As we were walking into school this morning, my sweet and very innocent 5 year old son said to me 'look mama, he's fat' while we passed an older boy (7th grader).
When I pointedly ignored the comment, and tried to hurry us along, he only repeated it, giggling.
Please understand he is not a mean child. On the contrary, he is very sweet and loves everyone. He was not making fun of this boy. He was simply making an observation, and has no concept of how that would be hurtful.
I pulled him close and whispered "we do not call people fat. It's very naughty", and that was that.
My heart is aching for this older boy, whom I know has body image issues and appears to suffer from bouts of depression. (my daughter is friends with him, and his mother has discussed this with me in the past). I HATE that he had to hear that this morning. It seriously has ruined my day.. I can't stop thinking about what I should have done or said differently, or how this kid's day is probably now shot too, and how embarrassed he must feel.
I'm wondering what to do now, or what I could have done differently. I would love suggestions or advice. I do plan on having a talk with my son after school about how some words are hurtful and how we must keep some of our thoughts to ourselves. I know he will be confused, as to him this is just fact.. observed and stated in complete innocence.