DS is almost 9 mths. He has been a frequent/short feeder since birth. In the past few months, nursing him has become increasingly difficult because of the way he nurses. He sucks for a minute, pulls off, comes back to suck again, pulls off, he will push at my breast, scratch at them, pull all but the nipple out of his mouth and then pull at that while he is nursing....for almost every feed. This happens if we lie down, if I sit and hold him, if I nurse him in the wrap, or if we are alone or with other people. If I think that he's done and try to put my boob away, he'll scream until I put him back on, but then repeat the same pattern again. My left nipple is so sore and is even cracking. I went to a BF clinic, and the nurse thought that maybe he had silent reflux that was making him feed this way. We did a trial of reflux meds, but it didn't seem to help any and I wasn't comfortable continuing with medication that I wasn't sure he needed. He has several food intolerances (soy/dairy/gluten) but I have been free of all this for a while now, so I'm not sure if this is related to the way he nurses.
He is so rough with me that it is really taking a toll on our nursing relationship; a lot of the time I don't enjoy nursing him (which makes me feel awful) and I have even thought about weaning him at a year, even though I nursed my first son until he was over 2 and fully believe in extended BF. Has anyone else experienced this with their LO's? Do you know what caused it? What did you do to get through it?