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Weekly Chat Feb. 3rd ~ Feb. 10th

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Chat on ladies!! 

 

Last weeks chat is here

 

I am shocked that we are in February!! We could start having new babies on our board any time now!

 

Yikes!!

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Oh yeah... I was reading on an older thread of ours that we have a facebook... ? I didn't know about that! Anyone want to give me a link to it? 

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We have a facebook?!?  I thought there was talk of moving to facebook after our babes arrive, but if we already have one, let me know!

 

Jodie

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Moving to FB would be SOOOO much easier but perhaps not something everyone is interested in.  If there is a page please link me!  ;)

 

I can't believe it's February either!  This is so crazy.  I had the realization the other day that I am just not ready for baby.  I have so much 'to do' before Oliver gets here!!  So last night I washed all his clothes, gathered up the baby things that have been scattered around the house so it's all in one central location, prepped the diapers, etc.  We installed the car seat Friday before I went to work and I'm going to install the little mirror thing in a minute.  When I get home from work tonight I plan on making the packing lists and getting as much of that ready as can be.  Tomorrow hopefully DP and I will be able to do our last bit of big cleaning/furniture moving so that we can set up the pack n play or crib and be 100% 'ready'.  How is everyone else doing in the 'ready' department?
 

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Wait, we're on FB? Had no clue! Is it a private group? I might be interested in that. It dawned on me as I am lurking in the Feb and Jan groups and reading the beautiful birth stories that perhaps I'd appreciate the option for keeping some thing a little more private, but I do plan on sharing my birth story on here. 

 

I am feeling A TON better. I think I drank a gallon of water over night and the BH finally let up. My back is finally feeling a little better, too.

 

GranolaMama: I need to do the same thing! I have baby gear all over the house in different stages of sorting. Pete is painting the crib for me today. Since this is our third baby, we're doing some accent colors in the baby's room. In all honesty, the baby's room will be the place where baby has diaper changes and I store the clothes, but baby will sleep with us. BUT, we still picked up a crib from Ikea. The walls are blue in the baby's room and when my older two were younger, we painted clouds on the ceiling and then put glow in the dark stars all over the ceiling. It's already nursery friendly and I don't need to touch the walls. I picked up these loud pink polka dot curtains for the room and we're painting the crib the same color pink. Mostly the room will be blue, but I thought the pink accents would be fun since this is the last baby. And, it would look sweet with my childhood white furniture. 

 

babytoes: I can't believe it's already February. :) I'm looking forward to the birth stories from everyone. :)

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spughy Thank you! That is EXACTLY what I'm hoping for! I wont do anything to bring her early (I'm a reflexologist and there are certainly natural induction protocols out there) but I am ready to be done. Ive been nauseous for three days straight now, every time I eat. And I was up a few times last night with some mildly painful contractions. So who knows! I hope you have a great visit with your sister - sounds like it will be fun!

I'm in a FB group with some women from the DDC I was in here when I was expecting DD. Not all of our group transferred over, but its set up as a secret group so its private to post in. It has been wonderful to keep up with each other as our kids have grown! It would be nice to do the same here for those who are interested, though I feel like postpartum would be a better time to start so those who don't join us there remain involved until then.

What's everyone up to for the football game tonight? We are staying home as Ive been feeling so crappy. Plus, pants are officially the most uncomfortable things ever and I cant keep them on to save my life these days! lol.gif
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If there is currently not a fb group, let's keep it that way until after the babies are born.  And then those who want to keep in touch can do so at that time over there.  Sound like a plan?

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Haha... I posted that, and then got off my computer until just now. It was sort of funny to see everyone saying "Facebook!? We have a Facebook!?" 

 

I guess we don't? I will have to look back through the threads but I swear (and it could totally be pregnancy brain!) I saw Scruffy or someone mention posting to our facebook. 

 

I could be totally wrong! 

 

I agree that having a private facebook group would be sort of cool. It's way easier to post pics to and wicked easy access with smart phones... I don't know about you guys, but I have a feeling I will want to post pics of my baby all the time! Facebook is a great venue for that reason alone. I definitely want to stay up with MDC though... I like getting on here and having our weekly chats and new posts to look at, etc.

