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post #41 of 108

I'm 39 weeks today and also feeling fantastic. Which my mother-in-law says means "labor isn't coming anytime soon". Grrrrrrreat. I haven't had any bloody show or loss of mucous, just a few painful cramps here and there. Baby's head isn't engaged as far as I can tell, and I've opted not to have cervical checks so I have no idea what "progress" I've made in centimeters. I'm inclined to think I'll give birth closer to 42 weeks than everyone else has predicted.

 

My mom's flight gets in at eight o'clock tonight and I just feel this huge pressure to hurry up and have the baby, but there is nothing I can do to hurry anything up! I almost feel like anything I do right now is futile- clean? Nah, the house'll just get dirty between now and labor time, so I may as well wait til I'm actually in early labor. wink1.gif

 

I did clean the whole house today so my mom doesn't think I'm a slob, plus wrote and printed out my birth plan, and half of my hospital bag is packed. That's pretty much as productive as I'm going to be until I, you know, have to push out a baby. 

post #42 of 108

It's cool we're talking about parenting fears in here. When I was pregnant with DS1 I had a full out panic attack thinking about how much I would love my child and how worried/anxious I would be 24/7. It was intense. I AM a worrier by nature, but I've managed it pretty well I think. For me, it's gotten easier with time. Also I don't know if there are other mamas on here who have OCD like me, but postpartum intensified my symptoms like tenfold. Daily/hourly affirmations really helped me.

 

I also wish someone had told me before giving birth that you wouldn't suddenly feel this intense love for you child the second he/she left your body. Intensively protective and interested? Of course. But for me, especially with my first, I felt like everyday I fell more in love with my son. Sometimes it felt like a ton of bricks raining down on my shoulders. The responsibility, the fear that's wrapped up in a mother's love, the thoughts about what I could lose if I completely gave into this guttural love. But it's beautiful. There's no better love in the world.

post #43 of 108
39 weeks today.

I've been walking, squatting, sitting cross legged at the advice of my doula (found a volunteer, so happy because if i would've had to pay it wouldn't have been possible AT ALL).

Since Sunday night my Braxton Hicks' have been coming about every half hr with a period like pain at the bottom of my belly, then this morning I had some egg-white like discharge like I haven't seen for MONTHS (may be some of my mucous plug?!) Back to MW on Friday.

I do have those 'wow my life is about to totally change FOREVER' moments, and I am a bit sad I didn't get to do lots of the pre-baby things I wanted to with DH, but I am so happy and excited about my daughter... So looking forward to meeting her!
post #44 of 108
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Originally Posted by loveandgarbage View Post

It's cool we're talking about parenting fears in here. When I was pregnant with DS1 I had a full out panic attack thinking about how much I would love my child and how worried/anxious I would be 24/7. It was intense. I AM a worrier by nature, but I've managed it pretty well I think. For me, it's gotten easier with time. Also I don't know if there are other mamas on here who have OCD like me, but postpartum intensified my symptoms like tenfold. Daily/hourly affirmations really helped me.

 

I also wish someone had told me before giving birth that you wouldn't suddenly feel this intense love for you child the second he/she left your body. Intensively protective and interested? Of course. But for me, especially with my first, I felt like everyday I fell more in love with my son. Sometimes it felt like a ton of bricks raining down on my shoulders. The responsibility, the fear that's wrapped up in a mother's love, the thoughts about what I could lose if I completely gave into this guttural love. But it's beautiful. There's no better love in the world.


<3

 

 

I'm also feeling some of the lets-get-this-baby-out pressure because I'm painfully aware that every day that goes by without baby is one less day of maternity leave I get with her before I have to go back to work. Plus the text/facebook/email messages of "how are you feeling" or "baby yet?" are really grinding at my nerves.

