Any Other Older Moms? - Page 2 « Back to Group Discussions

[ashleybrook]

Originally Posted by lolliegee 

I'm of the opinion that having babies helps keep you young, no matter what your actual age is.

this is so funny because i feel like i've aged a lot in the last 2 years...i think the physicality of it all was quite wearing...but i feel like i might feel younger again when i get to sleep through the night and am not carrying a little one around a lot :) maybe that's wishful thinking.

[StartingAllOver]

This is number 4 for me. My oldest is 21 and my youngest is 10. Very odd to think that I have been a mother for over 2 decades, and yet here I go again! 
Sometimes that thought makes me feel tired and old, but truthfully, I feel better than I have in years. I attribute it mostly to being away from my ex and with an incredibly loving and supportive partner. 

Sometimes, I start to feel resentful of the AMA tag, but then Medicine will be Medicine. As my midwife put it, they like to pathologize everything.


It is nice to be in such good company here. :)

 

[mamagnome]

Hi!  So glad to find this thread.  I've been feeling a little old myself!  I turn 40 in April and I'm expecting my third child in July.  My older two will be seven and a half and five and a half when the baby comes.  This little one was a surprise, although, I'm thrilled beyond belief.  I had to laugh last week when I went in for the level 2 ultrasound and overheard the doctor explaining to his intern (who looked to be all of 16 years old, hahaha!) on his way in that I was "just having it because of [my] age."  Cripes!  Get me a spot in the nursing home already! 

I've never been one to freak out about my age.  I don't dye my hair, I keep in decent shape, never lie about my age, don't care much about birthdays, etc., but having it pointed out to me all the time lately has made me feel older than I did before I was pregnant!  And, as I'm sure you know, nothing can make you feel your age like constant morning sickness, exhaustion, and the general discomforts of being pregnant.  :)

[lolliegee]

Yes, pregnancy can definitely make you feel your age! I too, don't care about my age and don't dye my hair. In fact, I've never understood why people feel the need to lie about their age. I've lived this long and have the experience to show for it. Life is an amazing journey, why short change yourself?

[harmonious]

Been thinking about dying my hair, as I'm Not doing it while pregnant and am now showing more gray/dulled pigmented hairs than ever in my life. I'm actually finding it kind of refreshing!

[lolliegee]

I gotta admit, I've been thinking about dyeing my hair. I was at a restaurant last night and went into the bathroom and whoa boy! those bathroom lights really showed how much gray I have! I probably won't though, I've never dyed my hair (except one time I dyed the ends purple) and probably won't start now.

[MonkeyPrincess]

I started going grey at 14 years old, and dyed my hair until about a year ago. At this point, it not even grey...its white. I'm cool with it. :)

[g&a]

Oooooo I love white hair. I wish I could just go straight white instead of messing with grey in between. Guess I'm an all or nothing gal.

[lolliegee]

I feel so lucky that I got my grandpa's silver white instead of my grandma's yellowish gray. That's products one of the reasons I don't mind I too much.

[dayiscoming2006]

My grandma had beautiful white hair when she was still around. So, soft too. Loved her hair and hoping one day that is what I get. :)

I have a friend in her late 40's who dyes her hair regularly, but it's not all vanity for her, it's partly because the texture of her gray hair isn't very easy to deal with. Dying it softens it up. I could see maybe dying my hair if the texture bothered me or I thought the color just didn't look good. Certain grays look better than others and of course white looks awesome. My hubby is only going to be 31 and he's been getting gray hair since his early-mid 20's. I'm not an older mom yet, but just some thoughts on what you were all discussing.

[wrenmoon]

All my white hairs are wild things with minds of their own. Every single one. The ones on the hairline of my forehead stand. straight. up.
They will not lay down for anything. Like antennae... And the ones over my ears stick out, you guessed it, horizontal. And them they curve down after about three inches of levitation, like individual umbrellas for my ears.

