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[writermama12]

Thanks for your remedies ladies! I tried the reflexology. I don't know if DH really touched the right spots but it felt good anyway. And I'm going to make a smoothie today but I don't have all the stuff you recommended Spughy. Wish I did! I am going to make something kinda close though.

Last night was terrible in the sleep dept. I woke up at least 1-2 times per hour feeling like I was choking on acid reflux which didn't calm down until like 4am. My throat burned and I was just too tired to get up and try to take something for it. I was soooo uncomfortable, too. And sweaty!! My sheets were drenched each time I actually did dose off. I have a large knot in my back by my spine that I forced DH to try to work out three times last night because it is so painful I wanted to cry. Gees. I am so ready to be done.

Edit to add: Beautifulnm, VERY interesting links in your post. #15 is certainly her behavior pattern, along with many other things on the list. I never would have thought to approach my mother as a narcissist, but I now believe that might be at work in her case. I read the list as well to see if I did those things to my kids...and I am glad to feel that while I am not perfect, I generally do not have narcissistic ways with my kids. At least not as far as I can see. 

Edited by writermama12 - 2/6/13 at 4:12am

[jodieanneanton]

Originally Posted by MPsSweetie 


Has anybody heard from WLL? I'm so excited for those babies, lol

WLL hasn't been on in over a day... 36 hours to be exact!  I think it is so funny that when we don't hear from her, I immediately think, "maybe she's having those babies!!!!!!!!!!"    Either way, I hope you're doing well, WLL!!!!

Spughy- rhubarb-prune smoothie?!  That actually sounds pretty good.  I LOVE rhubarb! :D  Glad the mini vacation went well. I am slightly jealous of the pumpkin caramel pudding... yam and ginger icecream?!?!  UGH!  I want some.  :D  (I just realized I should eat breakfast...)

BUKO! We miss you!!!  Or, at least I do! :D

writermama- Sorry for the rotten sleep.  I hope your physical ailments get better soon.  Also, I wanted to weigh in on the mother situation, but didn't know if I should.  I have a dad like your mom.  The situation may be a little different b/c of the difference in the mother/daughter and father/daughter relationships, alcoholism and the fact that he goes for years at a time without talking to me... But, it eventually got to the point where there was a "straw that broke the camel's back" and I had to cut off all contact.  Not fun, but doing so has been extremely helpful.  I don't know what the answer is for your situation, but I am sorry you have to go through this with your mom.  

Clumsy- I think it is safe to say you get the reward for making all of us laugh yesterday with mention of your sexy bedtime routine.  

beatifulnm- I am thinking of you.  Hoping all is well and that your water hasn't broken yet!  Keep us updated!

Chapsie- Thank you for the copy of the stomach massage.  I think I am gonna have DH read up on it.  He greased up my itchy belly last night and it felt so good.  I think it would be even better if there was a method to his greasing. lol.

LightForest- I have been reading the micropreemie article a little bit at a time.  It's been good so far (I am halfway through part 2).  What a hard choice to have to make...what a tough road to have to travel.  I am only able to ttake it in a little bit at a time because of the heaviness of it all...  (I haven't even been able to watch The Wonder Years lately because of my evening mellowness....) I am not depressed so much... just VERY effected by anything remotely sad.

babytoes- I like the idea of starting a fb page.... I just really want to be careful that the DDC doesn't become a desert before all of the babies arrive.  I want to make sure the late marchers (some of whom won't have babies until April) have our full support throughout their pregnancies.  So I am torn as to when to start that up... hmmm...

Granolamama09-I am so glad you are back!

chocolatechip- I am happy your trip went well. Your description of your brother and dad's reactions to baby are soo cute!  And, yeay for functioning kitchens on the main floor!!!!!! 

Scruffy- WOW! That doctor sounds amazing. I am  glad you were able to meet with her.  It is always such a surprise to me when an MD takes their time and shows compassion and caring like that.  My first experience with that as an adult was the doctor who "diagnosed" my second miscarriage.  He was so amazing and sweet.  Actually gave me a real and non-awkward hug and everything.

