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[SamiPolizzi]

Can we just take a moment and whine about things we are not loving about these last few weeks of pregnancy?

My pelvis hurts SO MUCH. I can't wait to be able to just walk again without being in pain. A couple days ago it was sunny and in the 60's and I just wanted to walk around outside with my DS. But after about 3 blocks I was in so much pain I had to call it quits. 

Between the pain in my pelvis/hips, the waking up with horrible heartburn, and getting out of bed to pee 7 or 8 times a night, sleeping is IMPOSSIBLE. Then when I'm lying there awake in the middle of the night, I start thinking about the fact that if this baby is anything like DS, I won't be sleeping through the night for another 2 or 3 years. And I'm so tired and over emotional that this thought usually leads to tears. 

Now please add your complaints to this thread so I don't feel like the lone whiner. 

[sunshinelove]

Its okay to whine some. For me, my biggest complaint is just not being able to do very much. I'm normally an active person so its hard for me to have to rest so much.

Also, feeling so vulnerable emotionally is taking its toll on me. I hate feeling the urge to cry a few times a day and getting my feelings hurt so easily. I'm trying to accept this as best i can but its still hard.

[buko]

I have been so lucky in this pregnancy that my biggest complaint is about my own brain.  Every time I get good news (my latest is that I am GBS negative), I start obsessing that the baby has turned to breech or something (has been firmly head-down forever-- last check at 37w5d).  I'd ask what the heck is wrong with me, but I know, LOL. 

I also have had some pubic symphysis pain for a long time, and falling asleep is rough, but I feel like I can live with that.

My other main complaint/anxiety is about DH-- he was just given an immigration hearing appointment on February 28... the day before my EDD!  Totally just a formality for his Green Card renewal, but it's one of those YOU MUST SHOW UP OR ELSE things, and I KNOW he wouldn't leave my side in labor.  Granted, the chances are probably not more than 5-10% that I will be in labor, but still.  Ugh.

[scruffy too]

My only real complaints are in my head, too.  I'm exhausted.  I'm tired.  I'm tired of being tired.  I'm tired of looking tired (even though everyone keeps telling me I look great, so obviously I don't look as tired as I feel - thank goodness!!)

I'm so over being overly emotional.  It's draining.  If I hear good news, I want to cry.  If I'm frustrated, I want to cry.  If I'm scared or can't put my feelings into words, I want to cry.  And for all of the above, I usually do - or fight it off which leaves me with a bit of a headache.

I guess the only other thing is really sore nipples - but that's only for 20 minutes or so every other day, so it's not 'that' bad (obviously they're fine right now, because when they hurt I'm pretty sure someone's hacking them off with a shard of dull glass...)

That's all my gripes.  Really, I have nothing to complain about. 

[spughy]

I HATE THESE GODDAMNED HEMORRHOIDS!!!!!!

that is all.

[scruffy too]

Originally Posted by spughy 

I HATE THESE GODDAMNED HEMORRHOIDS!!!!!!

that is all.

See?  How can I complain when some of you have that to deal with? 

[veganyogamomma]

I am so tired, I just want to sleep at night but I keep being kept up by discomfort and/or contractions. I wish someone could just come play with DD for a few hours so I could have a break. Blah. Prodromal labor is really annoying. I hate feeling every night like it could be real labor, only to have it subside after a few hours.

And I made 2 dozen muffins to freeze last night and burned them. Now the house smells like burnt muffins and I have to make them all over again today!

[micah_mae_]

My main complaint right now is money. Or lack thereof. :( I still only have 3 gowns for baby, no pins for the diapers, no swing/rocker/bouncer anything (unfortunately necessary with a 2 yo and a 4 yo as well). We just moved and still have to deal with cleaning the carpets/pest control/etc for the old house and pray they don't charge us for anything. Next paycheck our electric and water will be ridiculous for having to have utilities on in 2 houses. Just typing it out is making me frustrated and anxious.

[Bena]

O yeah! One more vent for being tired of being tired!

[RainGardenMama]

Sami- thanks for starting this!
Sunshine- I too am baffled by how often my body needs to rest. There is always so much to do!
Buko- yay for negative GBS test!!
Spughy- hope your rear end feels better soon!
Scruffy- I feel emotionally like you are my twin. I cry for anything! I recently, though, just decided I will embrace it and now if I have put off a cry for any reason (like being on a conference call with another manager and our CFO for example) then later I intentionally listen to a moving song to cry so I get they release! I feel worse if I bottle it up.
Vegan- burning baked goods makes me SO mad! If I were you, I would cry!
Micah- we are in a financial pickle, as well. We have had challenges like this before and survived just fine, things always have a way of working out. It is hard to believe that sometimes, but you will make it through, and I will too.

[Tear78]

Im tired of being tired, too, and tired people around me being tired of me being tired. I feel like at work people are like, oh you're so cute, how do yu feel? And if I don't say this is the best I've felt in my life they're disappointed. Anybody else get this? And I'm tired of feeling inadequate at my job and as a wife/parent. Like somebody's always picking up my slack even though I'm pushing myself beyond exhaustion. Phew, hey thanks for this thread!

