My almost 3.5 year old boy is having a really hard time with pooping in the potty. He is not afraid of the toilet. He holds his pee and will pee in the potty or toilet when we ask him to and sometimes on his own. But he seems to be pooping in his pants on purpose. I feel like we've been potty-training non-stop for 6 months!
background: we did part-time EC which did NOT naturally transition to potty-training early. We were in denial... did a full-on potty training a month before he turned 3, and 6 weeks before his baby sister was born. We used the "Oh Crap, Potty Training" book's method. He was doing great at home, did pretty good at school for a few months. Then he started getting lots of colds over the winter, and started backsliding.
THEN he got a UTI. major problem! it hurt him to pee!
he recovered from that pretty well, and was back to the potty for the most part... then he started pooping in his pants, every day at school, between Noon and 1:30 pm ( he's at school from 9-2 3 days/week). And then he started having more accidents with us at home too. The teachers now want him back in pullups because they sometimes have to deal with his poop on surfaces etc.
We've started doing some "small, immediate" consequences at home when he has an accident, as suggested by the book. but the teachers can't always do that at school. and today he pooped twice in his pants and had a big tantrum about me changing him when I went to pick him up.
SO. rewards??? I am SO SO SO reluctant to go there. But he loves sweets, and we don't give him much of them at all. One M&M would be a big deal for him. Or I've been thinking about a more long-term reward - he loves music and we've been talking about doing a guitar lesson for him. I was thinking of telling him that he can't have guitar lessons until he's done pooping in his pants.
OR - has anyone out there had ANY experience with a chronic constipation problem that leads to potty issues? How do I know when/if to have him x-rayed for this? Apparently the UTI is a warning sign for this...Has anyone out there read this book?http://itsnoaccident.net/
AND - I am so concerned about putting him in (disposable) pull ups at school. Won't this just tell him he can "give up" and not worry about trying to poop in the potty?? He won't mind being in pullups at all, by the way.
Any advice or commiseration would be welcome!