I have been married to my husband for over 10 years and I think for about 9 of those years, friends, family and sometimes complete strangers have been telling me to leave him. Actually, people on mdc have been telling me that off and on for at least 5 years or so, too. It's so hard to take that step.
About a month ago, I asked him to move out and told him I wanted a divorce. I had originally planned to stay with him until the kids were out of high school. He is an alcoholic, albeit a functioning one, but the effects on the kids and me got to the point where it was clear that the right decision was to make the break now. On top of this, I truly have been the only adult in the relationship and haven't loved him for many years. I feel like a weigh has been lifted!
It's been about a month, and I have an appt with a lawyer next week to begin the divorce paperwork. The kids seem to be doing well and they see their dad almost daily. He has stopped drinking (for now - he's done this at least 3-4 times in the past only to start up again after a couple months) so I feel okay with him having the kids on his days off.
I do feel guilty and lonely some days, but I guess that is to be expected. This has been such a huge change for me, and I'm so happy to have the support of my family and friends, and also for mdc. I look forward to speaking to everyone and wading through this new adventure!