I'm all for counterpressure during pushing - instinctively I think that will work better for me than perineal massage, which I don't want to do. It IS uncomfortable and the study I read shows that it has some minimal benefit for first-time mothers but second time around doesn't do much at all. I have some pretty major damage to my perineum already - I've discussed an episiotomy on the forward wall of my vagina with my midwife and we've agreed to take a wait-and-see attitude. But doing the counterpressure myself...? I can barely reach to wipe now, I don't see how that would be physically feasible.
Babytoes - really? You feel BAD for not wanting to listen to Gangnam Style in your kitchen??? Reality check, sweetie - NOBODY WANTS THAT. Your hormones are just giving you the little honesty boost you need to admit that even from the most adorable child in the world, that's no treat to be savoured.
SamSarah - I asked my DD about the KinderSurprise marketing scheme yesterday after school. To my surprise, she's all for it. She agreed that most of the Kinder Surprise toys WERE pretty gender-neutral, but she said that every once in a while she would get one that was obviously a BOY toy and she would like it if there were random GIRL toys sprinkled in there too. Given that she's never really had "girly" toys - the majority of her toys are science-related, stuffies, dress-up or rocks - I'm still a bit puzzled as to the very clear distinctions she draws between girl stuff and boy stuff. WAY more than when I was her age. When I was seven, my best friend was a boy and we played Star Wars at school. And in other schools, my friends' kids play together (girls and boys) at "mining" (apparently smashing rocks to see what's inside... pretty sure I did that too) but for some reason children at my DD's school enjoy self-segregating, although DD and a few other girls do apparently enjoy chasing games - but it's all boys vs girls. It makes me sad but I'm not entirely sure that it should, y'know? I am POSITIVE that the teachers or the administration at the school have done nothing to encourage this, it's just how things shook out in this batch of kids. And, fortunately, the distinction DD is drawing between "girl" stuff and "boy" stuff seems to be extremely superficial - largely based on colour-coding (ie, if a car is pink, it's for girls, the fact it's a car is irrelevant). There are enough boys with long hair at her school that that's not an issue, and anything sciency seems gender-neutral by definition, and when we watch grown-up TV together (like, say, episodes of Bones where the majority of the scientists and lab people are women) she takes it as completely normal. I think when she grows up, she wants to be Kari from Mythbusters. So I don't think I really have much to worry about... but the pink thing still rankles me a bit, I have to say. I guess it's one of those generational things... equality to me looks different than it did to my mom, and equality to DD will look different than it does to me. It's just... pink.
Chapsie - love the moustaches! So cute.
And yay for babies!!!! My hemorrhoids are definitely getting better now so I feel much more positive today and will actually get to go for a walk! Of course it's raining and yucky out, but I'm choosing to ignore that.