Hi all ...
We're seriously considering adopting the little girl who has been lovingly fostered by our close neighbours since her birth 16 months ago. She is two weeks younger than our youngest, and was born drug-addicted and has some noticeable delays as well as several that are likely to surface as she grows up.
I have a few questions, and if anyone here can help answer them, that'd be great!
1. When it comes to the homestudy, is bedsharing a problem? We currently co-sleep with our 16mo and 4yo.
2. Is homeschooling an issue, typically? Unschooling?
3. Do older babies/toddlers usually take to being worn? She's been worn a bit, but only as an infant. We've never used strollers, so would love to wear her. She'll likely be nearly two by the time she comes to us, if everything works out.
I realize that the answers are child- and regional-specific, but I'd love to hear from others who have BTDT.
As for adoption itself, it's been something we've discussed over the years, especially as we struggled with infertility. Ultimately we 'adopted' the donor embryos that resulted in our two children, both carried by me. So the story is not totally new in our home.
Realizing that adopting an older child with special needs is a much more complex situation, I'm hoping that we're not about to bite off more than we can chew!
I guess I'm just looking for some reassurance from you wise folks!