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I would love to have a Facebook group once babies are here. It'd be nice to keep in touch with everyone.

 

Glad you're feeling better, Melany.

 

Granolamama, I don't know where you're finding the energy. I just want to sleep ALL DAY, right now.

 

Actually, right now, I'm so tired and feeling so unappreciated by... well, my daughter, at least. I'll admit that she's "only" five, but when I suggest that I need to do her laundry and she starts fussing because she doesn't want to also have to do her laundry... Really? I didn't even suggest that she'd have to do any of it (though I usually have her help me fold) but I'm so stinking tired, I still have to make dinner, and I'm feeling the pressure of everything that has to be done--like it needs to be done RIGHT NOW, JUST IN CASE--that I don't want to do anything. I just want to... go sleep, and deal with the fallout, later. My butt is dragging pretty badly this weekend, ladies.

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I'm totally in for FB group after the babies are born.  Much more comfortable posting pics there. 

 

Cabbitdancer I was feeling very unappreciated too - I ended up just arranging to do more things for ME and I feel better.  Although my daughter DID tell me yesterday that I'm not pretty because I have grey in my hair.  WTF did she get that?!?!?!  I've always liked the grey in my hair.  The one time I dyed it I hated it and couldn't wait for it to grow out enough to cut it all off.  She keeps calling me fat, too.  I try not to get angry about that - for one thing, I have a few friends who are overweight but healthy and I try to make it clear to her that "fat" shouldn't be used as an insult, and for another, I'm 7 1/2 months pregnant!  I am supposed to be round and roly-poly!  And while yes, I feel awkward and sometimes need a push to get off the couch, I think I look pretty hot.  I'm kind of worried that she's getting this from a friend of hers - who, ironically, actually does have a bit of a weight problem and has parents who are not only overweight but NOT healthy and I think that this kid is not processing these things in the healthiest of ways (she watches a LOT of really not-good TV shows)... anyway. DD is usually pretty good at calling this friend on her weird interpretations of stuff.  I am probably overreacting.  But I do worry when my slim and graceful daughter who weighs less than 45 lbs asks me if she's skinny *enough*.  (Mind you, answering "for what? I don't think you can fit through that chain link fence, but nobody's expecting you to, my dear" may not be the best mommy-moment in my recent past.)

 

I don't know where all the energy for doing stuff is coming from the rest of you... I did manage to put some cupboard doors back up in our kitchen today - but that was because one of the pets kept going into the garbage, although I'm *telling* myself it's so we can childproof easier.  Now I have to get off my butt and make some chicken stew or something and get all my stuff together for my trip.  I think I actually get to be child-free and husband-free tonight, too - DH is still working on the car and it'll be easier for him to stay over there with DD and grandma and grandpa can take her to school tomorrow morning.  Even more of a treat, the whole house to myself!

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Squee! I just ordered my birthkit! This weekend I also started taking evening primrose oil, which for me is another big milestone telling me that the end is near!

 

My energy levels are squatty, too. It's reassuring to hear I'm not the only one. If anyone finds some miracle cure for this, please share!

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LightForest!!!!!!!!!!!!   I just ordered my birthkit, too!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :D  Also, a pool and some more RRL tea leaves! :D  

 

We must be on the same page since we have the same due date! ;)

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I would love to have a Facebook group once babies are here. It'd be nice to keep in touch with everyone.

 

Glad you're feeling better, Melany.

 

Granolamama, I don't know where you're finding the energy. I just want to sleep ALL DAY, right now.

 

Actually, right now, I'm so tired and feeling so unappreciated by... well, my daughter, at least. I'll admit that she's "only" five, but when I suggest that I need to do her laundry and she starts fussing because she doesn't want to also have to do her laundry... Really? I didn't even suggest that she'd have to do any of it (though I usually have her help me fold) but I'm so stinking tired, I still have to make dinner, and I'm feeling the pressure of everything that has to be done--like it needs to be done RIGHT NOW, JUST IN CASE--that I don't want to do anything. I just want to... go sleep, and deal with the fallout, later. My butt is dragging pretty badly this weekend, ladies.

