So I went to pick up my intact son from daycare today and he was poopy, so this woman insisted on changing him before I took him. I looked away for a moment and when I looked back she had his foreskin partially retracted. She said, "I don't want you to be alarmed, mom, but I can only retract his foreskin this far." To which I responded, "You don't need to retract his foreskin at all, and in fact you shouldn't." This woman, whom I had never met before, proceeded to tell me that I was wrong and if you don't pull back on the foreskin then it can completely close up. Apparently she had a friend that had to get a circumcision as an adult for this reason, or some bs like that.
Am I off base? I know I read that retraction is unnecessary and possibly painful at this age, but the doctor I took him to down here tried to retract his foreskin, and now this daycare worker was trying. If I'm correct, how do I keep these uneducated women from sexually assaulting my son while I'm at work? And if I switch daycares, how do I know this isn't going to happen again? I'm frustrated and pissed off.
Does anyone have a link to some good medical research on this, or some other reliable source that I can print out and show them?