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post #21 of 102
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Originally Posted by cocoanib View Post

 

This X 1000!

If I ask you to rub any part of my body, you should not sigh. You should do it with a smile on your face.

I'm making and carrying your baby inside of me, it's the least you could do!

 

OMG SERIOUSLY.

post #22 of 102

I don't have many physical ailments to complain about - we have good mixed German stock and do the pregnancy thing ok.  I am ready for the scale to start moving down.  I'm just a few pounds shy of another 50lb pregnancy.  I know I'll appreciate the fat deposits on my thighs when I'm too busy taking care of a toddler and nursing an infant to fix breakfast, but ughh! the cellulite is killing me!  

 

But, because I'm still feeling pretty good DH treats me like I'm not even pregnant. 

 

Midnight runs for food cravings? Nope. 

 

Foot rub? maybe for him... 

 

Fix dinner or take care of the dishes or laundry so that I can come home after working all day and relax?  Not happening.  

 

Bathe DS and put him to bed while I soak in the bubbles myself?  Well, there's always that 20 minutes after DS goes to bed and before I pass out available to me...

 

Maybe I should have planned this baby better and not been 9 months pregnant during the single busiest month of DH's life....

post #23 of 102

Not much for physical issues.....the restless leg syndrome/breathing issues are a bit better, and the varicose veins are MUCH better.  Plus I know all of those issues will be resolved once the baby comes.

 

My two big issues are 1) the DOG. and 2) the ExH.

 

OK, the dog is a 3 year old boxer who tears the house apart when we leave.  Sometimes. Not always. He can't be crated, because he bends the (metal) crate like SuperDog and escapes. We've tried locking the dog door and leaving both dogs (the other dog is a lab, same age, and is perfect and wouldn't dream of doing anything naughty except eat poop which I can live with) in the hallway with access to the dog yard (fenced).  He's learned how to pry off the locking panel. So we got a Scat Mat to put in front of the dogdoor.  That lasted a couple of days. Then we attached the Scat Mat to the (metal) door with magnets. He pulled it off.  In a fit of frustration we TIED HIM TO A BIG RING IN THE HALLWAY WITH A CABLE.  He has access to the dogyard, water, nice bed, toys, lab friend.  I come home, and the ass is in the house, dragging the cable around. Luckily no damage.  But I'm still pissed. He can go all day FINE, other days I'm gone for half an hour and he's destroyed something. He gets on the counter and steals stuff. He gets into the bathroom and EATS OUT OF THE COMPOST TOILET.  (ugh)  He's chewed through DOORS. DP and I are at our wit's end. And the thing is, I get the dog thing. Before kids, I managed a boarding kennel, trained dogs, etc. I can't believe this dog!  He's a "used" dog, my DP got him before we got together.  This is why I won't get an older dog.....the lab I've had since a puppy and trained her to understand boundaries.  But, dogs good friends, and boxer is a nice, friendly sweet dog, just a pain in the ass.

 

OK, the ExH. I won't get into it too much here, because I'd have to give you guys pages of background, but basically he lives right across the street from us, he's totally pissed that I'm with my DP (he wanted to get back together with me, even though we've been apart for 8 years now, and he's been in a steady relationship for 6 of those years), I think he's FINALLY figured out I'm pregnant, and he's just being a jerk about child support and money.  I've been the "nice one" all these years and backed down and given in and I'm so sick of him badmouthing me in front of the kids.  My almost-15 year old DD won't even go see him anymore......she's been with me full-time since the beginning of January.  He is SUCH AN ASS.  And so now I get to be afraid to walk around the neighborhood with my newborn.  :(  I've had to call the police on him, but he's not doing enough for me to get a restraining order.  Ugh.  Just a word of advice.  Never. EVER. agree to live across the street from your Ex. Even if you're "getting along just fine."  We got along "just fine" until I told him I was dating my DP, and he turned into a crazy man.

