So I have been toying with the idea of plant based eating for a year now. I cook and eat plant based (ie vegan) at home but DH cooks bacon, burgers etc and has lunch meats and cheeses in the house.
Because of that it's difficult to take a stance with the kids. I find that sometimes they eat my vegan meal happily but other times I give them parmesan cheese or throw an egg in the recipe for them to make the meal more palatable. Very occasionally, I cook a meat dish at DD's request.
I also run a small in-home day care where as a compromise I include meat, fish, eggs or dairy in the menu but I try to cook and serve the food in such as way that emphasizes the plant foods. My son (2) sometimes eats the meat dishes but I leave off the meat for myself. If there are leftovers, I offer these foods to my family in the evening but I also offer a totally vegan option which I eat myself.
However, I have pangs of guilt as I sprinkle cheese on my kids' food but withhold from eating it myself. Or as I make them a meat sandwich but have a peanut butter one myself. I am finding it different to separate my own identity from that of my small children. If I want the best for them, how can I make this decision for myself but not for them? Is it really enough to lead by example, offer my food but also respect their wishes if they prefer meat? How can I feed myself in a "better" way than I feed my children? Because I do see plant based eating as a better way, health wise, environmentally and ethically.
Ideally, I would like to feed them vegan at home but this is not going to happen with DH not on board. Are there others of you that are the only vegetarian / vegan in your family? Do you cook meat for your family? How do you cope with refusing to eat it on one hand but using it to nourish your children on the other hand?