SlimP, Veganyogamomma, sunshinelove, Melany, MPsSweetie, cocoanib, cabbitdancer, akind1 and Everyone else (Sorry if I didn't mention you by name!!!!!)- 

AFM- Not much to report... I had a chiro adjustment on Monday that was AMAZING!!!  Actually, all 3 of her children were born at home, so we had a lot to chat about.  The only weird thing was that the woman was not much older than me... So weird to see the age gap bw me and healthcare professional slowly closing.  Also, I found a white hair...on me!  It was an eyelash, so maybe doesn't count?  But I think that and the similarity in age b/w me and the chiro mean I must be an adult or something.  (Not to mention the marriage and 3rd kid on the way!!!   Just weird.  I don't feel like a grown up, just like a Jodie!)

I am grabbing lunch with a friend today.  She adores my kiddos and just so happens to be the midwife I had for DD2.  Always so nice to see her.  And I can't wait for my subway sandwich!  :D

Hoping all is well with all of you!!!!!!  

Edited by jodieanneanton - 2/6/13 at 7:23am

[Chapsie]

Originally Posted by jodieanneanton 

AFM- Not much to report... I had a chiro adjustment on Monday that was AMAZING!!!  Actually, all 3 of her children were born at home, so we had a lot to chat about.  The only weird thing was that the woman was not much older than me... So weird to see the age gap bw me and healthcare professional slowly closing.  Also, I found a white hair...on me!  It was an eyelash, so maybe doesn't count?  But I think that and the similarity in age b/w me and the chiro mean I must be an adult or something.  (Not to mention the marriage and 3rd kid on the way!!!   Just weird.  I don't feel like a grown up, just like a Jodie!)

My chiropractor is a close friend of mine (we have kids the same ages).  She is such a miracle worker!  I NEED to get adjusted.  My hips and pelvis are getting so achy again!  

As a healthcare provider, I have been on the other end of things-- I have always felt way too young in that role.  I am a lactation consultant (haha, autocorrect changed lactation to laceration, that makes me chuckle) and newborn nurse and I often feel that older parents don't always take me seriously.  A lot of times, a well meaning grandmother of one of the babies that I'm taking care of will look at me and ask: "so... just how long have you been working here?"  I just smile sweetly and say "6 years."  They are usually pretty satisfied with that, haha.  It used to really bother me when I first started... I was only 22 with no kids!   But, now, almost 3 kids later, and I feel like I have enough personal and professional experience to be taken seriously.  I am kind of a nerd and read A LOT of articles and keep on top of birth/breastfeeding/baby practices, so even some of the older nurses come to me as a resource person.  I often take charge of the nursery and run the whole unit, so it's a good thing I've gotten over whole "I look way too young to have authority" issue.  

Writermama--   The mayan abdominal massage technique that I posted a few days ago on this thread is supposed to help with all digestive issues including constipation!  Someone mentioned massaging up your belly, over the top, and then down to the bottom again (following the path of your large intestine and colon) and the ending of the mayan abdominal massage does this.  (and it feels very good!  light, gentle pressure with a little bit of lotion or massage oil).

[cabbitdancer]

A friend and I determined a few years ago that my mother fit under "narcissistic mom." She's not as bad as the article states, but she definitely exhibits many of the behaviors that are listed. The hardest part about dealing with it is when she really is good and doing well and we have a great time just being together. But then she pulls something ridiculous and it's so frustrating and angering... it's one reason I live in Illinois, though. It's one of the few places she refuses to live, and she is much easier to handle in small doses. :P I don't know how we're all going to survive with her here for a full month to "help" with my older daughter and the coming baby. We'll see how much help she actually is. *fingers crossed*

Thank you for the paperwork instructions on Mayan abdominal massage, Chapsie! I'm going to have to print that out and hand it to my husband. I wonder if that'll be a big enough hint. XD

I've been wondering about WLL and Buko, too. I've noticed that both of them have been absent from the board of late. I hope all is well!!

