Hello everyone! I have been reading through some of the posts and just signed up to ask some questions and advice.
I am 20w3d with my first pregnancy. Pretty much since the beginning I have wanted to do an unassisted birth at home with just my partner and my mom (who is my best friend). Both of them have expressed their stress over me not getting any prenatal care and it only being the 3 of us. My mom is the mother of 4, all vaginal births without drugs, my birth (her last) was at home with midwives. She feels that I need at least one prenatal check up to make sure everything is okay with baby. I am not going to get an ultrasound and so I am not sure what she expects to find out from the one visit. She says in order for her to not be stressed out during labor she needs me to do this. My sweetheart also feels I should get one prenatal check up to calm my mother's nerves, but he really knows nothing about birth/pregnancy and has done absolutely no reading on the subject (even when I give him Ina May Gaskin's books and ask him to read a little). I think it would also make him feel a little better knowing that I had seen the doctor once.
I feel like everything is going just fine. I am very connected to my body and have no signs or symptoms of things going wrong. I work at an acupuncture clinic and receive monthly acupuncture treatments. I also talk at great lengths with my acupuncturist (mother of 2 home born girls) and so I do get a lot of prenatal advice.
My biggest concern is finding a doctor who won't lecture me on my lack of prenatal care before 5 months and possibly their opinions on UC. I don't want an ultrasound, I don't want to go in more than once, I don't want to be lectured or feel like I need to lie in order to get a doctor off my case.
Do any of you have any suggestions for either convincing my mother I am fine without a prenatal check up or for finding (and talking to) a doctor who will be okay with me seeing them only once?
I feel like I am being pushed into receiving care I do not want to have and that is the whole reason why I want to do a UP/UC in the first place!! I don't feel like anything is wrong and my body knows exactly how to have a baby. I would rather have as little interference as possible. I have felt amazing through out the last five months and don't feel like I need any tests done to show me where I am at in comparison with the FDA and WHO's statics.
Thank you all so much in advance! I look forward to being a more active participant of this forum as time goes one.