Yes, birth, great questions! Interesting how my post said very little about pregnancy and birth...I am feeling challenged to make a "connection" with this baby, seems I have less time to enjoy the ride I guess. I am soooo elated to have midwifery care this time. I was really hoping for a homebirth, but due to a hemmorhage last time, and being 30 mins from the hospital, we will do hospital instead. I had a good cry about it, but am still really glad to have the care of midwives. My daughter can be present, I can have a water birth (if the pool is available, there is only 1, but not many practicioners that use it). And, I just found out yesterday that I will probably have a professional photographer there! (I say probably as I have not discussed this with DH yet). The midwives are covered by our provincial healthcare, but have very limited openings, so I am honoured that they chose to take us into care.
My pregnancy has been very similar to last time. No issues at all, however, I am already heavier and bigger than I was at 9 months last time so playing on the floor is not that fun! Actually, our big family bed is on the floor, that is my biggest obstacle. We plan on setting up the bed frames this weekend to prep the house for selling, so that will be nice for me.
Just after my birth last time, I was very happy with how it went. As time went on, I have become more and more annoyed at myself and hubby for allowing it to progress the way it did, but I'm trying to let that go. We planned to stay at home as long as possible, but went in when contractions were still very manageable since I didn't think that the baby was moving around much and felt she needed to be checked. Through the whole pregnancy, I never noticed her move a lot, so not sure where I got this idea. Anyway, arrived at 5cm. When I was "still" at 8.5cm about 5 hours later, they said it was time for pitocin, and we just said yes, right away, no questions. She never showed any distress whatsoever, so I wish we would have waited or declined. I was ready for a nap! Anyway, the pitocin had no effect on me, even at the maximum dose. They told me to push when still at 8.5cm and no urge to push. So, I pushed for 4 hours. Needed an episiotomy because I was too swollen to stretch any more. But born without any assistance. I was very happy with the nurses (one nurse assigned to each patient, full time, but I went over a shift change), the GP and the OB (called in just at the end). I am grateful that they never suggested or threatened a section, but I think I feared that they were all thinking it, which affected my decision making. Really wish I had had a doula! Not for myself (team of DH and mom were AWESOME!!) but to help me deal with hospital staff and decision making. Oh, and I didn't notice the hemmorhage at all. Guess I was busy loving my new babe! We nuzzled skin on skin right away, dad held her while I was stitched up, then she nursed for a bit before I showered. I passed their blood test with flying colours. I almost forgot to tell my midwife about it. So, annoyed that the pitocin is the probable cause for our not being able to have a homebirth this time (known to cause hemmorhages), and also now reading about the possible long term effects on DD.
My friend took the hypnobabies class, so I am planning to borrow the material from her. I really want DD to be present, if she wants to be, and think that a home setting would be a lot nicer for this. In-laws will probably be watching her and I am worried that they will not follow our wishes, so we will need to have some serious conversations about that. She loves watching her birth video!