AFM--I'm sick. Been spending most of the past couple of days (or as much as I can get away with between what needs to be done and my family to care for) in bed, but not drinking enough water. I wound up with a slew of easy, but pretty frequent contractions, this morning. Just gotta say, I won't be neglecting the water consumption again.

[Chapsie]

Cabbit, so sorry you're sick!  feel better soon!!

[Melany]

Originally Posted by cabbitdancer 

A friend and I determined a few years ago that my mother fit under "narcissistic mom." She's not as bad as the article states, but she definitely exhibits many of the behaviors that are listed. The hardest part about dealing with it is when she really is good and doing well and we have a great time just being together. But then she pulls something ridiculous and it's so frustrating and angering... it's one reason I live in Illinois, though. It's one of the few places she refuses to live, and she is much easier to handle in small doses. :P I don't know how we're all going to survive with her here for a full month to "help" with my older daughter and the coming baby. We'll see how much help she actually is. *fingers crossed*

That article on mothers really hit more at home than I would like. My mother isn't as bad as the worse case article, but she does have some significant narcissistic traits. She tends to turn every conversation into her own personal pity party. Not to mention, when she "helped" after my son was born (and my daughter) her help involved her holding the baby and telling me I should let her give baby a bottle so I could clean my house. Lots of help, let me tell ya. Then I had to entertain her in my messy house.

Or, the time I went into the hospital with some early bleeding at the hospital I planed to have baby and mom showed up in my room. She worked in a different department and walked by the L&D board on her way out every night and saw my name. She got in the way of the nurses, lectured them on what they were doing wrong because "she" knew better having been a L&D nurse in the 70s and just got in the way. Very annoying.

Wow, I can't believe how bitter I am about those moments and I know I could go on and on.

cabbit: sorry you're feeling sick! 
Jodi: Hello!
Spuphy: That smoothies sounds delicious.

Sorry for those I missed, have to run!

On the plus side, when my mom showed up uninvited at the hospital I got a tip from the nurse that I could have them put a fictional name up on the board and mom did not show up for either of the real labors. :)

Edited by Melany - 2/6/13 at 12:46pm

[sunshinelove]

I also have been wondering if WLL had or is having her babies, simply because I havent seen her on here for a few days. I hope we hear from her soon!

Melany--i understand what its like to have a meddling mom who is more annoying than helpful. This is a big reason why i dont ask her for help anymore. She's also the type who shows up invited so your story about putting a fake name up made me smile. That was really nice of the nurse to mention that and i'm glad it worked for you!

I will check out the article everyone is talking about in regards to mothers. I have a strong hunch that my mother fits the narcissistic personality quite well.

I hope you feel better soon, cabbit! Fresh ginger tea helps me get better faster whenever i'm sick.

Writermama--uggh, your night sounds miserable, i'm sorry you're so uncomfortable . Pillows can help a lot, maybe make an incline to help with the reflux. For constipation, eating some prunes always helps me. Pear juice is also supposed to be a really good natural laxative (works for my daughter)

AFM--been feeling even more emotional lately. I didnt think it was possible. DH wanted me to get up and do something for him...the anger and tears that welled up surprised me. It wasnt a big deal, why get so upset about it? I have no control over my emotional reactions anymore and its getting harder and harder to swallow it back down. Uggh, this is almost over. I am hoping having a placenta smoothie (or 2 or 3) will help with the emotional roller coaster after the birth since that is even more extreme than pregnancy, in my experience.

[scruffy too]

Originally Posted by sunshinelove 

AFM--been feeling even more emotional lately. I didnt think it was possible. DH wanted me to get up and do something for him...the anger and tears that welled up surprised me. It wasnt a big deal, why get so upset about it? I have no control over my emotional reactions anymore and its getting harder and harder to swallow it back down. Uggh, this is almost over.

