Will my second labor be easier/faster then my first?
In another natural labor, with baby in a good position, I don't see why pushing at least would not be a lot faster than 3 hours. Labor time can vary, but the trend is a reduction in a labor to an AVERAGE of 8 hours...I can't remember where I heard that. So yes, your body has done it once, and unless baby is malpositioned and needs a lot of time to get situated right, your labor should be shorter. What length of time is to be determined. I think *most* women find that to be true.
I had a c/s with my first, after laboring and pushing and getting to 9cm. All of that was about 17 hours, pretty average for a first time mom. My VBAC was 2 hours. Not as typical...pushing was an hour of those two. That makes sense since I had pushed some with my son. I personally anticipate shorter pushing than an hour with this third baby. I wouldn't mind a slightly longer labor though as it sort of rocked us, and I'd love to tear less.
You never know for sure, but USUALLY, it's quicker and easier in subsequent births. My second birth was a LOT quicker and easier than my first. With my first, I had an hour of really, desperately wanting/needing to push but not dilated enough to do it yet, followed by another hour of pushing. With my second, I was ready to go when I felt the need to push and he was born ten minutes later! Plus, very minimal tearing (no need for stitches) compared to my first one, when it took them about an hour to properly stitch me up (ouch!). Definitely, definitely an easier birth.
I hope this one is pretty much the same as the second!
That's good to hear...I really hope for less tearing. That recovery was harder than recovery from the previous birth's c/s.
Ouch! That must have been bad!
I was worried that, having torn once, it was just going to happen again. It didn't. I hope you're as lucky as I was!
From my experience it seems that if you can have restraint when pushing in those last critical moments, stay relaxed in your bottom and your midwife or yourself provide good peri support you have a solid chance of avoiding stitches. That is my one goal for this birth since the last 2 times I have torn due to pushing too fast and hard at that critical time. I need to relax and listen to my body and my midwife. Anyone else have tips to avoid tearing?
Mine was longer and harder the 2nd time. My first was born at 39 weeks and my 2nd was close to 41. Both labors had my boys stuck behind pelvic bone for 2.5 hours. I'm doing an elective c section this time. With the birth of my last son, since he was stuck something burst in his soft spot and created a cyst the size of an egg. I'm terrified of that happening again (it's no fun to sign waivers for your 6 month of to have surgery on his head and risk death). You can see his surgery scar in my profile pic. So yeah I figure if it happened again with my 2nd, it'll happen with my 3rd. I always had thought the 2nd birth would be easier but that was not the case for me.