DS was an EC grad at 19 months for daytime, and by 23 months over night. He's now 30 mos old.
The last few weeks (maybe month??) we've been having episodes where he wets himself, and it's getting worse.
At first it was just at his new dayhome. He started attending at the beginning of December and the issue started after Christmas (and 3 weeks home with mom and dad). He is/was occasoinally wetting himself during the day or during nap time. Not every day. But it seems to be becoming more frequent the past 2 weeks. He wet himself during his nap both yesterday and today. His care provider thinks he is doing it when he's awake, but in bed. Other days he is great and takes himself to pee many, many times per day with no issues. He has also started wetting his pants at home (he did it twice tonight!)
This is really unheard of for him. He was an almost grad well before 19 months, and we very, very rarely had accidents after that.
I recognize it's a phase and it will pass if we do nothing but remind him to use the potty. If I were home with him it would be less concerning because I could deal with changing his clothes and bedding etc. But I do feel for our caregiver, who wants to put him in pull-ups for naps and who is finding the wetting just randomly otherwise stressful. Even though she put a plastic sheet down on the bed she still had to change his clothes, give him a bath, etc. after his nap because while the bed didn't get soaked, she did. She has 4 other kids to take care of in addition to my DS.
I don't know if he is just busy and forgets, if he's testing us and her, if he is trying out "peeing in his pants" since he didn't go through conventional potty training...I just don't know.
So I am looking for advice on how to handle this. I don't really want to put him in diapers for naps or otherwise. Should I use some conventional potty training ideas? Rewards? I don't love the idea of rewards but at the same time need to just get him out of this phase quickly. It's very confusing.
Some ideas that DH and I have so far:
- get out his trainers for nap time rather than a diaper
- make sure it becomes part of his routine to pee right before naps
- explain EC to his caregiver and ask her to take him to the potty if she notices he hasn't gone in x amount of time
I am not sure about:
- a sticker chart for rewards on days he is dry all day at dayhome
- talking about using the potty because he's a big boy and we don't pee in our pants (I wouldn't say it in a shaming way, but don't want to make a bigger deal out of it than it needs to be if that could prolong things)
- other conventional potty training ideas (I don't even know what these are...and they seem pointless when he knows darn well how to use the potty and when he has to go....)
Thank-you for reading my novel and help, please!!