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post #61 of 542
naturallyme- I LOVE your names. I too was able to name my oldest all on my own. Her bio father was ever so briefly involved, long enough to suggest a middle name. I wa going to use it until my very unopinonated grandmother made a rare advisement that I not give my daughter ANY part of him my using the middle name he chose. I listened to her advice an have never regretted it. He never has been in her life and in our situation, her life has been worlds better for it.

cmu204- I really like Theodore, and also Thaddeus. When I mentioned them at some point, DP mentioned a kid who bullied him named either Theo or Thad...I can't remember which, but it is a great name. I need to bring I up again. Thanks for the suggestion!
post #62 of 542
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Originally Posted by thefreckledmama View Post

I love Linus, but DP vetoed that immediately. Booooo. I also love Henry, but a once close friend just announced they were naming their son Henry, so off the list it goes.

I generally stay away from any names of children of friends, closer acquaintances, or people I strongly dislike...lol.

I'm really liking names ending with "er" for a boy, but baby's last name ends in "er", and I'm afraid it's too much rhyming. Bah.


I have a 4yo named, Linus.  (((LOVE)))  I can't tell you how many compliments we get.  It really is a beautiful name and most kids these days make no connection to "The Peanuts". 

My dh wasn't too thrilled, but quite often we will both say, "we are so glad we named him Linus." 

 

I wanted Henry for my first son, but it turned out my SIL named her ds, Henry, 4 mos before my ds was born.  Plus, she kept it a secret until he was born, so I didn't know.  I was so bummed. 

We ended naming him, Truman, which turned out to perfect. 

post #63 of 542
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So do I. But I had a really vivid dream whilst we were TTC (and though I very often remember my dreams, this one felt different) about having a baby [who in normal dream world weirdness kept alternating between being a couple of months old and a toddler - but it didn't feel strange in the dream]. Said baby had a name, and even though it wasn't even on my radar as a possibility it *is* a name I really like. So I sort of feel like if we have a boy, then he already _has_ a name, if that makes sense.


This is how we picked Felix!  I had a dream during my last pregnancy that my baby was born, a baby boy, and I said, "Felix, it's you!  We've been waiting for you for so long. ♥."

It was late in my pregnancy and I already knew we were having a girl.  I just feel like, if this baby is a boy. He must be our Felix. :)

post #64 of 542

Thanks so much thefreckledmama!!! I am taking into consideration what you said about her middle name. Thinking I will stick with David then :)

post #65 of 542
I mentioned some names to some family members and they tore them down and picked them apart! I was upset! They were so judgemental. I've decided that once we decide on names that we won't tell friends or family until the baby is born.
post #66 of 542
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Originally Posted by swissmiss2584 View Post

I mentioned some names to some family members and they tore them down and picked them apart! I was upset! They were so judgemental. I've decided that once we decide on names that we won't tell friends or family until the baby is born.

So sorry to hear that!! It's funny how people can be about names, it's truly so subjective. I decided to keep all names or even name ideas a secret from everyone. It worked out wonderfully!! Once the baby is born they are so happy and usually have more tact even if they don't like your choice than to tell you once you already made it official orngtongue.gif
post #67 of 542
I told my family I like Leo for a boy. My sisters love it, they like the old timey vintage names like me. My mom on the other had hates it. Said all she can think of when she hears it is uncle Leo from Seinfeld :/ names are so hard and getting other people opinions doesn't help
post #68 of 542

I like Leo!

 

Thinking Dylan for a boy. My husband likes Holden, and I do too, but worried about the Catcher in the Rye association. Regardless of first name, we will likely use Wesley as a middle name. It was my dad's middle name.

 

For girls, I really like Aubrey and maybe Madelyn. 

post #69 of 542

I've been thinking about names a bit more and I wanted to discuss with you ladies something I'm sort of hung up about: this kid will be half asian and while I'm not sure how much that will show I've always found it weird when I meet other asian people and they have "white" names like Carter or Melanie... Is that racist or prejudiced? Don't you think there is a certain ethnicity associated with certain names and they need to match? At the same time I do feel like there are some names that have become more neutral and "appropriate" for all ethnicities. Anyway, am I putting too much thought into this?

post #70 of 542
I think you are over-thinking it, Dakipode. I say name your child whatever you like and find meaningful. My daughter is bi-racial (I am black, DH is not) and the name we chose for her, while notably associated with a black historic figure, is also of Czech origin. Since DH is as much Czech as anything, it works for us.
This new one, if a girl, will have a similar name -- but if its a boy, all bets are off!
We happen to know several kids who are half Asian, and none of them have 'traditional' Asian names as a first; some do as a middle.
post #71 of 542

swissmiss -when naming DD, my mother was very judgemental about the top name I liked.  She said she would absolutely refuse to call her that and would call her a completely different name!  Needless to say, that started a VERY heated argument.  I really couldn't believe how childish she was acting about it!  My child, my name I get to choose!  DSp and I ended up changing our minds and going with a variation of the name that we liked better, so I never got to see if my mother would have actually called her whatever she felt like DD's name should be.

 

Dakipode -our baby will be 1/2 Asian too (I am as white as white can be, DSp (Dear Spouse) is 1/2 Asian and we used a full Asian as our sperm donor.)  I also feel like there should be some cultural representation in a name.  Heritage and culture is very important to who a person is, and what is more personal than someone's name?!  I think that being American, it is okay to have an American name, though.  In the Philippines, a lot of parents name their babies popular American names.  They are often the really simple, "older/traditional" names.  Personally, I wouldn't want to copy an American name and would want my baby's name to be 100% the cultural that I am and live in.  But, other countries it seems idealizes the American culture.

