Originally Posted by loveandgarbage
Haha, thanks! It's definitely a funny tale to bring up at parties. I always get some jaw drops!
akemi, my husband's side are pretty big boned and tall German folk. So those genes have completely taken over (so far) my genes-- I come from a very petite family.
hehe- my hubby is also a big German guy w/ a couple of cousins well over 6'5" and women who are 6'.....
and my family is all more compact and the women petite (i'm tall enough at 5'4", though one uncle married into tall german stock and so i have a cousin whose a 6' woman too)
but i've been blessed to have late and still compact babies! my biggest was 8lbs 8oz, 23 inches long, and she's 3 years old and in size 5, so she's gonna be on the big side. this one feels a bit bigger than my 7lber (my 2 7lbers are petite and dark and look more like me than my blond blue-eyed german kids.)
Dia- i'll confess i worried about this and didn't process it well before birth. a rough birth and then a lonely transition into motherhood didn't make it easier. i didn't fall in love right away- i was fiercely possessive and adoring and maternal, but it was also just exhausting and overwhelming and my DS1 was not an easy baby... but we grew together in it- my husband, son and i. we all changed, we all softened and shifted, and you know what? even w/ my struggles, i was the right mother for this little man. and he was the right child for me. and we couldn't love each other more- even if i wasn't baby crazy and it was hard, it was the change that we both were supposed to go through. even now, number 5 on the way, my husband freaks out and shrieks 'i can't believe we're gonna have ANOTHER baby! what are we gonna do with it?' i'm laughing b/c the movements freak him out a bit, labor isn't his favorite thing, he's terrified of the newborn state (though he's amazing with them), and the thought of one more needy thing is pretty intense. but we're also really excited and ready and know it will be amazing. i think it's perfectly normal to be processing this! it's a lot like labor- it's real, it's brutal, but it's not a problem if you can release your fears and embrace that this child is yours, it is uniquely and beautifully part of you and totally NOT you. you are responsible for this new person, but they are also totally independent individuals from birth and you can't be responsible for every aspect of them. you are the best mother for this child.