Yup.  I didn't think I could be much more emotional than I was in the second trimester, but these last 2 weeks have kicked my ass!  I feel like I'm constantly holding back tears (or not, and I'm constantly crying.)  I'm SOOOO over this part (but it's really the only part I'm done with, oh, and the sleepless nights.  So yeah, being tired and emotional - I'm ready to be done with this part!!!!) I just feel DRAINED. 

I saw Buko post in another thread, so I don't think she's off having a baby.  But like the rest of you, I'm really curious about WLL!!!!!  I've been sending good vibes just in case!

[spughy]

So looking forward to the first babies!!!  I hope WLL is okay - and her babies too.

I remember in my last DDC with DD I was due mid-month and the babies started coming at the beginning of the month prior... and I felt like I waited SOOOOOO long for mine - some were 6 weeks old by the time DD arrived!  This time my due date is the 20th so it'll be even worse, but I don't care, it's so exciting when the babies start to land!

It's Bad TV Night at my friend's place tonight where I get to hang out with her and my equally-pregnant friend - and our mutual buddy from Seattle (from my Nov 05 DDC!) is here for the night and coming along so it should be a really good time.  Very much looking forward to it.  And as my Seattle friend is coming over to my place for dinner I had a bit of a mental prod and got some half-decent tidying done, so I feel good about that.  And I had a good night's sleep last night.  This morning was a bit hectic because I forgot that the dog was supposed to go to the vet and they called and were like "Um, hello? Remember us?" and I used inappropriate language to convey that I had forgotten that today was Wednesday but they managed to fit us in and since we usually end up waiting half an hour for our appointments there anyway, I don't think it took any longer than normal.  And the dog is fine and got her rabies vaccine and the vet actively discouraged her parvo/distemper booster because she's old and hasn't missed any previously and probably still has antibodies, which was nice, I do like a vet who is thoughtful about these things, but even the rabies vaccine made her a little less bouncy than normal so she seemed completely okay with the shorter walk today because my friend from Seattle wanted to go the good-ethnic-selection grocery store and get British candy for her kids.  Oh and my horrid cat brought in a bird for me so I had to do some vacuuming that I hadn't planned on.

But you know what?  I kind of like days like this.  I'm busy, stuff gets done, I get some social interactions, and there are no earth-shattering kabooms.  (Unless you're that unfortunate bird that my cat caught.)  I have a quick and easy dinner planned, and DD had no school-related trauma, real or invented.  The day isn't over yet, and I may be premature in labeling it good, but at least I have nothing to complain about at this point.  (Except the bird. Which I may be complaining about slightly more than is warranted.)

[ClumsySugarPlum]

************************************Sorry this is long and kind of DH ranty*****************************************

Emotions. Ugh. I hear you ladies. Things have been tense at our house lately. December  and January were both light months for us financially. With Winter Break, I earned less money both months, plus holiday expenses. DH finished the taxes tonight and that was no fun because, try as I might, I haven’t been able to land a FT job with benefits and instead have been cobbling together work from three or four different places for the last couple of years. We didn’t realize that one of the places viewed me as an “independent contractor” and withheld nothing… So we’re not getting much back, and we could really use a little extra right now. I really tried to make a good budget this month, but didn’t account for so many bills being stacked at the beginning of the month. So now we’re just stuck. My current job pays so poorly, but I really love it. I finally caved and told DH I would look for something different for this fall….. So there’s that stress looming in the distance.

 I really feel like I haven’t been able to enjoy this pregnancy like I did my first. I enjoy my pre-natal yoga class, and I love all babe’s little wiggles and kicks, and I LOVE how ds snuggles and kisses my belly. Whenever it’s time for hugs and kisses, he is always sure to give the baby in my belly her own separate hug and kiss from me. Cracks me up. But, there is something nice about having a little extra spending money to be able to buy that cute outfit or toy or nursery accessory- to think of little babe and imagine us enjoying it together. I know lots of babies come into the world with far less and are loved no less, so maybe I need to get with the program and figure out what I can do for free to enjoy bonding with her pre-birth. We’re supposed to paint the nursery this weekend, so I’m really looking forward to getting everything loaded into the room.

