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2nd Marriage, 5 children together, None biologically together...

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The title pretty much sums it up.

 

Prior to meeting my DH, I would have laughed in your face of the thought of having another baby. Being a single mom to 4 vivacious mancubs was more than enough for me. One of the earliest conversations with my DH was that I was DONE having kids and he agreed wholeheartedly as he had a vasectomy previously and truly had no desire to have another child (he has a daughter from his previous marriage). 

 

Now I am not sure what is happening to us... sometimes I think it's just the fact I am starting to get "old" for reproduction standards and my brain is getting wonky on me. My DH has started talking about what it would be like if we had a baby together. I can barely look at other babies without feeling my ovaries aching. Last week at the Y a woman asked my DH to hold her 6 month old baby as she put her things into the locker and I nearly cried seeing him hold that little one.

 

We are a super busy family with 4 of the 5 kids living with us full time. The kids are 16, 14, 14, 10 and 7. DH works full time and then some. I am a year away from my Nursing degree. I plan on continuing my education until I am a Certified Nurse Midwife. A baby would put those plans on hold for at least 3 years as I have told my DH I *REFUSE* to work more than a PRN schedule before the baby is 24 months. Which he's fine with. 

 

Am I crazy? Is this something blended families experience? 

 

Standing in the grocery store tonight he saw a toddler snack pack travel box and said, "The baby will need one of these... I mean, if we had one."

 

Someone talk some sense into us before his vasectomy reversal is scheduled!! LOL

post #2 of 4

No real advice, just wanted to let you know that others are reading!

I think that would be hard, I know I would want another in the situation but at the same time I understand all the reasons not to!

 

Good luck mama! Hopefully someone else will have some great advice or words of encouragement one way or the other :)

post #3 of 4
A good pal and her hubby in same boat. She has one kiddo he has two and they wish to conceive one together. They had the vasectomy reversed but that didn't do the trick. Lots of money and time is now being invested in fertility treatments. Bottom line, those reversals are def not a guarantee. Be sure about what you are financially onboard for before you commit to the reversal. My pal saved and saved for it, it was not cheap, and now they feel "all in" because of that investment. Reversal is not always the golden ticket unfortunately. They are meeting many other couples in same situation with an expensive reversal and no conception over a 2 plus year period of TTC.
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Forgot to add, She is 34 and he is 37 years old
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