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post #241 of 542
We've only picked a boys name, my DB won't even entertain the fact it might b a girl. He's gonna b shocked if its a girl lol
post #242 of 542
Yep, Isla-pronounced eye-lah. Eric kept saying "Iss-lah" in the beginning of discussion, and that's what I'm afraid of-constantly needing to correct people. Sophia is definitely waaaaaay too popular; of course this is coming from the woman who named her oldest Olivia...lol. In my defense, in 2002 it didn't occur to me to check popularity, and the name book I used was my mom's from naming me in 1981, I never once looked online for baby names. Also, a woman I strongly dislike is due 3 months before me, and plans to name her daughter Sophia. She's definitely the type who would constantly spout off about how I copied her baby name (insert eyeroll), and I'm just not even going to go there.

Eric's mom referred to the baby as "little Sophia" earlier today, and I was pretty quick to comment that was likely NOT going to happen. It's a name she's also been suggesting, and even thought Eric isn't really the type to make decisions based on pleasing his mom, I'm afraid her favoritism of the name will cause him to be more stuck on it more than he would be on his own.

For the sake of compromise and consideration of his preference, I have been throwing around Isla Sophia; mostly by saying it in my stern mom voice, you know, the one where you break out the middle name too? lol I like the flow of it, but it's kind of a bummer to have such a "clunky" last name (Burger) with such a flowy name like Isla Sophia.

That being said, we both like Piper, but I don't like the rhyming that Piper Burger would be. Burger was a fun last name when we were calling the baby bacon or cheese; but as for coming up with a name to precede it for real? Not as fun or easy. It was also fun when I told people if the baby were a boy, we were going to name him Angus. ROTFLMAO.gif
post #243 of 542
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Like India Arie? I like that a lot!

yep :)

post #244 of 542

wow...i am shocked...i admit that i am out of contact with most of mainstream culture but i did not realize how popular the name violet is....grrrr...

11 years ago it was not very hip nor common at all.

damn. 

i love the name, but not sure if i want to use it anymore (mind you DH loves it).

 

i have been checking out the name websites posted earlier in this thread...

i have some new ideas but still totally bummed out (am i being totally ridiculous?)

 

on the upside i think we have decided on a boy's name (but keeping it under wraps) :) 

post #245 of 542
I'm trying to find a not-so-popular-but-not-too-out-there-name. So I get it Amanda bee. We named our daughter Alyvia (Olivia spelled weird) and I honestly did not realize how popular it is! I looked at the social security database and apparently it was the #1 name in my state in 2011, the year my dd was born. Oooooops haha. She will probably have at least 4 other Olivia/Livi's in her class. So yeah. Trying to avoid that again!
post #246 of 542
I think, to some extent, it's important to pick a name that really resonates with you regardless of how popular it is. We're trying to avoid names in the top 20, but names further down in the top 100 don't really turn me off. My DS is Kayden and when you combine all the different spellings of Kayden I think his name ended up about #25 for his year. I figure, at least people will know how to say it smile.gif My nephew is Ethan and that name has been top 5 for nearly a decade now, but honestly, the name suits him and I couldn't imagine him having a different name. Even if he has 10 other Ethans in his class at school smile.gif

amanda.bee - Violet was ranked #101 in the USA for 2011, and it's been creeping up in popularity since about 2004, but it hasn't cracked the top #100 yet (though I haven't seen the 2012 rankings yet). If you and your DH both love it... I wouldn't rule it out entirely!