DH told me tonight that all I do is complain. I feel this is really unfair because 1) I’ve been pretty uncomfortable for the last two or three weeks due to colds and being in the third tri, and 2) I’ve let go of a lot of wants regarding material possessions. I haven’t bought anything for myself that wasn’t a grocery or pharmacy/ pregnancy-related item since I don’t know when. Tonight he got huffy because we were out of milk and I wanted to go buy some so I could eat my Raisin Bran before bed. (Managing my colon has become a huge issue in the last couple of weeks due to crazy painful hemorrhoid pain.) He was planning on using the cash for something for himself- beer with the guys I guess. I don’t begrudge him beer, but my ability to waddle normally and not tip-toe waddle due to my raging ass trumps beer. He never apologized for this, and simply said I’m mad about money, not at you, so leave me alone. Gee, thanks. I feel all warm and tender now. Last night we went to a natural childbirth class as a refresher. It was so nice to do all those practice poses and massages together. He was nice too. He’s not a big PDA guy, but I’d like to think he was enjoying it on some level like I was, not just putting on a show for the instructor and the one other couple there. Times like last night feel really good and make me look forward to the birth. Times like tonight make me dread the birth and wonder if he’ll really be there for me or just have an attitude like, “You’re the one having the baby. I can’t do anything right, so why bother.” I’m not quoting here, just sharing my own apprehensions.

 I definitely can echo the feeling drained comments. I feel drained of patience, health, energy, resources, you name it. Taking care of my body feels like a full-time job and another failed item on my to-do list. 

[sunshinelove]

I wish i could give you a huge hug, clumsy. It sounds like you've got a lot on your plate, so its natural to feel overwhelmed. Try to be gentle with yourself--things will shift, as they always do, it wont always be as extreme as it is right now. Keeping that perspective in mind always helps me be gentler with myself and take things as they come. Also, maybe it would be good to chat with DH about your expectations of him when youre in labor? That way you two are on the same page.

[writermama12]

 I definitely can echo the feeling drained comments. I feel drained of patience, health, energy, resources, you name it. Taking care of my body feels like a full-time job and another failed item on my to-do list. 

Sugarplum, I am right here as well. it is 5:15 am and I've been awake since 12:30!!! Yup, no sleep for me AGAIN. I feel like crying and begging DH to take the day off of work so I can sleep. Yesterday I felt like dog doo all day (headache, little appetite, achy, exhausted, weak) and I can only imagine what today holds in store. I wish I could have a positive outlook but I feel like so much weight is on my shoulders. DH and I messed up the budget for this month and spent too much money too soon, before his second paycheck, so we've been overdrawn ALL WEEK. No grocery store run. We've been making it on cupboard food and the scraps left over from last week and some freezer food I had planned to use post birth. I also decided to loan my mother $3000 and even though DH isn't fully on board with that, he has accepted it and we're moving on (kind of, I mean it still comes up daily that we might not be paid back). However, I now don't even want to talk to her so I don't have anyone to talk to about how I'm feeling. What really got me down yesterday as well (besides feeling like poo all day with no energy and a bouncy toddler body-slamming my belly) was that baby Rowan was breech and then transverse most of the day. Despite binding my belly and doing inversions and sitting on the GD ball that hurts my back so much and getting on all fours which hurts my swollen knees for past two weeks, he will turn whatever way he damn well pleases and I feel helpless. So this morning I am sitting in my recliner with my feet up and eyes burning and wishing I could cry real hard and just get it all over with. I know I said it yesterday but I am soooo done being pregnant, maybe forever. Maybe if I could get some sleep things wouldn't look so bad, but going on three days with like 3-4 hours sleep each night...I could use that blizzard today instead of tomorrow.

