Now that we're getting close enough to the birthing month that I don't feel foolish about talking about it/planning for it, I've begun to try to formulate in my mind what my birth will look like :) Of course, none of us know, but I think it's good to have a general script to go on, so you're not totally lost. Plus, I think it's great to have a place to work out some of our thoughts/concerns/worries about birth/postpartum.
DD was born in a hospital, with DP and my mother there. I hadn't packed my hospital bag but we did OK.
This time we are birthing at a birth center about an hour from us. It's about two hours from my mother, or an hour if she's at work. I haven't decided exactly WHO will be there. Pretty sure DD will be there, and DP obviously. Part of me wants to make this more intimate (it will be, no matter what, with the smaller, quieter setting) and I doubt my mother could make it to the birth anyways from so far away- I think it's going to be somewhat quick. I think a doula could be helpful, and I'd love her to be able to take pictures- plus, I need to have someone on hand in case DD needs help with something/ freaks out.
I have a feeling this is going to be a lovely, lovely birth, and probably just DP & DD will be there, with the possibility of the doula.
My main concern right now is postpartum. We have only 12 hours after birth at the birth center, with 4-6 hours being average. So, pretty much as soon as we're ready, we'll drive the hour home and hop into bed. I'm feeling anxiety about who will be "
on duty" for DD, since it is usually me, and I'm very much wanting to be free to sleep and cuddle with new baby for at least that first week. Of course DP can help, but I'm assuming he'll be exhausted and wanting to rest to, and he'll only be able to take a couple days at most off from work. My mother is wonderful, and will be coming to help for a couple of days most likely, but she hates sleeping away from home and has two school aged children to care for (plus she lives an hour from us.) I do have other family, but not so much that I'd want to come visit us postpartum. My MIL will want to come help, but that's dicey.
If I can find a way to swing a postpartum doula for after DP goes back to work, or a friend to come take DD to the beach or something, that would be the best :) As long as DD is happily occupied, I know we'll be good.
Phew. Nice to get that off my chest.