 

 

Yes. Completely. This is me. I have so much to get done. I think I’ve got like 38 days left till my due date or something ridiculous, and no energy. Plus it takes so much energy just to do anything around the house. I taught a group of 4-6 year olds at the Rec center yesterday, and I think I overdid it because I am still whooped. Usually I can manage to get the laundry done, but not this weekend. This led to sort of an argument between dh and I this morning. We finally just moved our gargantuan upright piano out of babe’s room, cleared everything out and prepped the walls for paint today. I told dh that I thought I would only be able to wash the walls below the windows because the idea of bending over every 15 seconds to rinse my rag out made my back hurt. He said, “Fine. I’ll just do everything.” And that made me mad. Because 1) I’m not handy to begin with, so a lot of home improvement projects naturally fall to him; I make up for it in other ways around the house that I don’t think he appreciates (laundry, cooking, shopping, budgeting, watching ds), and 2) I’M 8 MONTHS PREGNANT! I think he thinks I’m just using pregnancy as an excuse to get out of stuff, when in actuality I’m pretty stinkin’ uncomfortable all the time. I tried explaining this to him, and that changing positions so much actually brings on contractions, and his attitude seemed to be, “Well, I can’t say anything because that would be considered insensitive…” WTF. It doesn’t help that we live in an area where there are women who do continue to work out to the max while pregnant. He heard about some lady who competed in a cyclocross race at 6 weeks post-partum, and now apparently I am suspect for being lazy. Grrr. Tensions seem to have dissipated for the moment. We had a nice dinner and watched Downton Abbey. He seems to have been behind by a couple of months this entire pregnancy regarding acknowledging babe’s existence and imminent arrival. We’re going to a natural childbirth techniques class as a refresher on Tuesday. I’m hoping this kind of wakes him up regarding what I’m physically feeling and how important it is for him to be on the same page.

 

Spughy – Sorry to hear about your daughter’s recent weight obsession. I think it’s good that she’s saying these things out loud and around you. Maybe she is looking for reinforcement from you about what she believes to be true (real beauty is on the inside). Could be her friend is not the only one saying negative things, or her friend is going through a popularity upswing so her ideas/ statements weigh more heavily? Either way, I think your quip about the fence is funny. ;) PS – I have a ton of grey hair too and I’m only 33. DD will never know me any different. Funny- never thought of that before…

 

FB – I’m in if there’s a way for it to be a private group. I haven’t shared a lot of specifics on MDC just because I have a fairly public job and for safety concerns.

 

Jodie and Lightforest – also due 3/13. Bought Red Raspberry Leaf tea today. I’ll let you know when I have an energy spurt. Maybe that will mean labor is around the corner. Although, I guess I hope that part doesn’t happen for a little while yet. ;)

 

In other ruminations, I’m feeling bad about the way I interacted with ds today. He won’t turn 4 for another month, but I treat him like he’s one of my Kindergarten or 1st grade students. He is very bright and very verbal, but socially and emotionally, he’s not there (K or 1st grade level) and I haven’t been as patient with him as I should be. My principal copy and pasted some stuff from a book called (I think)  The Language of Love into our monthly school newsletter. It’s about how we express our love for others in different ways and prefer that love is expressed to us the same way. For example, I really respond well to physical touch and compliments, and these are the ways I show love for others. My son shows his love by wanting to spend quality time with us and “help” with home improvement projects (he loves his pretend tools and totally idolizes/ copies dh) and help me in the kitchen, watch me put on makeup, etc. He also has a real independent streak, and I think I have taken too much advantage of that and pushed him to do things independently (playing on his own), when he really would love for me to play with him. L Really feeling bad about how I haven’t shown him in his love language that I love him. Gotta think about how I can turn that around tomorrow morning. I should probably start by going to bed so I can get up in the morning and not be rushed.

