Originally Posted by lilitchka
I like the idea of involving my DS1 with chores.
we will try to do this more often.
I think part of the problem is that we don't have any kind of routine.
my work schedule changes every week. (shift work).
my husband,s schedule adapts to mine, but the number of hours his spend weekly on his new business varies from week to week.
my DS1 doesn't nap (hi stopped 1 year ago).
maybe establishing a routine would help....but don,t know where to start!
I agree that, doesn't matter what I do or don't do, it will get better. even 1 year from now.
Involving my DS (3yo) in chores has been a major part in saving my sanity some days! We have also been trying to have some sort of routine, but like many of you, we have changing schedules. I totally hot a wall a couple of months ago, I was frustrated with nearly everything my DS did, or didn't do, or tried to do, or whatever. And I realized that it was completely irrational, but I just couldn't stop from feeling that way. Oh, and I was getting worse and worse at hiding my frustration, that was the final key. I really didn't was DS to see this irrational frustration and internalize it, you know? So, I started looking into Waldorf schools and homeschooling programs (I know, he's only 3yo, but I thought I could find some good ideas to get us through the days). Everything I found pointed to routines/rhythms as the main thing for the first seven years of kids' lives. At first it seemed really overwhelming, but then again, everything did at that point! Where to start? I tried to tackle the times of day that I felt the most stressed: mornings and post-lunch "naps". Mornings have been hard lately b/c I am pregnant. So I usually want to spend it all in bed or on the couch. But if I can drag myself out of bed and get something to eat on the table life for everyone is better! And again, after lunch all I want to do is crawl back into bed, but DS is on an on-again-off-again with naps these days. So, we started an 'After Lunch Quiet Time'. Its length is indefinite, but he doesn't know that because usually about halfway through he falls asleep!!! This was about all the structure I could handle adding to our days, so it is all we did for a week or so. But then this weird thing happened, everything was going well. It felt great! I still drag myself out of bed in the mornings, but now we sing(!) 'Do you know the muffin man?' while we make breakfast. And after we eat I do the dishes while he takes a damp sponge and wipes down everything (really everything). This has help me soooooo much! Good luck!