Oh SweetSilver just saw your comment. I am not an expert on either but the reason I distinguish between CL and unschooling is that to me, unschooling is primarily about education, CL is about relationships and interaction with others. My focus is on consensal interaction between us all, not on education. If, as a family, a consensus was reached that the kids would not be unschooled-whcih is kind of where we are in some ways-then to me that's CL but not unschooling. I mean, it might technically by some definitions be unschooling but to me, in terms of a useful, practical, working definition of unschooling, it isn't.
Also in CL I don't think any parents ever put every card on the table. For some families the card held back is schooling full stop, for others its the kind of schooling. For others its things like what the out of house parent does and their hours. I wouldn't really involve my kids in big, big decisions in part because I think they'd then feel a level of guilt if it went pear shaped. I can think of families who strive towards CL who actually send their kids to school because they just think its not a decision they are prepared to offer them. I know families who let their kids have a say in whether or not to add a sibling to the family, and discuss the names they then give their kids-but then have a absolute no discussion no screens at all policy. To be completely honest, I don't put on the table as an option for my younger kids that they doattend school because I don't think overal it would do them or the family enough good. Although they could certainly bring it to the table, its more that I don;t flag it up as an option. There are other things. Here, awful as this might seem if you take instrumental lessons from a teacher you need to do the work that the teacher asks of you between the lessons. Mainly because otherwise I think its pretty disrespectful of the teacher's time and efforts, but also because money and time and effort go into these lessons from every family member. Again, that's not on the table. Brushing teeth once the adult teeth are in, not on the table. I don't think CL is an all or nothing approach. Although its entirely possible I've entirely misunderstood the whole concept
I'm not great with labels.
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