 

But one more thing - Thanks everyone for your kind words about our sweet dying dog. We said good-bye on Friday, and it was one of the hardest things I've ever done. I still really miss him, and I expect I will for some time. It really helped lift my spirits a little to see that people I only know online are compassionate enough to write such kind words. Thank you. 

 

Good night everyone!

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Oh man. I'm 36 weeks today, and was up last night from 12:30-3:30 with mild but painful irregular contractions and some serious diarrhea (sorry, TMI, I know). I kept waiting for it to escalate to regular intensifying contractions, but it just stayed the same. Finally it subsided and I was able to sleep again. Needless to say, I'm off to a rough start today and DD is probably going to score some TV time before her nap as a result...
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VeganMommy: sounds like a rough night. Hope today is better for you. I hear you on the tv time. My kids are getting a lot more than usual. I make a point of not leaving the room so I know what they watch and they are staying motionless on the couch once I fall asleep so they get more than a single show in. My little smartie pants.
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I'm all for a FB once the babies get here. I'm part of one from my DS's DDC from here. It's not very active anymore, but it's still fun to get the random post & messages from the women I met when I was pregnant with him.

 

Talk about the countdown... I am 36 weeks today & my EDD is exactly one month away (Mar. 4)!! Not that I expect her to actually be here by there, but now it's looming over me and I am freaking out with what I need to do! I've been crampy the past 2 days. Not contractions, but period-like. I had a crummy eating & hydration day yesterday, which I know probably contributed to it. I'm trying to remedy that. I mentioned to DH this weekend that as of next Monday, I am go to deliver at home and all would be considered normal. That finally got to him. Guess I need to finish reading that Hypnobirthing book and be more diligent about my relaxation practice.

Too bad some of you ladies don't live closer to me. I have a vat of RRL that I need help using up. I ordered a gigantic bad from Vitacost months ago and have barely made a dent. I would gladly share. 

 

Well, here's to the final countdown for most of us. 

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Haha... I posted that, and then got off my computer until just now. It was sort of funny to see everyone saying "Facebook!? We have a Facebook!?" 

 

I guess we don't? I will have to look back through the threads but I swear (and it could totally be pregnancy brain!) I saw Scruffy or someone mention posting to our facebook. 

 

I did post the picture I used to share the news with my facebook peeps.  (All 110 of them - I'm a fairly private person.)  I'd be all for a private group on FB though. 

 

I had a pretty good weekend.  Caught up on the phone with a girl friend on Saturday and did some shoveling yesterday.  I was a little worried I might have over done it, but I felt ok afterwards. Played cards with friends all 3 evenings, too.  I didn't sleep too well last night, no contractions or anything, just wasn't staying asleep for very long stretches.  I'm getting a little tired of being tired all the time.

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My kiddo is also enjoying more TV time lately. DD would become an absolute couch potato in a heartbeat if I let her.

 

I'm really excited that some of us are crossing the 36 week mark and nearing the "good to birth at home" milestone! I'm getting close - 35 weeks and 2 days now. Trying to not get to hyped up about that - I did that last time then spent the next FIVE WEEKS on pins and needles. Ended up birthing at 41 weeks, 6 days. The waiting was torture!

 

Maydaymom, I know what you mean about the herb overload. I'm still using up a lot of the stuff I bought for my last pregnancy! At some point I was gifting all my pregnant friends with big sketchy looking jars of my pregnancy herb tea blend, just trying to use the stuff up. Red raspberry leaf especially is so fluffy that a pound lasts FOREVER!

 

I'm one of the few Facebook avoiders left in the developed world, so I wouldn't be following ya'll over when you make the switch from this DDC. No worries - I understand that it's more convenient for most folks.

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Scruffy, were you being facetious about your 110 friends? Maybe I was wrong about considering myself fairly private as I don't facebook/whatever, and have twitter only for the sake of Pinterest.. maybe I should begin considering myself antisocial or hermit. ;) and amen on being tired of being tired. Pregnancy makes me feel like I'm of two minds, one wants to sit on the couch on eBay, and the other wants to clean everything to within an inch of its life. 

