I guess I thought this was the most appropriate category to put this post in. I feel I am grieving already. My grandmother lives in a assisted care facility.....but she lives in the section where it is basically apartments for the elderly. She lives completely on her own with no one checking in on her.....in her own little apartment.
It has been months now of my mother telling me how my grandma is seeing things. She sees "heads looking in on her from the windows" ...that is how it started. It is progressively getting worse. Now she is seeing "spider men" spiders that turn to men, and little men that turn to spiders. She says they are crawling on the floors and ceilings. Crawling in the lights. She says a family of them now live in her TV.
The relationship with my mother and grandmother is horrible. She does not respect my mother at all. Mentally abused my mother her whole life. On the other hand she has the up most respect for my fiance and I. So I feel like the responsibility falls all on us. My mother has tried to get her to see a doctor....my grandmother has said to her "what is wrong with your eyes child!" when my mother says she does not see the things my grandmother is seeing. I have been too scared I guess to bring the subject up with her when talking......and she hasn't brought it up with me either.
My grandmother needs to be in an assisted living facility. I believe she most definitely has dementia. I am very worried about her living alone. I fear she will run away out of her apartment in fear of the "spider men" , and end up on the cold streets lost and end up hurt, or the worst dead.
How do I deal with this? How do I tell my grandmother that half way raised me, that she is loosing her mind? How do I get her to get the help that she so desperately needs?
PLEASE any one with prior experience with an elderly with these issues....help me? Any advice or guidance would be so so greatly appreciated.
Thank you for reading my long post.