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Hi Everyone! My name is Quinn and I am due April 13. I live in Alberta, Canada with my husband Darren and daughter Soleil, born Sept 2010. I am at work and forgot to bring pictures to share - oops! Anyway, where to start…well, hubby and I both grew up in Manitoba, and are just getting ready to sell our home and move back there to be with family. We have been thinking about it since DD was born, but thought we would stay here for another year, since he works at home and I get a year maternity leave, so it would be nice to have us all at home together for that year (if we move, he will keep his job, but will have to go to the office every day). But we have had enough! Almost all our family is there, and we want to nurture the relationships that our kids will have with the rest of the people who are important in our lives. So, that means sorting, packing, and keeping the house super clean for the next few months to get this thing sold! Pretty stressful, but I am trying to just go with the flow.
I am an accountant and have been working full time since my daughter was a year old. I am so ready to be done work. We have been saving up so that I can stay off for a few years, maybe just working from home doing some bookkeeping or something. I am really excited to be a stay at home mom again. Right now, mainly due to our daily schedule, husband does all the cooking. Don’t get me wrong, he is a great cook, but I am ready to have a little more variety! I have recently joined the Weston A. Price Foundation and started attending the events in our area. I am really interested in starting to do some fermented foods and drinks.
So I don’t really have a lot of hobbies (basically just feel like I am barely keeping it together, working full time and all). I do enjoy home décor, so I guess since we are moving I will have a few new projects to work on! Basically, I am just ready to jump head first into being a homemaker! I still nurse my daughter, so working on a tandem nursing relationship will be one of my main challenges once this new little one comes along. I look forward to meeting some new friends at LLL in our new city.
This seems pretty long, so guess I will cut it off here…please send in your questions! I haven’t been very active on this board, but I do enjoy reading the threads, and would love to feel more connected to the group. Thanks for reading and have a great day!!
Hi Quinn!
What are your "plans" (for lack of a better word) for the birth this time (i.e. where and with what kind of HCP do you plan on)? What was your birth with your daughter like? Has this pregnancy been very similar or different from your daughter's?
Yes, birth, great questions! Interesting how my post said very little about pregnancy and birth...I am feeling challenged to make a "connection" with this baby, seems I have less time to enjoy the ride I guess. I am soooo elated to have midwifery care this time. I was really hoping for a homebirth, but due to a hemmorhage last time, and being 30 mins from the hospital, we will do hospital instead. I had a good cry about it, but am still really glad to have the care of midwives. My daughter can be present, I can have a water birth (if the pool is available, there is only 1, but not many practicioners that use it). And, I just found out yesterday that I will probably have a professional photographer there! (I say probably as I have not discussed this with DH yet). The midwives are covered by our provincial healthcare, but have very limited openings, so I am honoured that they chose to take us into care.
My pregnancy has been very similar to last time. No issues at all, however, I am already heavier and bigger than I was at 9 months last time so playing on the floor is not that fun! Actually, our big family bed is on the floor, that is my biggest obstacle. We plan on setting up the bed frames this weekend to prep the house for selling, so that will be nice for me.
Just after my birth last time, I was very happy with how it went. As time went on, I have become more and more annoyed at myself and hubby for allowing it to progress the way it did, but I'm trying to let that go. We planned to stay at home as long as possible, but went in when contractions were still very manageable since I didn't think that the baby was moving around much and felt she needed to be checked. Through the whole pregnancy, I never noticed her move a lot, so not sure where I got this idea. Anyway, arrived at 5cm. When I was "still" at 8.5cm about 5 hours later, they said it was time for pitocin, and we just said yes, right away, no questions. She never showed any distress whatsoever, so I wish we would have waited or declined. I was ready for a nap! Anyway, the pitocin had no effect on me, even at the maximum dose. They told me to push when still at 8.5cm and no urge to push. So, I pushed for 4 hours. Needed an episiotomy because I was too swollen to stretch any more. But born without any assistance. I was very happy with the nurses (one nurse assigned to each patient, full time, but I went over a shift change), the GP and the OB (called in just at the end). I am grateful that they never suggested or threatened a section, but I think I feared that they were all thinking it, which affected my decision making. Really wish I had had a doula! Not for myself (team of DH and mom were AWESOME!!) but to help me deal with hospital staff and decision making. Oh, and I didn't notice the hemmorhage at all. Guess I was busy loving my new babe! We nuzzled skin on skin right away, dad held her while I was stitched up, then she nursed for a bit before I showered. I passed their blood test with flying colours. I almost forgot to tell my midwife about it. So, annoyed that the pitocin is the probable cause for our not being able to have a homebirth this time (known to cause hemmorhages), and also now reading about the possible long term effects on DD.
My friend took the hypnobabies class, so I am planning to borrow the material from her. I really want DD to be present, if she wants to be, and think that a home setting would be a lot nicer for this. In-laws will probably be watching her and I am worried that they will not follow our wishes, so we will need to have some serious conversations about that. She loves watching her birth video!
Having just had my parents pack up and move their entire life from Oregon to California to be close to us, I can totally relate to you wanting to move home and think that is awesome! I feel it's very important for the sake of the children.
That's incredible that you have saved up enough to stay off work for so long! I hope things go as smoothly and quickly as possible with the selling of your home.
Do you have names picked out for this LO yet? Do you have a theme for baby's space? What's your favorite color?
Soleil is such a cute name :)
You didn't mention if this baby is a boy or a girl.. are you keeping it a surprise? What names do you have in mind?
Having just had my parents pack up and move their entire life from Oregon to California to be close to us, I can totally relate to you wanting to move home and think that is awesome! I feel it's very important for the sake of the children.
That's incredible that you have saved up enough to stay off work for so long! I hope things go as smoothly and quickly as possible with the selling of your home.
Thanks! We got **ALMOST** everything done this weekend, so will be "listed" some time this week. Eeek! Let the games begin...
Do you have names picked out for this LO yet? Do you have a theme for baby's space? What's your favorite color?
We are having trouble with names! For boy, we really like Eli, but it is getting popular, which we don't really like. In my home province, for 2011, if you add "Eli" and "Elijah" together, it is a top 20 name! Yikes. But it is the one that feels "right". We also like Huxley, and Sagan (this will probably be the middle name, after Carl Sagan). I really like Lachlan, still trying to convince DH on that one. If it's a girl, I think we are set on Avaya. (I have heard it is a telecommunications company, but no one has heard of them here...) Runner up right now is Seneca, Senna for short, or just Senna. But I don't really like that both girls would be "S" names. Any thoughts? Suggestions??
Baby doesn't really have a space right now! Will be in our room for now, and we will see if the house sells, and what is to come from that. New home is on the horizon for us I hope!
I think my favourite colour is blue. Makes me feel calm. For wall colours, I like earthy but not boring, like mossy green or deep grey. But I like to wear red. And I also loooove orange - we are "team orange" not "team green" LOL!
Soleil is such a cute name :)
Thanks! We had pretty much decided on it before we were even pregnant. Our runner up at the time was Vienna, but it's not even on our list this time!
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