Hi Peacemamalove, I can understand where you're coming from. This pregnancy was a complete shock to me as well. We lost our 1st child in June 2009, and were told that our chances of having another one were very slim. When I took the home test to see if I were pregnant or not, I thought, "This is going to be a waste of time, there's no way that it happened again." Well, the test immediately showed 2 bright lines, to my amazement. I dropped it on the floor and actually yelled, "NO! This can't be happening!" My husband came in and asked what was going on and I showed him the test. "How did this happen?" I demanded, and he just laughed and asked, "Do you really want me to explain how it happened?" Men.
Anyway, best of luck to you. We are in the midst of trying to find a midwife, and it's been hard. One flat out rejected me, two never called me back, one is booked up when I am due, one wants to charge what my husband and I feel is ridiculous. And, of course, our insurance isn't going to pay for any prenatals, the birth, or postpartums. Lovely. However, a lady I met on here referred me to another midwife, whose fee is much more reasonable and realistic for us. Maybe you could post that you're looking for an affordable midwife in the Find Your Tribe for Vermont? I am like you, the hospital is where I go ONLY if there is a life or death emergency. I feel that I could UC without a lot of trouble. The loss we had in 2009 was basically unassisted, so we feel like a UC wouldn't be a huge issue. It is all a lot to take in at once, though, especially if your pregnancy was a surprise. I can definitely understand your feeling of being out of the loop. We don't have any other children, and I feel like I've never even really been in the loop. LOL.
We are so excited to UC this time! My other kids are so so excite for a new baby! My youngest is 7 so it's been quite a while since there has been a baby in the house! Getting more and more excited every day!!!
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