Originally Posted by AnnieA
For me personally, I take stuff out on my DH and show my "bad" side when I wouldn't do that with other people. And he's supposed to be the person I love more than anyone else in the whole world.
I agree that it's not good to always treat your partner badly. However, if s/he is supposed to be the one person in the world that loves you unconditionally and you can't show your bad side to him/her safely, who can you show it to? I'm not talking about beating the person up, with words or fists, but people need a safe place to express all of their thoughts and feelings, even the bad stuff (maybe especially the bad stuff). That was one of the things I loved about dh. I could tell him all the nasty things I was thinking about whatever and he wouldn't hold it against me because he knew I wasn't a bad person. If you can't be your complete, true self with your partner, who can you be that with? KWIM?
Leadership in the military is much different than leadership in a marriage. A marriage relationship is nothing like a higher ranked/lower ranked military relationship. I don't think (and never said) that the woman should be the leader in the marriage, either. I don't think there should be an ultimate leader in a marriage at all. I think that both partners should be included in the decision making equally and come to important decisions within the marriage together.
There's a religious term for women who assume the submissive role in marriages. I can't remember what it is. It's been quite a movement in recent years within the Christian community in this country. I think it kind of ran parallel to the quiverful movement. It is propagated by some, usually more conservative, fundamentalist, church leaders. It puts women back I don't even know how many years to a position of complete servitude to their husbands. The husband has the final say in everything the wife and family does solely because he is the man, even if he is the meanest, dumbest guy on the planet. If he abuses his wife and/or children, they just have to take it. Think Andrea Yates or FLDS. I'm sure there are some marriages in which it works as long as the man is truly a decent, intelligent, caring person but a lot of times it ends up being more about control than anything else and it's very sad. It is not a good thing, imo.
Ava was very cute picking out her underwear.
We are supposed to go to a Valentine's Day party at CEC with our homeschool group. I don't want to go. I don't like CEC and I don't like the meaninglessness of exchanging valentines with people you don't really care about. It also feels a lot like school to me.
The boys want to go, though, because they like CEC. They really couldn't care less about the valentines stuff but they have to bring something since everyone else is.