 

I'd also like to announce that it's officially been confirmed that I hate being a housewife. It's been three days of this and I'm so bored I feel like I'm losing my mind a little. All of my housekeeping chores are generally done within a couple hours and then I'm just wandering around the house like a restless ghost until DH comes home from work in the evening. I think I'm even bugging the cats.

post #45 of 108

Once again, this link may prove useful to us all:

 

http://www.haveyouhadthatbabyyet.com/

post #46 of 108
Thread Starter 
I'm so emotionally shot, nauseous, and worn out. Had a bit more bloody show today and lots of bowel movements and it could still be weeks. Ugh.

I'm going to try to lose myself in the sweet bliss of sleep now...
post #47 of 108
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Once again, this link may prove useful to us all:

 

http://www.haveyouhadthatbabyyet.com/


posted to Facebook.

post #48 of 108
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Once again, this link may prove useful to us all:

 

http://www.haveyouhadthatbabyyet.com/

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post #49 of 108
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Originally Posted by buko View Post

Once again, this link may prove useful to us all:

 

http://www.haveyouhadthatbabyyet.com/

thanks!

post #50 of 108

love that link, i'll save it for my due date ;)

post #51 of 108
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Once again, this link may prove useful to us all:

 

http://www.haveyouhadthatbabyyet.com/


So awesome!  I get this (jokingly) at work almost every day.  Today is my last day but I'm sure they will find a way to still ask me this once I"m off  LOL

post #52 of 108

hehe- just posted the link above on facebook since my MIL mentioned i started false labor last night.  UGH.  2+ hours of 5 minutes apart 2 minute long contractions (double peaking) all to putter out right after i call the midwife.  she's far away, i made her bed, then called her back and told her never mind!  i've got a mixed problem of not being able to labor w/out my midwife present, but having extreme social anxiety and worrying that i'll make her wait too long, or stall out, etc.  FUN.  husband told me he'll catch.  he's just ready for me to stop stalling.  i do have a history of stalling out!

 

also- thought of many moms here when i realized my friend's pics on facebook have this one coffee mug in the background at all times.  it will be a beautiful coffee drink, pastry, bible, book, or other things she's doing w/ her coffee, and her coffee mug reads "Coffee makes me Poop".  cracks me up every time!  

post #53 of 108
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Originally Posted by HouseofPeace View Post

hehe- just posted the link above on facebook since my MIL mentioned i started false labor last night.  UGH.  2+ hours of 5 minutes apart 2 minute long contractions (double peaking) all to putter out right after i call the midwife.  she's far away, i made her bed, then called her back and told her never mind!  i've got a mixed problem of not being able to labor w/out my midwife present, but having extreme social anxiety and worrying that i'll make her wait too long, or stall out, etc.  FUN.  husband told me he'll catch.  he's just ready for me to stop stalling.  i do have a history of stalling out!

 

also- thought of many moms here when i realized my friend's pics on facebook have this one coffee mug in the background at all times.  it will be a beautiful coffee drink, pastry, bible, book, or other things she's doing w/ her coffee, and her coffee mug reads "Coffee makes me Poop".  cracks me up every time!  

That is so hard. I'm sorry. I hope tonight's the night for you!

post #54 of 108
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Originally Posted by HouseofPeace View Post

hehe- just posted the link above on facebook since my MIL mentioned i started false labor last night.  UGH.  2+ hours of 5 minutes apart 2 minute long contractions (double peaking) all to putter out right after i call the midwife.  she's far away, i made her bed, then called her back and told her never mind!  i've got a mixed problem of not being able to labor w/out my midwife present, but having extreme social anxiety and worrying that i'll make her wait too long, or stall out, etc.  FUN.  husband told me he'll catch.  he's just ready for me to stop stalling.  i do have a history of stalling out!