I'm not saying ignore the popularity of a name, just that it's not the be all end all.
post #247 of 542

you are absolutely right livingsky...i had this conversation with my DH last night (he does not care what the name is ranked or if it is popular...he just likes the name)...plus he pretty much vetoed all our other name choices & is totally fixated on violet (so are the kids)...so if the baby is a girl, then violet she most likely will be (or violeta :as pronounced by his spanish speaking side of the family).

we both love the middle name we have chosen (which we have also held onto for the past 11 years: from a character in the novel 100 years of solitude by gabriel garcia marquez).

so her name will be:

 

violet remedios

 

my vetoed list was:

ramona

zinnia

autumn

saffron

vera

dahlia

poppy

hazel

 

 

mamamash: i think i gravitate to the "out there names" lol...plus i definitely have a floral thing going on.

post #248 of 542

I love the name Violet! It would absolutely be on my shortlist if I didn't think it clashed with our last name. And 100 Years of Solitude is one of my favourite books!

post #249 of 542
You are so right livingsky. My dd is absolutely my little Lyvi-Loo-Whoo. It fits her so perfectly. Regardless of how popular her full name is. And if we end up with another top 10 name for this baby so be it!

Haha Amanda bee I like all your vetoed names even if they are a little out there! Some of my choice are a little out there and my dh vetoed them immediately.
post #250 of 542
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I'm in a naming funk. None of the names that have been favorites seem like goof choices anymore.

 

me too. i go back and forth between uncommon names i love, and more classic ones that suggest some kind of family tradition / heritage. i haven't found a good medium yet.

 

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Ari or Arie, we haven't decided on which spelling or exact pronunciation but they are similar.  

 

i love Arie!

 

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wow...i am shocked...i admit that i am out of contact with most of mainstream culture but i did not realize how popular the name violet is....grrrr...

 

i have learned SO MUCH about names since really looking into rankings over the years. something that happens to me a lot is that i come up with a "unique" name but then there's already a book or movie character running around with that name. i am totally out of touch with pop culture, haven't read harry potter, don't know what game of thrones even IS. so, i concluded i must absolutely research every good name that comes to me to make sure there aren't any pop references i'm not aware of.. celebrity babies.. and so fort :)

 

i've recently come across the Turkish girl name Tulay, which i really like. i won't be using it - wrong ethnicity, i'm looking for Slavic. but it's definitely been a name discovery this week :)

i've also stumbled upon Roque for a boy. won't be using this one either, but still a great name.

post #251 of 542

Eric is suddenly campaigning hard for Eleanor-with the nn Ella or Ellie.  I like it, although I'd prefer the nn Nora-which he really doesn't like.  It's not my most favorite name ever, but I'm so weird about my naming preferences, that I tend to lean toward the side of compromise when it's not a name that I have a strong objection to. (And the only other Eleanor I know is the almost 2 year old daughter of a friend from highschool who I rarely if ever will run into-he runs in the same social circle as my ex, and I try not to.)

 

I'm curious, as someone who takes into account the names of friends, acquaintances, relatives and their kids when choosing a name-for instance, I won't use a name someone else has already used, how much is that a factor in whether you use a name or not?

post #252 of 542

Relatives for sure. We had an agreement with my fiance's sister for using their grandparents names as Japanese middle names and whoever got to the baby of appropriate sex wins. I'm a little sad at losing Tokuko since she's found out she's having a girl and I really liked that name but not THAT sad.

 

I've got two girl names on my shortlist that I really like, however I can only use one of them, even if we have two girls in the future because my family will INSTANTLY know that I got those two names from a set of siblings I knew growing up and that would be weird.

post #253 of 542
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Originally Posted by thefreckledmama View Post

Eric is suddenly campaigning hard for Eleanor-with the nn Ella or Ellie.  I like it, although I'd prefer the nn Nora-which he really doesn't like.  It's not my most favorite name ever, but I'm so weird about my naming preferences, that I tend to lean toward the side of compromise when it's not a name that I have a strong objection to. (And the only other Eleanor I know is the almost 2 year old daughter of a friend from highschool who I rarely if ever will run into-he runs in the same social circle as my ex, and I try not to.)

 

I'm curious, as someone who takes into account the names of friends, acquaintances, relatives and their kids when choosing a name-for instance, I won't use a name someone else has already used, how much is that a factor in whether you use a name or not?

 

Totally a factor for me! My girl name when pregnant with my first son was Raina. My sister-in-law had a girl the following year and named her Emily Raine. Some people tried to tell me that it wasn't the same name and only her middle name so I should go ahead with that if my second was a girl, but I felt they were way too close, especially considering they're both unusual. Made me a  little sad, though. I lvoe that name!