[maydaymom10]

 to Clumsy & Writermama. Hang in there ladies! We're getting close to the end. I hope some of the financial stresses ease up a bit for both of you!

[veganyogamomma]

ClumsySugarPlum I'm sending you love because I know where you're at with not being able to just go out and get something for the baby. We've been in rough shape financially for quite some time, so I get less emotional about it, but there are times when I still feel the same way! Being able to do what I love for "work" (yoga, reflexology) carried me through many months of being broke, now I cant really do anything until after the baby comes. I think late pregnancy emotions make it that much harder for us for sure. Is it possible that you and DH could agree that you each have a small amount to spend on "extras" right now? That's what DH and I did because he wanted beer sometimes and I didn't want to feel resentful that he got something special and I didn't. Are you doing anything extra nice for yourself right now? That's important because you're under unusual stress. Maybe go grab a cup of coffee and then sit and read at the coffee shop for a while? That's a nice cheap escape for me. Are you near any massage schools? They typically offer cheap student massages- yet another great way to feel renewed. Also, try to ask for what you need. I actually posted a list on FB of our needs for baby, social time, play dates for DD, grocery gift cards, etc and some friends and family filled our needs. It was tough for me at first to put it out there in "public" that we were struggling, but I'm glad I did because we received so much support and love.

writermama12 I hope you can get some good sleep soon! Pressing right in the center of each heel can help with insomnia. Have you tried lavender essential oil? I put some in coconut oil and use it everywhere my skin is dry or stretched before bed and it helps me sleep better for sure. Hugs about baby's position. Sounds like maybe its time to just let go and let him take the position he will take. You've been trying so hard and I think everyone would agree that you deserve a rest if you decide to just let it go the way it goes.

AFM I found $20 yesterday so I got the veggie burgers I've been craving all week! Wooohoo! DH had the flu this month and missed a week of work unpaid, which was not in our budget, so we've been eating canned goods from the food bank all week. I'm grateful to be eating, but its tough to be so picky and full of cravings when there aren't a lot of options!

I met with my midwife yesterday and she really was emphatic that someone needs to be home with me to care for DD for at least 7 days after this baby comes. Well, we are trying to get creative because everyone who lives nearby and would help works full time. DH doesn't have vacation time, and as we learned this month, him taking a week off puts us in a really bad position. So hes going to ask his boss (who is also his uncle) if he can get a week paid and just work Saturdays later on to make up the hours. Hopefully it works out! I know I will survive if I'm alone with both girls right away, but I get that its not ideal for many reasons.

[Melany]

Originally Posted by veganyogamomma 

I met with my midwife yesterday and she really was emphatic that someone needs to be home with me to care for DD for at least 7 days after this baby comes. Well, we are trying to get creative because everyone who lives nearby and would help works full time. DH doesn't have vacation time, and as we learned this month, him taking a week off puts us in a really bad position. So hes going to ask his boss (who is also his uncle) if he can get a week paid and just work Saturdays later on to make up the hours. Hopefully it works out! I know I will survive if I'm alone with both girls right away, but I get that its not ideal for many reasons.

If your Uncle says no, he is an a$$. I'm sorry if that is harsh, but maybe I'm feeling a little emotional and reading that family is not planning on taking care of family makes me sad. :(

Edited to add: Sorry about the language. I usually avoid that, but I'm in a poor me mood, too. 

[spughy]

Don't have much time but I just wanted to post ((((hugs))))) for all you mamas - ClumsySugarPlum I know what it's like to feel super-frustrated with your spouse and fear that they're not going to be at their best during the birth... and the horrors of the hemorrhoids (ugh, do you have some good meds for those?) and writermama12 - sweetie you need some sleep.  Take some Gravol or something.  Gravol is safe, don't worry, and honestly your baby needs you rested more than he needs a pristine drug-free environment.  And, there's always the possibility that the gravol will mellow him out a bit so he's not so floppy.