 

and generally just feeling like everyone else with the "final countdown." I can hardly believe how close it is, and I vacillate between hurry up and wait, wait, I'm not ready. At my appointment last Tuesday we scheduled the C-section for Mar 13, originally had been 12th but I got bumped by some other folks. They offered me the section at 4:30pm on the 12th but I am ridiculously uneasy about this type of thing. I feel like if I get up early, we go straight to the hospital, and the prepping starts I will be distracted enough to get through it. DH is sitting out the actual c-section with DS, so I asked a friend to come in with me, and hopefully that will be enough to keep me from getting too upset. Poor anesthesiologist last time.. "just keep talking, I don't care about what, just talk"

 

had a fender-bender over the weekend. went to town for dh, went out for lunch, and on the way home I spaced out on needing gas before getting on the freeway. turned on my blinker, turned into like the third lane on a one way, and this cab turned and then is changing lanes without signal from the first lane and hit me as I was trying to move out of his way from the third to fourth lane.. guy doesn't even ask if we're okay, just says "did I cross over the line? lady it was your fault," et cetera, et cetera. MAN, you just hit my back door, next to where my TODDLER is sitting. (he's fine) The cop came and Hawaii is a no-fault state, the write up isn't a citation, it just says who was involved. Still, this guy is trying to tell the cop it was my fault, and his passenger is like "yes, yes, I saw the whole thing." Well, lady, if you saw the whole thing why didn't you tell him NOT TO HIT ME? Then when it's all said and done, the cab driver tries to say oh I'm not worried about the damage if you're not, blah de blah. At least the cop was nice about it, and told this guy to stop leaning on my car, and that he wasn't writing a citation and didn't want to hear about it. I just feel like he talked it up to be my fault, and then tried to sound like the amiable one that oh, we don't have to report it. DH said it sounded awesome, the cabbie talking down a pregnant woman after he hit her. When I got out at home and really looked at it, it'd be virtually impossible to end up with my driver back door damaged and his passenger front quarter panel being damaged if I turned into him unless I was merging left.. which wasn't what was going on. okay, sorry, that was irking me. 

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Pregnancy makes me feel like I'm of two minds, one wants to sit on the couch on eBay, and the other wants to clean everything to within an inch of its life. 

 

Beautifulnm, hahaha, you said it right! That is exactly how I feel right now! 

 

Veganym, I am in such a similar boat today. I let DS2 watch a whole Curious George movie because I barely slept last. Got 3.5 hours. UGH!! This is happening often lately and I only get 7 hours like twice a week. I don't have TV (as in cable) but we watch movies on the weekend with dinner. Lately, meaning every week day now, I am just so beat that LO watches the "monka" movie while I sit down with my feet up and browse the DDC or wash the dishes or cook. I hate creating a bad habit that is against my values but I am too tired to care at the moment. It will be a pain to break later though. 

 

Today I scrubbed the living room floor on hands and knees (still trying for a good position) and have been working on binding my belly with a woven wrap. It feels GREAT BTW and makes moving about and walking soooo much easier on my back. 

 

I guess the biggest thing on my mind right now is my mother. We are not speaking since she asked me for A LOT of money on loan (thousands) and I said okay but she'd have to show me a plan and budget (she is incredibly irresponsible with money!!) and she refused. She didn't call me back for two weeks and then two nights ago called and tried to manipulate me and guilt me into giving her money without having to make a budget. She used a nasty mother power voice like I was a small child and tried to make me feel like I owed her all this money because she took care of me when I was younger. UHHHH, yeah thanks, but what does that have to do with me making a sound financial decision that affects my whole family? I mean, I am not giving my savings to anyone who seems totally unstable and like they might not pay me back. My DH is really nervous about all of this and angry at her for treating me so disrespectfully. I am too. But I've got to give her a chance since she is my mother. I am kind of feeling done with her though. Isn't that awful? I never thought I'd say that about my mother. 

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