I have one son who is almost three. sometimes I wonder if having him be an only is actually not a great idea. It is tricky as right now I am in a place where so many things in my life are in flux and feel really challenging- so there are a lot of things making me unhappy!
But- today we spent time with my sister and her many kids- and me and dh and our only. the sister lives in another state so we don't see them often. She has a bunch of kids- all very close in age. And they play together so much! And then there is my kid who only has mom and dad. And it can be so hard! I feel like we have to entertain him constantly. He is behind in speech from my sister's same aged kids. I klnow he will catch up- he just needs more socializing. He communicates fine just doesn't have proper grammar and full sentance structure. I know he is really smart I am not worried about that- he just does not get enough socialization with other kids.
It is hard as dh and I are not super social. I have a fair number of aquaintance type friends but not really any super close friends that we see a lot. We see people every day, go out- live in a nice town with a nice community- and so ds sees other kids and people- but we don't have regular playdates yet- I try but it is hard for me to find it. I take him about two times a week to a kids play place for a few hours. and we go to library story hour, etcetera.
but my sisters kids go in the other room and play together for hours, and she and her husband can sit and not be contstantly interacting with them,.
I am also having a hrad time with my son seeming to want his dad much more than me which really hurst my feelings! but that is another story.
at this point since ds will be three very soon, he would be about four when another baby would be born. Is that even an age gap that wouold enable them to play together? Ds will start preschool next fall but that is 8 months away. that will be better as he will have regular contact with other kids and I will get some down time.
I just don't know if having another kid will be better for our family--- my sister and her husband think having an only is sad for the only. I am wondering if we are making a bad choice in keeping him an only both for ds and for me.
I am just having a hard time having to constantly play with ds. and I feel like he is missing out on the daily play that my sisters get with their siblings.
but having another baby scares me too