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[alaskanmomma]

My aunt passed away at around 1am today :( It was a long battle, and pretty much expected. She was done fighting and wanted to go. I'm really numb about everything, not to mention the older adults of the family are making it all about them/drama *sigh*

[brooklyn_warbler]

I am so sorry to hear that. 

[bmcneal]

Originally Posted by alaskanmomma 

My aunt passed away at around 1am today :( It was a long battle, and pretty much expected. She was done fighting and wanted to go. I'm really numb about everything, not to mention the older adults of the family are making it all about them/drama *sigh*

I'm so sorry, alaskanmomma. 

[bambihelton]

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss, alaskanmomma. I'll definitely be keeping you in my thoughts. 

I'm not in love with the big flashy bows, either. I do like headbands. Actually, I LOVE headbands... but the big huge ones are just too much. 

This may seem really gross, but it's really bothering me. I have a really deep bellybutton and now that I'm pregnant, it is starting to get really shallow and flip inside out. The skin that WAS inside my bellybutton is so dried out. I'm not sure why I'm obsessing over it, but it's really bothered me today. lol 

I had to run into the grocery store today after work. I put off going to the grocery store all weekend and definitely regretted it this evening. Anyway, I saw a couple of friends that I had gone to high school with while I was in there and they came to talk to me. Baby had been really active for the last hour or so, so I wasn't paying that much attention to his movements. One of my friends jumped when she saw my belly morphing and changing shape. It was apparently super noticeable. So for the rest of my shopping visit, I was wondering how many people were watching my belly jump and jiggle. Ha! 

 

[alaskanmomma]

Thank you, ladies <3 I'm glad she's at peace, just.. ugh. Even when you know there's no turning back, you kind of cling on to hope a bit.


Bambi, I was walking around all day with a tight shirt on and baby bunched in one corner! Didn't even realize it until the cashier said something >.< Things no one talks about in the baby books.. lol!

[bmcneal]

I have an appointment for next week! I'm feeling pretty optimistic about it. Which is weird, but... we'll see.  When I called, I told the nurse who I was, and the situation. She put me on hold for a minute, and when she came back, she said, "Oh! He wanted me to make an appointment with you." in a way that made it seem like maybe he told someone to return my call closer to when I called them last week. I'm a little nervous about it, because from the website of the hospital, it sounds like it might be a bit of a struggle to get my VBAC, but since it's the other local hospital, I'll try it. So send me good vibes or something, if you do that kind of stuff. 

[Greenlea]

Is anyone else getting a lot of uterine cramping? I get it at least once a day, usually closer to bed time.  Its making me nervous. I think I'll ask my midwife about it on Thurs.

I feel like my DH forgets that I'm 29 weeks pregnant (is that 7 mths)? Since moving I have started having to prepare dinners days in advance so my DH can just reheat it all and have it ready by time I get home with the kids at around 6pm (I used to get home before or just at 5pm). If I didn't do this we'd be eating at like 7pm and I'd have to deal with whiny hungry kids. I was making today's dinner last night at around 8pm and the only thing he did was bitch that I left the flour out.  Then started saying about how we need  to stay on track and get the house unpacked and pictures hung. Ummmm...I'm cooking a meal for the next day, cutting up veggies & boiling eggs for his lunch - and he wants to complain I'm not unpacking once the kids go to bed? I'm exhausted from everything I'm doing, need a back rub and some pampering.

One thing thats better is that now that we moved out of my Dad's house, I don't feel like I have to be cleaning 24/7. I feel I can leave a dish in the sink or the kids' toys on the floor and not worry about it. Its really lessened the tension in our home and I think the kids have noticed.  

[BeanBean06]

Well I guess I'm the odd man out here in regards to the big bows I LOVE them like A LOT! lol I have avoided buying Mira too many cuz I figure other people will enjoying getting her that kind of stuff and I've been trying to focus our budget on necessities but its SOOO hard lol everything is just so cute. I'm very much a "Girly girl" and am hoping she will be too... But if not ill get her in as many cute things as I can before she starts to fight me LOL so if anyone has any they don't want, I'd gladly take them off your hands

[BeanBean06]

Originally Posted by alaskanmomma 

My aunt passed away at around 1am today It was a long battle, and pretty much expected. She was done fighting and wanted to go. I'm really numb about everything, not to mention the older adults of the family are making it all about them/drama *sigh*

I'm s sorry for your loss!! ((Hugs))

[IronMam]

Originally Posted by BeanBean06 

Well I guess I'm the odd man out here in regards to the big bows I LOVE them like A LOT! 

