Thank you all for your suggestions!
I'm incredibly sorry for the delay in answering. There was a considerable amount of "life" that was uncertain, but things have finally gotten hammered out to our satisfaction!
We'll be in OKC around November. I'm not sure where we'll be living yet, but DP is working in one of the 'burbs. I need to get the insurance information from him so I can start hunting for a homebirth midwife (CPM? I'm still trying to deal with the differences between our home state on the East Coast and in the southwest - SO different), as I'd ideally find someone who has experience with our particular insurance carrier. I know it's not a guarantee - one of my longtime friends is a CPM locally, and we've discussed insurance dealings in the past - but that would be a "best case scenario".
Originally Posted by tribalmax
As far as homeschooling, there are lots of groups around here. Depending on what you are looking for -- there are religious and non-religious groups. Oklahoma is a super easy state to homeschool in. You don't have to do or prove anything to anyone. Around here, lots of people homeschool for religious reasons. If that is not what you are looking for, you will have a slightly harder time finding a secular group. But they are out there. :)
In my state, I have to submit paperwork to the district superintendent. It is fairly easy to homeschool here, thanks to court cases and parental knowledge of what is and isn't required by law ("You can ask for this information, but according to xyz case, I am obligated to provide you with A, B, C, and nothing more."). We'll be in our home state for 1 September, so I'm gearing up to submit my paperwork to the superintendent, and I'll likely just send a letter when we get closer to our move date stating, "Effective DATE, NAME will no longer be residing in the DISTRICT educational district." No longer their problem. My work there is done. I was hoping to avoid moving after the start of the school year, but we'd like to try and time our out-of-state move with the point at which insurance will kick in for DP (and us).
So, I suppose - do I have to let anyone know that I'm homeschooling, or just keep some sort of accurate record or documentation in mind in the event that it's called into question? Again, here, we have to submit paperwork to the district superintendent. Is there anything I'm obligated to do in Oklahoma? I'm unfamiliar with the laws, and it's a bit mind-boggling for me to move from a very restrictive state to one that is less so.
And thank you, thank you, thank you for the note on secular groups. We are of a religion that is not particularly common in OKC, and - even here - tiny is constantly invited to participate in religious homeschool activities and it makes declining a bit awkward.
Here goes! Now, to pack and plan a wedding... ;)