Ps - I'm tired f my iPad keyboard not keeping up with my fingers, too. Grump! Lol!

[cocoanib]

Plbbbbbbbbb!

Raspberries to:

-crackling hips that feel like they are going to crumble

-turning over too many times at night and it feeling like a huge to do

-peeing on myself on the way to the bathroom nightly

-peeing in general

-walking like a duck/crab and being in pain every time I move

-horrible taste in my mouth no mater what i eat...baking soda is my bestfriend

-food in general. not being able to figure out what to eat.

-Supernova kicking my butt from the inside. Love this little guy, but he must be huge and is a mover for real!

-my ob practice get's triple Plbbbbbbbb!!!!!

-wiping, bathing, getting dressed all taking way too long and being way too difficult.

I think that's enough for now!

Thanks for allowing me to vent!

[LightForest]

  Can I just join onto everything mentioned already? Being a big fan of bulleted lists, I especially love cocoanib's rundown.

DH woke up feeling a little sick, and he took the day off work and has been taking it easy all day. He's generally not too much of a baby about being sick, but I STILL am having to hold back from saying something to the effect of "now you know how I've been feeling for the last 9 months straight."

[Tear78]

Originally Posted by LightForest 

  Can I just join onto everything mentioned already? Being a big fan of bulleted lists, I especially love cocoanib's rundown.

DH woke up feeling a little sick, and he took the day off work and has been taking it easy all day. He's generally not too much of a baby about being sick, but I STILL am having to hold back from saying something to the effect of "now you know how I've been feeling for the last 9 months straight."

It's really hard not to pull that card, isn't it? It's like an automatic fight.

[LightForest]

Originally Posted by Tear78 

Originally Posted by LightForest 

  Can I just join onto everything mentioned already? Being a big fan of bulleted lists, I especially love cocoanib's rundown.

DH woke up feeling a little sick, and he took the day off work and has been taking it easy all day. He's generally not too much of a baby about being sick, but I STILL am having to hold back from saying something to the effect of "now you know how I've been feeling for the last 9 months straight."

It's really hard not to pull that card, isn't it? It's like an automatic fight.

EXACTLY! I really know better than to say anything, but, ugh, it's still hard

[spughy]

Originally Posted by Tear78 

Im tired of being tired, too, and tired people around me being tired of me being tired. I feel like at work people are like, oh you're so cute, how do yu feel? And if I don't say this is the best I've felt in my life they're disappointed. Anybody else get this?

YES.  When you're small and pregnant people think you're SO cute and adorable and don't recognize that you feel just as enormous as any other pregnant woman.  More, even, if you were stupid enough to marry some guy who is over 6', solid-boned and was a 10-lb baby himself.  I get laughed at when I say I feel massive and ungainly.  Like I'm not allowed to feel like that because I *look* cute.  At least hemorrhoids are something that gets actual sympathy.

[SamiPolizzi]

Yeah, the being tired all the time thing is really not cool. I become a mean, grumpy person when I'm tired. It's making me wonder how I'm going to handle being a mom of 2. Lately, I find myself feeling a little annoyed when DS wakes up during the night (which only happens about half the time and almost never more than once in a night.) And then I remember I'm about to have a baby. I know I'll feel a lot more like myself when I'm not pregnant, though. 

Spughy, I totally feel for you on both accounts. My hemorrhoids are kind of just there but don't hurt. But there have been 2 or 3 days when they got extra inflamed and became really painful. I can't imagine dealing with it on a regular basis. I'm a little worried that's what's going to happen after giving birth though. :/ And I'm also a "cute, little" pregnant lady. I can't even bring myself to try to imagine how this baby is going to get any bigger because he already feels WAY TOO BIG to be inside my body. 

[cabbitdancer]

I second the "people expecting you to be all sunshine and light and this is great about the pregnancy" complaint. My husband and I had a discussion last weekend about things and he told me that I wasn't enjoying the pregnancy enough, that I didn't smile enough, as though it were some fault of mine. That had me crying on more than one occasion. I am tired. I am in pain. And I am stressed to the max over every bite of food that goes into my mouth, and the fact that baby is STILL BREECH. And yet, he checked out a while ago, so I can't ask him for a back/shoulder rub, or a shoulder to cry on, because a) I don't want to be turned down or ignored and b) I don't want to come across as whiny and unhappy.

[scruffy too]

I felt I got much more "you should be happier" at the beginning of this journey. 

And I'm adding "Getting turned down when asking for a back rub" to my vent list.  x 100.  It should be illegal.

[cocoanib]

Originally Posted by scruffy too 

I felt I got much more "you should be happier" at the beginning of this journey. 

And I'm adding "Getting turned down when asking for a back rub" to my vent list.  x 100.  It should be illegal.

This X 1000!

If I ask you to rub any part of my body, you should not sigh. You should do it with a smile on your face.

I'm making and carrying your baby inside of me, it's the least you could do!