This is our second pregnancy and it was very much unexpected. We were told we couldn't conceive without lots of help and I was facing potential surgery, so we're thrilled to be 11 weeks along with baby number 2. With my 2 year old daughter, we found out the gender at the 20 week anatomy scan. We both wanted to know (as did my mother who came along) and we were on the same page.
This time around, I had to have an ultrasound at 5wks to date the pregnancy and because of the cysts I deal with I was worried the pain might be from an ectopic pregnancy. I am not sure I want to have any more ultrasounds though, and I really want to be surprised at the time of the birth to find out the gender.
I feel like as the woman who is carrying the baby, it should be my choice. I understand that my husband has a say too, and the baby is half his, but I feel like having the surprise of finding out the gender will be one extra thing to push for when labor comes around. He's adamant that he wants to know though, just because. I'm concerned he wouldn't be able to keep it from me. He would be swayed toward boy or girl names, boy or girl clothes etc and I think he would spill the beans to everybody else. My mother has also tried to talk him into sharing the news with her so she can know. Needless to say, I'm pretty mad about it.
This is my last pregnancy, and I really want to enjoy it, but I'm having a really hard time when he and I aren't on the same page on anything. Don't even get me started on baby names. I have no idea how we even managed to agree on my daughters name.
Anyways, am I being unreasonable? Thanks for the input :)