My son, 8 1/2, has dysgraphia. He has been in OT for years and it is something that he struggles with daily. He is easily frustratable, and is unfortunately not one of those kinds of kids who will just keep at something until he can do it. I have tried everything under the sun to encourage him, not just writing sheets, but writing giant letters in the sand at the beach, playing writing games, etc.
I have backed off considerably, but it is still a source of power struggle in our home. While in our homeschooling, I do not push too much. We don't do worksheets, and I am not trying to do school-at-home. We are project-based hands-on learners. But he simply *has* to learn how to write. I know that in this day and age, and the future, the use of pencil and paper are becoming archaic, but he simply must be able to write a simple grocery list, write a message inside a greeting card, or be able to sign his name at the very least.
When I see that he is not ready to learn something I back off and think that the time is simply not right. But sometimes I feel that if something is too hard, that sometimes my job as a mother is to gently push him outside his comfort zone until he can succeed. That he is old enough to handle this. I have been backing off for 8 1/2 years now, and his writing is not improving. We are working on typing skills and voice-recognition software, but he still will not write. I do not ask for pages and pages a day. But just some time to practice, maybe 20 minutes a day. His OT insists that daily practice is going to be key.
She suggest star charts, "points" and various other methods of reward, and it just doesn't feel right to me. And frankly, even when I cave in and try it, he is excited about it for a day then the newness wears off. He will do amazing work for her in her office, but not for me at home.
I am so frustrated with this and at the end of my rope.