On a particularly exciting day I look like a frazzled muppet. I wish I had nice softy white hairs! Well behaved, gentle white hairs. No. I have fight-you-if-you-get-too-close-to-em, nobody-tells-me-what-kind-of-hairs-to-be white hairs. They used to be red, maybe that's the wild Irish side coming out?

[SecretBeach]

44 here too! And this is my first - We've been trying for over 4 years with multiple IVF treatments so this is our rainbow baby and I couldn't be happier. I feel great and not "old" at all!

[lolliegee]

Yay for rainbow babies! And yay that I'm not the oldest any more either. I don't feel old either, except sometimes when I look in the mirror and notice some new wrinkles I'm getting. I think it's because I've lost some weight, but whoa, every once in awhile, my throat area has that turkey neck look to it.

[baby catcher]

I am 36 and expecting our first after 5 losses, I will be 37 when our precious little arrives. I was offered all the genetic screening and blood tests and declined. Now I am too far along for any of those......and sometimes wonder if I made a mistake in not finding out anything. I have to trust God, though, that what He brings us to, He will bring us through!

[wrenmoon]

Welcome to the old lady's club baby catcher!

Oh Lolligee the neck! The neck! I've gained enough weight to fill out the turkey look for the time being... but a dear friend of mine says, it's either your a** or your face, one of 'em is gonna go. My butt stuck around, so my face...

I have been having serious back and pelvis pain, so I am hobbling around and I asked the chiropractor what he thought it was caused by, I was thinking he would say something like poorly healed birth injury or scar tissue or something like that. No. He sweetly reminded me that I am not a young mom and this is my third. And sometimes things just happen that way when you're at this age.
The baby kicked him for me.
I'm really not offended though. At least I was walking well again when I left the office. To make matters worse I slipped on the deck yesterday and reinjured my pubic bone/ leg thing that happened when I had my daughter. Now I'm limping and hobbling. It's a mess.

Today I feel old.
Anyone else having pelvic issues?

[baby catcher]

[baby catcher]

Wrenmoon that doesn't sound like much fun at all! Thankfully it sounds like your chiropractor is helping a little bit!
I find that my arms and hands fall asleep easily at night as I lie with my arm under the pillow.
My worst symptom, though, is the constant nausea. I throw up several times a week, but the nausea is pretty constant all day, everyday! Bleech! Thrilled for the growing precious bundle though , so I just grin and bear it!

[baby catcher]

Wrenmoon that doesn't sound like much fun at all! Thankfully it sounds like your chiropractor is helping a little bit!
I find that my arms and hands fall asleep easily at night as I lie with my arm under the pillow.
My worst symptom, though, is the constant nausea. I throw up several times a week, but the nausea is pretty constant all day, everyday! Bleech! Thrilled for the growing precious bundle though , so I just grin and bear it!

[lolliegee]

Welcome Bavycatcher! That stinks that you're still throwing up! I can relate though, with my first, I threw up several times a day well into six months. It did get a bit better after that though I still had frequent nausea. I'm still nauseous here and there, but very grateful to not be throwing up! I sure hope it improves for you soon!

[lolliegee]

Wrenmoon, you cracked me up. Definitely still got my butt here, so guess it's my face! And oh, the hip and pelvic pain! I had the hip pain so bad last time that I could barely walk and sleeping was torture, laying on my hips hurt so bad! This time I wised up and started going to a chiropractor early. So far the hip pain this time has been very minor! I'm so glad for that. But, geez it seems like I can't win because now I'm having some pain that runs right down the middle of each butt cheek (sorry, couldn't think of a more polite way to put that) when I'm standing or walking. It feels almost muscular, but I remember it from last time, it just wasn't this bad. I'll be talking to the chiropractor about it next time, but I'm not sure what could be adjusted to help my butt. Not exactly any joints in there. He nicely has not said anything about my age contributing to the aches and pains. And since I've always been very sensitive to the relaxin hormone, I'll just go with that. It's not that I'm getting old, it's just hormones! :0P