 

also- thought of many moms here when i realized my friend's pics on facebook have this one coffee mug in the background at all times.  it will be a beautiful coffee drink, pastry, bible, book, or other things she's doing w/ her coffee, and her coffee mug reads "Coffee makes me Poop".  cracks me up every time!  

baby vibes! goodvibes.gif   

post #55 of 108

me too!  also- who's facing the Boston snowstorm?  Nemo?!

ha- here's my forecast http://www.weather.com/weather/tenday/Amherst+MA+01002:4:US

and my midwife is 2 hours away in good weather.....

 

Thanks!

post #56 of 108
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Originally Posted by HouseofPeace View Post

me too!  also- who's facing the Boston snowstorm?  Nemo?!

ha- here's my forecast http://www.weather.com/weather/tenday/Amherst+MA+01002:4:US

and my midwife is 2 hours away in good weather.....

 

Thanks!


lol just started a thread about this!  The forecast is looking worse all the time!

post #57 of 108

wow that snow storm looks interesting!!  we just have rain in the forecast here with a slight possibility of snow sometime mid next week but it very likely won't happen ..

 

well, my labor signs from yesterday & the day before probably were a mild stomach bug cause now my mom has it :P  oh well..

 

i have had more ctx than usual today.. but whatever..  my BP was back down when i checked it today, i think going to my midwife's house is just making me nervous and raising my BP .. they keep casually bringing up the possibility of another mom being in labor at the same time as i am and would i be willing to drive up to the birth-house if that were to happen - I don't want that, i want a homebirth! I spent all this money and time setting things up here, my labors are not long enough to semi-comfortably pack everything up and drive an HOUR to her house! plus i don't want to drive an hour home with a newborn..  just don't want to do any of it!  its not that likely that it will happen, but there is always a chance :P i think next time i'm going to have to ask what happens if i refuse, there are 2 midwives, will they split up? which one will i get? for my last birth they were both here and things were crazy and they both needed to be here..  which is probably why this all makes me so nervous..  i need to not worry and focus on everything being no only easy/uncomplicated but on my midwife getting here etc.

post #58 of 108

Feeling pretty good but I do notice things get harder to do around the house. I have never been this long pregnant and this is number 4 :). Saturday I had contractions all day and we really thought he would arrive but then the contractions stopped. Yesterday I woke up at around 4am with contractions and they lasted about 4hrs again. If this continues we might end up having him at home as I won't be able to tell when it's the real deal. You would think after 3 already I'm a pro but this little guy has been sneaky from the beginning.
Then add to it that both dh and I had dreams of him being born here at home as we didn't make it to the hospital. Not sure what to think of that, especially since I never mentioned my dream to dh until he said he had that dream. I guess we shall see and be prepared for anything.
I have an appointment this afternoon and hopefully they can tell me how this little guy is laying in there as I still feel him all over the place. I'll be 40wks on Sunday and can't wait to meet this little guy.

post #59 of 108

I have been having contractions, as well.  Not really-- just a teensy bit-- but starting to gear up, I guess.  I had some cramping night before last-- pretty minor, definitely not anything close to regular contractions.  I think just a sign that, hey, I am "full term" (37w today) and getting closer to meeting my baby, because I hadn't had anything like that before.  Until then, just some painless BH, and those only during the last week.  Then, yesterday, I had a very full bladder and was stuck in traffic for about an hour, and that triggered some cramping as well.  I think it's just the very, very beginning of my body saying "hey, you're going to have this baby sometime in the next month or so!" 

post #60 of 108

i slept in the guest room last night, if you want to call it sleeping. the only time my husband pays attention to me is when i'm in bed falling asleep and he's decided to put his laptop away. it's been this way for months, but it just built up to the point last night that i just cannot handle it. this is the one time in my life that i've needed a little affection/attention and i'm just put on the back burner for his job. he thinks he has to 'catch up' with his job before baby comes, but it's. never. going. to. happen. i cannot stop crying and am a complete wreck. i feel like once baby is here i won't even be noticed anymore. if i bring it up, i know he'll just get defensive so i let him go to a meeting a few towns over this morning without saying why i'm upset. i wish i had a hole to crawl into.

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