Do I say anything?

[ekblad9]

An aquaintance from my homeschooling group just adopted a baby from China. He's 8 months old. Anyway, she sent an email today asking for prayers on a certain day because she's having him well, you know. The "c" word. Anyway, I don't know her that well but we have had some pretty personal conversations. Should I say anything or just mind my own business? She said the baby has to be put completely under for this. I can't imagince risking surgery for something like this.

[LavenderMae]

Yes, I would say something. I would also give her some info about circ maybe a book or printed out info. I hope she changes her mind.

[Marsupialmom]

I would.

Be prepared for religious arguement.

And to look like others.

[house elf]

Oh, that makes me so sad to read about that... yes, at the least, e-mail her the Fleiss article.. the site that changed my mind about circ was http://www.mothersagainstcirc.org Maybe you could send her that address?

[Irishmommy]

Hasn't the poor baby been through enough? Definitely talk to her.

[hvl25]

I would definately send some links to her and talk to her. I hope she doesn't do it. Does she know exactly how this is done and the amount of pain he will be in?

[Quirky]

I would definitely say something about leaving him the way God made him - God doesn't make mistakes, right?

[ekblad9]

Well, I would have to say yes. I mean, she has a son that's 6 who was also adopted from China. I'm assuming she had to have the same thing done to him? I feel a little bold sending her this info but I'm going to do it!

[hvl25]

good for you Amy! I hope she listens!!

[ekblad9]

OK, I did it. I'll keep you posted. I feel a bit like I was out of line but I wish someone would've told me before I did my first two sons, KWIM? Thank God I figured it out by the time I had my third son. Anyway, I'll keep you posted!

[WindyMoments04]

Seriously, what is wrong with people?
The baby has been through enough!

[hvl25]

i got lucky I guess. i went to visit a friend of mine after she had her baby. I get off the elevator and hear this baby screaming. I'm walking down the hall wondering what the heck is going on and I pass a room that says circumcision in progress on the door. The baby inside is screaming like crazy. At that point, I said I will never do that if I have boys, and thankfully both of mine are intact

[wintermom14]

post-adoption circ

I had a friend that worked in a Dr's office in the 90's who said it was common to see post adoption circ procedures on males adopted from Bosnia. It made me upset, though most of the ones that she had seen were over 5 years old, that moms would be dragging thier adopted sons into an office for an procedure that was not even needed. Pretty sad.

[mattemma04]

Hoping it goes well. Poor kids.This also will affect their cultural identity.What a terrible thing,imo,to do to a child-In order for us to accept you as one of our own we MUST cut off parts of your genitals.
Sick
Sara

[WindyMoments04]

When I had my dd, they put me in a recovery room across the hall from the circ room. Hearing those babies scream and cry for 3 days made me change my mind about circ. Sometimes you have to have something put right in your face to finally "get it".

My ds is circ, and now I feel like crap for putting him through that pain. He was perfect to begin with, and I had him mutilated.

I swear I will never have another ds circ'ed.

[jennay]

I'm glad you sent her the info. I wish someone had sent some to me. My two boys are circ'ed and I wish we had not done so. I feel remorse every time I change their diapers. Any future sons will not be circ'ed.

[Sarah]

Oh that is about as tacky as if she wanted to fix his eyes so he wouldn't look chinese. What a moron. And adoption agencies tolerate that kind of stuff?

Like- you think they would let a baby girl go to a man who wanted to cut her vagina?

What is wrong with people?

[DesireeH]

Ditto to Sarahs post! That is craziness! Glad you sent her the info!

[Evergreen]

Did you tell her you wish someone would have sent you info like that when your oldest sons were babies? Sometimes a personal touch like that is all that is needed.

[ekblad9]

Yah, I said that. I haven't heard from her and I'm a little nervous. Oh well. I don't think she checks her email everyday. Maybe I should call her this weekend?