Our dd has spent several nights at a time away from us with one of my sisters. We spend a lot together and basically my sisters home is like a 2nd home to dd and I. My sister will cosleep with dd too. Aside from that my DD hasn't done sleepovers bc she gets apprehensive (or I do, or we both do) at the thought of other people caring for her overnight.
However DH and I would really like to go away in a few weeks to a couples retreat: we have been having some issues and also want to juice life up again before the next child arrives in a few months. (basically we want to take proactive steps so our marriage survives).
Normally we could have DD stay with my sister (sister 1) but she will be away for work. My other sister2 is able to take DD for the weekend but has some concerns about bedtime bc her kids all sleep on their own (we have very different parenting styles: she parents more like our parents did). But I feel that my dd was in child care from 3months old and also goes to kindergarten so she has had an array of different styles.
I guess I am looking for reassurance I wont destroy her psycological well being by asking her to spend a weekend with Sister 2. DD has spent nights at sister2's house with me and sister1 and has spent time with sister2 though not anywhere as much as sister1.
At this point DD can fall asleep if someone is close by but doesnt do well with the whole now go to sleep basically on your own thing. Also she sometimes will fuss in the middle of the night and doesn't always self soothe back but for the most part will if she can.
Any thoughts or tips to make this an easy time for all of us?! Or general support so I don't feel like a monster for asking my DD to "take one for the team" so to speak because I really believe if hubby and I don't do something our marriage might go thread bare (we are at 12yrs together next month.)