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[LeighPF]

Read the mat leave thread and now thinking about my husband. His job has a no gendered parental leave policy and we are trying to decide how much time home he should take?

With our first, he was a student. Baby was due at the start of a week off, but came at the end so he went to class after bringing us home.

With the second he took two weeks, working from home for an hour a day and a few more days.

[HippieIncognito]

My DH gets no set amount of leave. He took one week off with our first and will probably do the same this time. My mom took the second week off which was nice. I think she will do that again too.

[CraftyMcGluestick]

My DH took two weeks off with our DS. He worked for the state and accrued vacation hours like nobody's business because of number of years of service. It was a dumb job with bad pay, but the vacation and insurance were AMAZING!

Now my husband owns and runs his own business. He has an employee that he can trust, but I doubt he is going to be away from work for more than just the birth and maybe the day after. He will probably take calls when I am pushing the baby out. Ha! Fortunately, his shop is very close to our house, so he can at least come home to check on me at lunch time. Also, my mom has now moved to our town and will be there to help me as much as I need. I know I am lucky, but I will miss DH when baby is so new.

[GISDiva]

Last time around DH's company was too small for FMLA, so I think he just burned through two weeks (or even less maybe?) of vacation. This time he actually gets FMLA but is balking at taking too much because of "the way it looks". Ugh. I'm not sure how much I believe him, it seemed like a pretty chill company to work for. He can work at home sometimes too, so it's not like he'd be MIA or anything. I'm not sure why he's making it into such a big deal, and he hasn't been looked into their specific policy yet.

Whatever. DS will be in 5K all day a couple weeks after, so it won't be such a big deal anyway. I'm certainly feeling more confident in my abilities the second time around, and hopefully nursing will go better. Messing around with an SNS by myself with a hungry baby left me sobbing on the floor last time.

[Banana731]

Diva- you have a lot more experience with breastfeeding now than you did the first time. That's going to be helpful i hope DH comes around on using his FMLA!

This time DH will actually be doing nothing but hanging out with us He takes the Bar at the end of July and we move in Sep or October for him to begin working, So other than packing, he has no obligations.

[LeighPF]

Banana, after the bar is a wonderful time. Which is how we ended up with bee.
Husband works at a big law firm and officially can take up to three months paid and three unpaid. His mentor last time encouraged him to take three weeks instead of the two he was thinking. There is always someone on his floor with a new baby and they get it, it is nice to know there is lots of leave there if something happened and we needed it.

[Banana731]

Originally Posted by LeighPF 

Banana, after the bar is a wonderful time. Which is how we ended up with bee.
Husband works at a big law firm and officially can take up to three months paid and three unpaid. His mentor last time encouraged him to take three weeks instead of the two he was thinking. There is always someone on his floor with a new baby and they get it, it is nice to know there is lots of leave there if something happened and we needed it.

He also will be working for a large firm, with pretty nice perks. Too bad this is the last one XD