"This advice doesn't seem relevant to what was asked in any way... ???"
You asked: how do I expect kids to do something and not give them a choice?
I answered: they know they have a choice if you give in to their tantrums.
I specifically addressed the situations mentioned in your posts: dressing up for school and who is dropping them off.
Were these not your posts???
I see many mamas on here say they 'just expect' that their children will do A, B, C, or that they 'don't give them a choice.'
What are the logistics of this?
I have an almost-4 year-old who this morning did not want to get dressed for preschool. ...
My question is, what are the nuts and bolts of 'setting an expectation' or 'not giving a choice' to a child that do not involve a wrestling match?
I would say I do drop-off about once a week, DH the rest of the time and usually it is not a problem. (We are both present for breakfast and preschool/daycare prep.) We could work to minimize the times when I do drop-off but it would create a lot of scheduling difficulty for DH (i.e. he could never do morning meetings for work which would be problematic) for something that 90% of the time is not associated with any behavior issues.