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[lolliegee]

One thing to keep in mind, is that your body does some spreading to make room for the growing baby. Your ribs will spread, causing your torso to look bigger and your hips will spread causing your butt and thighs to get bigger too. Of course, diet can play into it, but there's nothing you can do about the spreading.

[cynthiamoon]

I am up 17lbs at 18wks and not feeling good about it since I've read about the risks and struggles that can come from gaining too much.

However, I think it's pretty much all in the belly which makes me feel much better. I'd be worried if it was my neck, arms, etc. getting bigger, because then it would just be normal "getting fat" not special "getting pregnant" weight gain.

I think part of the guilt comes from knowing I could be doing better about food and exercise. I do think I need a better balance of foods with less emphasis on wheat and dairy and more veggies.

[midsummer]

Hi friends, I was extremely sick throughout the first trimester and now, at 21.5 weeks, have finally made it up to 5 pounds gained for the whole pregnancy. I see two different midwives, one at the HMO and one for our hoped-for homebirth, and I was at the HMO midwife today and she said I was going to need to "watch out" because I had gained 4 pounds in about the last month. This, after not gaining basically any weight the whole time. She said I needed to lay off the carbs... In my rational mind I am thinking that I'm eating healthier and healthier as the nausea (still!) lets me and I am starting exercising regularly again, and I'm doing the best I can and my body is fine. But the other part of my mind is really upset over her comments and frustrated that I don't know what to eat (meat proteins still make me sick, as do most vegetables, so I've been pretty dairy and carb heavy, but what can I do??) Do you all have any good perspective for me? Luckily I have my homebirth midwife to see next week who will hopefully be more supportive. Right now however I just feel terrible. 

[dayiscoming2006]

Hey midsummer. I'd totally ignore HMO midwife. She sounds like a jerk. You sound like you are doing fine. 4 lbs in one month is diddily squat. Especially taking into consideration your whole pregnancy. It sounds like you are doing the best you can. Continue on that route. Eat as healthy as you can manage and keep up the healthy activity. Sounds like your HMO midwife is more like an OB. Though, many OBs wouldn't make a fuss over a tiny gain of that sort. If you must stick it out with her, just ignore her advice/comments unless they make sense.

[talldarkeyes]

Midsummer that sounds ridiculous. My homebirth midwife called my 5 lbs in one month gain "healthy." Everything I have read says 1 lb. a week from the second trimester on.

[heyitskalista]

Midsummer, I agree with the other ladies... Ignore her. I don't understand why some providers make weight gain such a big deal. You're doing fine!! Don't let her get you down!

[rainbownurse]

everything I've read as well says 1lb a week for the second trimester, depending on your starting weight. 

[lolliegee]

Ditto what the others are saying. Your weight gain is totally fine!

[midsummer]

Thanks everyone. I was pretty upset by her comments yesterday. I was just so pleased that I'd finally gotten on track and gained something and was really thrown that she was so dismissive. I think she probably wasn't thinking, maybe it's the standard thing she says to people who gain weight? Lay off the carbs? Ugh. I am lucky to have my other care provider. And I feel good! So I think I'm doing okay. I was too freaked out to have any carbs at lunch but after dinner finished off the last slice of carrot cake :)