I actually feel great and productive today so I won't blather on.

[cabbitdancer]

I think I hit a turning point in the illness, last night. Things started clearing up and I actually got a decent amount of sleep (in between the frequent trips to the bathroom.) I'm still exhausted, though, and congested, but no chance for naps, today. I've got too much to do out of the house. This morning was rather emotional, as I had an appointment at the High Risk OB and my baby has decided to turn breech and appears to want to stay that way, at least for now. My daughter was a c-section due to breech presentation and I had so been hoping that I would avoid that, this time. I had a messy meltdown on my husband, wondering WHY she would "choose" to turn breech, right now, when everything has been going so well. I'm supposed to see my regular OB, this afternoon, so I will ask him, then, for suggestions and the like, but I'm just SOOOOO TIRED of struggling this pregnancy, that it would be easy to just give up and let things fall as they will...

A big hug to all of you dealing with your own load of hooey. It sounds like we could all use a bit of pampering.

[chocolatechip]

Like spughy said, hugs to everybody! I know for me that hard things always seem *way* harder when I don't get enough sleep, so here's hoping you can all manage to get some decent rest to help you with the emotional rollercoasters. Of course, it's harder to deal with the hormonal part!

I went to my prenatal yoga class last night, after missing last week because I was out of town. It felt *so* good. But I told the instructor at the beginning of the class what I thought were my couple of physical problem areas. Those were fine and got nicely stretched during class. Then at the end, we were doing a lying down gentle twist, and I suddenly discovered that my lower back was SO tight, and I often carry emotional tension very physically in my body. So of course, right there in the middle of class, there I went leaking tears. In a good way - it was definitely a release I needed, but I still felt a little silly (and fortunately I did manage to not let it turn into sobbing). Crying in public is a different sort of thing than crying at home. 

spughy - your Vancouver strip sounds wonderfully pampering!

buko and WLL, I have also been thinking about you, and hope all is going well, whatever is happening!

[SlimP]

Oh Clumsy and WriterMama, I feel for you both. This stage is just so exhausting you need decent sleep and an occasional little treat to get you through the physical and emotional swings. My DH is getting a bit cranky and worried about finances too but I think it's just the impending uncertainly of life with the new arrival playing on his mind. In many ways, we've just got our life back now DS is finally sleeping well, is weaned and a happy little guy. It is scary to start over.
I found no-one was insisting I take extra care of myself, you just have to go ahead and book that lunch with a friend or that massage or even take a long nap........a happy rested Mom is more important to that baby than anything else.

ChocChip, great how you are in tune with yourself and can use the mind-body connection to release your pent-up emotion. I am of a scientific bent but there's no doubt there is a strong link between our physical and mental well-being.

CabbitDancer, maybe 'giving up' and just relaxing is what you and baby need. You might be carrying stress unknown to yourself that is somehow keeping baby breech or there is a reason she is assuming that position. I'm hoping a 'Whatever will be, will be.' attitude will at the very least, allow me to accept and go with Plan B and C.

WriterMama, you mentioned sweaty sleep earlier in the thread. I get horrible early pregnancy night sweats and post-partum with DS, but I know everyone doesn't during their pregnancy hormonal swings. I've had them again the last few nights and wondering if anyone else experienced them as I'm a little anxious they are again indicating some hormonal change in progress!?

[beautifulnm]

ooh, SlimP, maybe it means labor is coming soon? I don't remember your "due" date.. I had awful post partum hot flashes too. I wonder if it was just pregnancy in general, or if it's better/worse having a girl/boy?

cabbit,

hugs. I hope you get the rest and break from stress that you need. Maybe, and I know this sounds bad at the moment, just focus on the end result of having a happy, healthy baby and post partum recovery rather than stressing every step of how to get there.