed animal and single rose every year as well.

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I posted this in January thread, in response to cagnew (I think?) but this is getting ridiculous, trying to find someone to see me. I have been calling the other place close to us all week, and haven't gotten answer (after they were supposed to call me and let me know if they would take me on and didn't), so I'm thinking they aren't interested in taking me. I found a (mothering recommended) OB an hour away that takes medicaid, and called to see if they would take me, but even though they take medicaid, I guess there's different kinds, and they don't take my kind, but said they would if I called and switched my kind. So I called medicaid office and asked could I switch my kind, and they said no, that I can't switch my type until August, which obviously wouldn't work. So that OB is out. I've been crying all day, stressing out about what we're going to do. I am really thinking UC will be our only option, but DF isn't comfortable with it, and I'm not *thrilled* with the idea, so I'd rather not do it because we have no other option. DF said start looking further away, and we'll just allot a certain amount of our tax check to the extra gas, and hope that we make it when the time comes. I just don't know why it has to be so stinking hard for me to have a baby. I can't stop crying, and then I get mad at myself, because I didn't do good with DD, and she was sick, and now I can't find someone I can trust won't try to do the same thing, and then start to think maybe I should just accept a repeat c-section because that way at least I can get any prenatal care I might need or at least talk to someone if I have concerns, since no OB will even advise me if I not under their care.

UGH! That SUCKS :( Here it's so easy to get in with Medicaid(really unless they are a provider who doesn't accept it, you can get into a care provider pretty easily). Have you gotten any prenatal care this pregnancy? Do you have any walk-in state ran clinics or the like? I think if I wasn't 100% on board with UC, I wouldn't do it, I'd walk into the ER in labor, they can't turn ya away!

post #38 of 382
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We are still working out the fine details I think. We are going to grow a variety of vegetables and maybe some herbs. We are are small acreage so we may experiment to see what sells.  We just got our first bee hives last summer and have had chickens for years so we do those two things already.

Awesome!! How did your bees do? We started last spring too, with 2 hives, and they did awesome until about October....and all died! A bunch of beekepers in our area lost the majority of their hives at the same time as us....we aren't sure what it was, doesn't look like CCD or mites or anything typical, so we wondered if an aerial spray might have done it.
post #39 of 382
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UGH! That SUCKS :( Here it's so easy to get in with Medicaid(really unless they are a provider who doesn't accept it, you can get into a care provider pretty easily). Have you gotten any prenatal care this pregnancy? Do you have any walk-in state ran clinics or the like? I think if I wasn't 100% on board with UC, I wouldn't do it, I'd walk into the ER in labor, they can't turn ya away!

 

I got prenatal care up until November was my last appointment. I *thought* it was fairly easy to switch providers as long as they accept Medicaid, but I didn't realize there were so many different types, and I thought if a provider accepted Medicaid, they accepted Medicaid. Live and learn, right? I know there are some walk-in type clinics, but I know at least some of them don't accept Medicaid. I was up all night last night, reading everything I could find on ICAN's website, checking all the links, and have found a list of 4 or 5 more providers that take Medicaid (but it didn't say which *type* of Medicaid, so not 100% helpful, but better than what I had.), and one of my friends gave me name/number of some providers that she knows of, that she said might take me, even though the hospital they deliver at has a de facto ban on VBAC. (I was reading, and it said that even though a hospital may have de facto ban, they might have individual providers that *do* allow VBAC, so I figure the worst they can say is no.) I also was pretty surprised to find that the next biggest city, it's not *quite* as far away as I thought, so that makes me feel a little better.

 

I've thought about the walking into the ER in labor and them not being able to turn me away, but I'm not sure how that would work with VBAC. I guess depending on how long I waited, it might be "too late" to do a repeat c-section? I don't know. This whole VBAC thing is very confusing to me, in a way, because it would seem if they aren't equipped for emergency c-section/care for a VBAC, how are they able to prepare or be equipped for an emergency c-section/care for someone who hasn't had a previous c-section? Ah, well.

 

It's not so much the UC aspect in and of itself that I would be worried about, so much as what the landlord would say should he find out.

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I always thought Medicaid meant Medicaid, too. (though I do know now that with Obamacare changes, and our state being one of the first to implement them last year, that it REALLY changed things for a lot of people on Medicaid)  Sorry it's such a battle.  It's like a chicken and egg thing.  They have fits about pregnant women not getting "adequate" prenatal care (whatever that standard is...) and yet they make some women like you jump through hoops just to get it and you STILL can't find anyone.  Sheesh. :(

 

I'm excited to dye my Calin Bleu sling tomorrow!  I'm following this tutorial...I hope I don't screw it up.  I'm doing the "Kingfisher Blue" color from Dharma.

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