 

Since our baby will be Asian-American, we have decided to go with an American first name and first-middle name.  The baby's second-middle name will be a family name from DSp's Filipino side.  We did the same thing with DD.  In the Philippines, all children receive their mother's maiden name as their middle name.  Also, for women, when they marry, their last name (maiden name) becomes their middle name and they drop their mother's maiden name as their middle name.  So women  and their children will have the same middle name.  We won't follow that tradition exactly, but we think that the family name is very important, so for DD, we chose an American name for her first name and first-middle name, Lillian Avery, and chose my mother-in-law's maiden name, which is DSp's middle name too and DSp's grandmother's last name, as her second-middle name, so Lillian Avery Tapalla.  For this baby, if it's a boy, we will likely choose Levi Thomas as the American names, and Meyheni as his second-middle name, so Levi Thomas Meyheni.  Meyheni was DSp's great-grandfather's name.  I very much wanted for this baby's name to be representative of part of it's culture, so I pushed very hard and had an hour long conversation with my mother-in-law going through ALL of the family names she could think of to find the perfect one!  A lot of the family names sounded like english/american words that would be very easy to be the subject of bullying.  If the baby is a girl, we will go with a variation of DSp's grandfather's name, which DSp's brother's middle name too (Rosalino).  Rosalie as a first name, haven't come up with a first-middle name, and possibly use Tapalla again as the second-middle name.

 

Haha, just read over all of that and it's seems very confusing!  But the point is, I feel like cultural/heritage should be preserved in a child's name...


Edited by esenbee2 - 3/1/13 at 9:53am
post #72 of 542

Dakipode -  I think that you can find a name combo that will feel true to your heart and families. I have a pregnant friend who is chinese and her husband is white. Our due dates are just a few days apart, so we have been talking about names and everything else related to pregnancy. She says they will probably use an English first name & a Chinese middle name, but there are definitely english names that "sound white" to her ears that are off the table for her. i don't think that's racist; it's just a cultural association. 

post #73 of 542
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Originally Posted by dakipode View Post

I've been thinking about names a bit more and I wanted to discuss with you ladies something I'm sort of hung up about: this kid will be half asian and while I'm not sure how much that will show I've always found it weird when I meet other asian people and they have "white" names like Carter or Melanie... Is that racist or prejudiced? Don't you think there is a certain ethnicity associated with certain names and they need to match? At the same time I do feel like there are some names that have become more neutral and "appropriate" for all ethnicities. Anyway, am I putting too much thought into this?


Our baby will be 1/4 Japanese and 3/4 British-mutt (Scottish, Welsh and English) and we're going with my fiance's family tradition of a European first name and a Japanese middle name (and a Japanese last name, so their names will be more Japanese than they are). My British family are all immigrants, I was the first generation born in Canada, whereas his Japanese family has been in Canada for four or five generations now so he's more "Canadian" than I am.

I don't know if this really has any bearing on your thoughts since I am the white one in our relationship, so I've deferred most of the "Asian" stuff to my fiance and what he's comfortable with.

post #74 of 542
My husband is 1/2 Korean and half Portuguese and has a full Portuguese name (Joaquin Borges Costa III) so people get confused when they meet him for the first time after talking to him on the phone because he looks more Korean than Portiguese. So his name doesn't quite fit him. Our daughter is 1/4 Korean so we gave her a Korean name for her second middle name just for fun.
post #75 of 542
I'm English and my DP is Kenyan, luckily in Kenya they give English first names and African middle and last names.
post #76 of 542
My dh is 1/4 Mexican 1/4 Brazilian and 1/2 white. I am as white as they come. Our last name is Villalobos. Sooo that alone is pretty ethnic. My daughter does not look Hispanic at all. She has olive skin but just looks like a little white girl. Blonde hair green eyes. She's a beauty smile.gif we are thinking of Emilio but calling him Leo. I tend to shy away from Mexican and Brazilian names just because they aren't my style. Emilio is a compromise with my husband because he would really like his son (if this baby is a boy) to have some heritage in his name. We'll see.
post #77 of 542

mamamash: i love the name Emilio (leo for short)....totally biased as my son is named Emiliano wink1.gif ( we call him Em for short).

post #78 of 542
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Originally Posted by bexsd View Post

My husband likes Holden, and I do too, but worried about the Catcher in the Rye association. Regardless of first name, we will likely use Wesley as a middle name. It was my dad's middle name.

 

I loved the name Holden, because of Catcher in the Rye which is hilarious. :) It's on the "no" list for us, though. Husband veto-ed because he said it sounds "like a hick." Eye roll.

post #79 of 542
Oh yay a name thread! I love this process and find it so fun to choose a name and fall in love with it for 9 months. I have a huge list!

Boy names:
Alexander
Elliot
Flynn
Noah
Embry
Ethan
Jackson
Carlisle
Cory
Logan
Gabriel
Jolyon
Trevor
Aiden
Holden
Isaac
Thomas

Girl names:
Irene
Evelyn (Evie)
Leia
Starla
Amelia/Amelie
Rebecca (Celtic spelling?)
Dahlia
Scarlett
Haley
Zooey
Amanda
Jane
Gabriella
Clare
Elena
Serena
Lorelei
Audrey
Maybelle
Anastasia

Sadly enough-- my husbands' shot down almost every one here. Ugh!
post #80 of 542

Tillymonster; I really like your selection of names, you have good taste :)
 

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