My son was a bit rebelious , ( excuse spelling ), at 14 took many days at school meating with teachers over behaviour and attitude . My son and i came to an honesty agreament , and it has been just my son and i with axcess with his sister at different points. His mother is a different story who i have never stopped her from getting incontact with her son but is showing interest now. My daughter on the othethand i have tried constantly to c , got little axcess now , again another story.
I always contacted other parentds and the rule was , unless my son gave me to days notice and phone numbers , and i had spocken to the parents he wasnt aloud out. I was driving away from home sometimes in the latter part of his school , and the added responserbility , my constant nagging , and trust seems to have paid off.
Now his in his first year college , turns 18 in april , asked me for some money for flowers for a girl , not a problem.
He still rings me up making sure its ok to stay out late on weekens , and i feel like we have a pretty good father son relationship , i dont drive away from home anymore but still do 14hr or so days.
The point im getting at is tonight something inside me changed. He rang me tonight and asked me if he could stay at this girls place , iv met her nice girl i think , i said give the patents number if its ok with them the ok. I rang and just spock to the mom and everything seemed ok , except for the feeling that hay im introuding.
It felt rong to ring and check up on my sons girlfriend mom that everything was ok. My son has been honest with me for a long time now , i dont want to destroy that. Yes im over protective , but im thinking the fact that he rings me should be enouth. .
Im thinking im over stepping , should start to rely on the trust more.
I dont want to loose my son by trying to hard ,
Thank you to anyone who would like to respond