I used to hate them, but they grew on me. No more baby girls in my future though, so not an issue. There aren't as many cute accessory options for baby boys...so that'll probably be a good thing for my bank account. I do want to get a dapper hat at some point though.

[MommyRuth]

I just wanted to share something funny DD said today. She had to pee when I picked her up from school, then when we got home, she said she had to pee again. She looked at me thoughtfully and said "Maybe I'm pregnant, too!" This is even funnier because last night she asked "How do you know that J is my daddy?" and was wondering whether he chose to be her dad, or if I chose him to be her dad. I just said "It takes both a mommy and a daddy to make a baby" and she was satisfied with that for now.

[1babysmom]

I have an u/s tomorrow!!! I have been so anxious about certain things and am really looking forward to the relief that a "peek inside" will give me. I know the majority of MDC isn't u/s friendly, much less multiple u/s's, (whih I completely get!!) but I guess loss after loss changes things, unfortunately. We actually feel it is wise for US to have a later u/s since we UC, but this will be my 3rd this pregnancy (since we had to rule out another ectopic after I lost my tube last time, and then confirmed baby was still alive since my MMC the time before)....but my last was at 11 weeks. So I am sooooo excited. I am taking DD1 with me and we are making it a "date." . It'll be nice to get a vague idea of baby's size at this point, too.

[IronMam]

Originally Posted by 1babysmom 

 I know the majority of MDC isn't u/s friendly, much less multiple u/s's, 

I think you'd be surprised. :)  A lot of us here are "crunchy-lite" - but don't feel comfortable on the more mainstream baby forums. At any rate, it's nobody's place to question what you decide is right for your body and your family. 

Let us all know how it goes! :D

[bmcneal]

Originally Posted by 1babysmom 

I have an u/s tomorrow!!! I have been so anxious about certain things and am really looking forward to the relief that a "peek inside" will give me. I know the majority of MDC isn't u/s friendly, much less multiple u/s's, (whih I completely get!!) but I guess loss after loss changes things, unfortunately. We actually feel it is wise for US to have a later u/s since we UC, but this will be my 3rd this pregnancy (since we had to rule out another ectopic after I lost my tube last time, and then confirmed baby was still alive since my MMC the time before)....but my last was at 11 weeks. So I am sooooo excited. I am taking DD1 with me and we are making it a "date." . It'll be nice to get a vague idea of baby's size at this point, too.

While I personally don't get a lot of ultrasounds (Okay, I've had 3 this time, but they were dating, then an emergency one when we I hurt myself moving and were worried something happened, and then anatomy, so maybe that is a lot), I don't judge. It's not my place. And while I've noticed I'm a lot less crunchy than probably a majority of mamas here, I don't think anyone would say anything, especially after losses. *hug* We still love you.  And please do let us know how it goes.

Originally Posted by IronMam 

I think you'd be surprised. :)  A lot of us here are "crunchy-lite" - but don't feel comfortable on the more mainstream baby forums. At any rate, it's nobody's place to question what you decide is right for your body and your family. 

Let us all know how it goes! :D

This, except I'm not nearly as eloquent with my words. 

[Cananny]

I think I am prob less crunchy than most.. We have had to have a lot of U/S. due to the triplets.. but I am glad we do.. It is a way to know they are ok...

I am only CD becuase of finances.. I really do not look forward to it

I plan to Vac but on a very delayed schedule...

I do not plan to co sleep.. How can you with 3 infants really?

But I agree with the values and the ideas behind MDC.. so I am somewhere in the middle :)

Can I just say how un comfortable I am? It is hard to get from sitting to standing.. my hips are soo soo sore.. I want to be done ,, I only have 3 weeks to go... but man this part is hard...

I was measured at 45 weeks for a singleton pregnancy at 31 weeks... So I am guessing this is why I am so miserable....

Alaska.. So sorry to hear of your aunts passing... 

[Oliver's Mama]

Originally Posted by Cananny 

I think I am prob less crunchy than most.. We have had to have a lot of U/S. due to the triplets.. but I am glad we do.. It is a way to know they are ok...

I am only CD becuase of finances.. I really do not look forward to it

I plan to Vac but on a very delayed schedule...

I do not plan to co sleep.. How can you with 3 infants really?

But I agree with the values and the ideas behind MDC.. so I am somewhere in the middle :)

Can I just say how un comfortable I am? It is hard to get from sitting to standing.. my hips are soo soo sore.. I want to be done ,, I only have 3 weeks to go... but man this part is hard...

I was measured at 45 weeks for a singleton pregnancy at 31 weeks... So I am guessing this is why I am so miserable....

Alaska.. So sorry to hear of your aunts passing... 