 

That said, I really only count friends and family, not so much acquaintances. My second is Jonah. A few months before he was born, the brother of my friend's husband had a boy and named him the same thing, so that gave me pause. But the connection was not close enough to really bother me. I knew we'd very rarely end up seeing these people, if ever, so I could live with it. (In the end, she divorced him and now I never have to see them. :P)

post #254 of 542
We are having a boy and my family is already picking on the name we chose to call him! What the hey?! His full name is Joaquin Borges Costa IV which they are used to because that's my husband's name but we will call him Jack (common nickname for Joaquin). One sister says it's a good name when he's 30 or 40! Are you kidding me?! Jack sounds like a little boy's name to me.
post #255 of 542
That's why we aren't telling anyone the gender. They're all giving their bad input on what they think of the names and I'm tired of hearing about it.
post #256 of 542

oh swissmiss, I am so sorry to hear about that. It is upsetting when people don't realize that you, as the parents, get to choose the name. I preemptively told everyone that we anticipate they will potentially hate our name choices when they hear them, and we hope they will love the babies enough to get over it. And no, thanks, we don't want to discuss the names we like with you because we don't want to hear any opinions on them. I will only share names we have definitively X'd off the list, and even that in very limited circles, so maybe people have an idea of our style or preferences, but not the names we really like. My mom is livid that I won't share the names we like, but I just said, "you're going to hate them, why get worked up about it now?" Maybe it's snobby or weird, but my wife & i have been hoping to have babies together for five years, and over the years I have been burned several times by sharing names with friends. Once I shared our favorite name at the time with a friend (hartley) and a friend of mine ruthlessly mocked "baby fartley" for about an hour. I was so hurt and confused, like "Uhm, you just named a baby Clyde and I didn't say anything about it. Do you really think Hartley is that bad???" At the end of the day, it's the parents' choice and I am too sensitive to want anyone's input. 

post #257 of 542
swissmiss - People are so wierd and mean about names. We have pretty much decided not to discuss our name choices with our families as there is just too many of them who would be jerks about it. We have told our choices to a few people but only ones that we knew would be supportive regardless of what they think of the names smile.gif

As to names used by family/friends, I don't know. I wouldn't use the same name as a close family member has used, for sure - thankfully my brother/SIL and DH's only sister with kids both have very different naming ideas than we do. But I think if a friend or acquaintance used a name that we really loved, it wouldn't make us change our minds about the name. At least I hope it wouldn't smile.gif
post #258 of 542
I think we'll keep our name choices to ourselves, too, for the same reasons. DS is named Julian, a name DP and I both LOVE and were really happy with when we settled on it. Both grandmas hated it and tried to talk us out of it, and that just kinda stuck in my craw. Of course they're used to it now and I think it's a nonissue, but I don't want to deal with that again.

My brother and his wife didn't reveal their name choice until after my niece was born (a few months after DS), and I thought that was a good decision. I didn't like her name when I first heard it, either, but what are you gonna say? There's no place for criticism once baby is named, and names tend to grow on you.
post #259 of 542
I'm sure they would have picked on the name even if we waited till after the baby was born. People surprise me. What ever happened to keeping opinions to yourself. Don't they realize they are talking to a hormonal pregnant woman?! My sister named her sons manly names too.
post #260 of 542
mrs-- I think the names you mentioned on here were so lovely and anyone who wouldn't like them, needs to zip it.

swissmiss-- what name was it that they made fun of? That is so rude!

I always share the name I pick and completely ignore all commentary. My MIL is a nasty woman and decided to make snide comments about the name I picked, which was after my deceased mother. Some people have zero tact. You just ignore them all!

I've told a few my picks for girl/boy and love to see the look on everyone's faces. It's not like I'm mixing two names together or picking something in another language. And then they give me the most terrible suggestions! I just ignore the comments and agree with whatever. Because in the end it's my decision.

I've never said anything but "oh I really love that!" when a mama revels a name to me. It's just common sense.
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