I think one's level of "crunchiness"  really only applies to things you have the luxury to decide.  Your kids' health and safety, as well as your own sanity, should always lead your decision making first and foremost.  Not taking proper medical precautions with a triplet pregnancy, putting your family in a bad financial situation, and smushing your babies at night don't make you crunchy, they'd make you a questionable parent.  You're doing a great job x3, no doubt!  I think most everyone here at MDC is fully respectful of moms who make well-informed decisions with their own family's well-being in mind, regardless of whether it's the same as what they would personally do.  I think peoples' annoyance comes when moms choose non-crunchy lifestyles purely because it's the status quo and they haven't bothered to make a fully informed  decision and look at all the alternatives available.

I've got another US next week, I'm not CD-ing, I follow regular vax schedules, and don't cosleep; and not because I'm not/don't want to be crunchy, but because for my own family, I know it would create a very bad outcome to do otherwise.  I do eat 2 granola bars a day, though! 

Edited by Oliver's Mama - 2/6/13 at 6:34am

[IronMam]

Originally Posted by Oliver's Mama 

.  I do eat 2 granola bars a day, though! 

LOL!

[Greenlea]

Almost went to the hospital last night. I have had a horrible lower back ache since Monday night. Yesterday I left work early because I was hurting so bad. Then I was up all last night with back ache, Braxton Hicks, and cramping. A bath helped but only for like 5 minutes. I took 3-4 baths through out last night, got about 2 hrs of sleep as the pain was so bad I could not sleep through it. The period like cramping was what was worrying me so much, but there was never any blood, so I didn't go to the hospital.

From what I was found looking it all up online, I was just having painful BH? Does that sound right? It was so painful.

[IronMam]

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Originally Posted by Greenlea 

Almost went to the hospital last night. I have had a horrible lower back ache since Monday night. Yesterday I left work early because I was hurting so bad. Then I was up all last night with back ache, Braxton Hicks, and cramping. A bath helped but only for like 5 minutes. I took 3-4 baths through out last night, got about 2 hrs of sleep as the pain was so bad I could not sleep through it. The period like cramping was what was worrying me so much, but there was never any blood, so I didn't go to the hospital.

From what I was found looking it all up online, I was just having painful BH? Does that sound right? It was so painful.

 

I thought back pain was more indicative of actual contractions. I've also heard that if the contractions don't improve with the standard measures (water, rest, etc.), it may be the real deal. But I may be completely and totally wrong. Next time it happens, just call your care provider, or call L&D at the hospital and ask them if they think it's important to come in or if you can stay at home.  In Alberta we actually have a 24/7 health phone line staffed with nurses that we can call. It is fantastic when you just want to ask - "hey, my kid's been sick like this, should I giver her such and such medicine" or "my spouse has been vomiting a bit of blood, how much blood is too much?" <--My husband had to make that call a few weeks ago when I got super sick. A little bit of blood can be normal, from the irritation of your stomach lining and such.

Anyhow, when I was pregnant with DD, some of the best advice I got was "if you're concerned, call." The worst that can happen is that some stranger on the phone gets all McJudgey and views you as a over-worried, hormonal mum. And if so, screw them. At the same time, you can get assurance that it's nothing to worry about. On the flip side, if there might be a problem, you'll know to come in and they'll be able to tell you how to handle it. ETA: But a five minute call can save you from hours of worrying, so it's worth it.

Did the contractions get worse or closer together? That's the big sign my midwives tell me to watch for. But my Braxton Hicks aren't super painful like real contractions, just uncomfortable.

[Greenlea]

Originally Posted by IronMam 

Did the contractions get worse or closer together? That's the big sign my midwives tell me to watch for. But my Braxton Hicks aren't super painful like real contractions, just uncomfortable.

The back pain was constant and radiated. The period like cramping came and went, nothing consistent. What worried me too was the pains were so bad I could not sleep at all. I kept thinking I should call my midwife...but DH would say its just from me not getting exercise and I needed to stretch (stretching did not help the pain) and do some yoga (ugh men right - oh its nothing, just do some yoga) and postings online kind of said - suck it up, every pregnant woman gets back pain. I don't know. I also didn't want to go to the hospital and sit there all night just for them to tell me it was nothing.

I didn't think BH were supposed to be painful either. Maybe this was more than that, I don't know. I still feel a little achy in my back, but I'm at work and handling it okay. Its nothing like the pain I had last night / yesterday. And no period like cramps today. I'm going to up my protein today and see if that helps. If it happens again, I'm going to definitely call my midwife, but I also have an appt  with her tomorrow so I can ask her then.