 

Ok that's all!  :P

post #24 of 102
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I have a new complaint after my trip to the children's museum today. I now feel like I'm physically incapable of going on outings alone with my DS. Usually things go fine, but if he decides he doesn't want to cooperate, I'm pretty much just screwed. Today when it was time to go, he decided (not surprisingly) that he didn't want go. After spending a while trying everything I could think of to convince him to come to the car with me, I eventually had no choice but to carry him, kicking and screaming, all the way too the car. And a failing almost-4-year-old is way too much for my 5 foot tall, 35 weeks pregnant body to handle. My back hurts so much now I'm afraid to take him anywhere again. :( 

post #25 of 102
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I have a new complaint after my trip to the children's museum today. I now feel like I'm physically incapable of going on outings alone with my DS. Usually things go fine, but if he decides he doesn't want to cooperate, I'm pretty much just screwed. Today when it was time to go, he decided (not surprisingly) that he didn't want go. After spending a while trying everything I could think of to convince him to come to the car with me, I eventually had no choice but to carry him, kicking and screaming, all the way too the car. And a failing almost-4-year-old is way too much for my 5 foot tall, 35 weeks pregnant body to handle. My back hurts so much now I'm afraid to take him anywhere again. :( 

 

I'm right there with you! My DD is impossible these days, and I just don't have the energy (physical and mental) to get her dressed, get her out the door, transport her to whatever special outing location, then cajole her into leaving and transport her home. Every little step in the process is such a headache. She's fine with my weekly midwife appointments and our once-weekly Waldorf class, I think because these are ingrained into her routine by now. But any new/different thing is pretty much out of the question for us. Ug.

 

(Crummy winter weather doesn't help matters, either...)

 

I feel SO BAD about not getting her out of the house more often... But then when I do take her out, it just kills me and I end up needing about 36 hours just to recover. Bleck...

post #26 of 102

I really don't like it when people assume I must be ready for the pregnancy to be over.  Now that I'm in my final month, it seems like everyone is saying "Oh, you must be so ready to be done."  Nope.  I'm actually enjoying being pregnant (besides for some minor complaints listed on page one of this thread).  Why do people assume I want to be "done"??  Quite frankly, I believe the real work starts then!!  I could see if I was walking around, sharing my discomforts and whatnot, but I'm not complaining about anything...  I mean, I'm tired, but from what others have shared with me, that problem isn't going to go away with the birth of this baby - LOL!!  I feel like I'm constantly defending my position to be happy (or at least content) to be pregnant for another month...

post #27 of 102

Oh add another one to the list. We found out at 16 weeks it's a boy yet my grandmother insists it's a girl. Going as far as to rub my belly and say "Hi Norah, they think you're a Noah but I know you're a Norah." She has done this with every pregnancy (this is the third boy) and I just wanna scream at her! I don't want a girl, we're not going to have a girl and you're just a crazy old lady! She also talks about how I'm a glutton for punishment having 3 kids in 5 years and how if she had boys she'd "beat it out of them" (the hyperness, aggression, other little boy "issues"). Sigh. 

post #28 of 102

just feeling poopy in general. getting fed up so easy with rampant hormones.


Edited by beautifulnm - 2/20/13 at 9:39am
post #29 of 102

(((HUGS))) beautifulnm. 

post #30 of 102

Oh, micah mae, my mom spent a month or two in denial through my early pregnancy. I'm lucky enough that she's too far away to do the rub the belly and tell me the u/s is wrong thing, but she swore up and down that it would be a boy. Now, she says that boys are evil, anyway, and I don't want or need a boy. *sighs* Ain't family great?

post #31 of 102

thanks spughy for reading my tirade. hugs. 

post #32 of 102

I already vented on the chat thread, but there's more to my sob story and self-pity party. 

 

As I mentioned, I really want to be done with working. We have a major deadline looming and last time I had a deadline like this I did 70-80 hour work weeks for months. I can hardly fit in my 40 hours without crashing on the couch at 5. The last couple days I haven't even been able to get up to help Pete get the kids off to school. This morning I took them to the bus and I hadn't even combed my hair or brushed my teeth. Thank goodness no one got near me and the kids still love me all huge and stinky.

 

I'm also snoring like a chainsaw at night.Or maybe it's a lawn mower that seems to stop and start. I can't decide. Why do I know this? Because I am snoring so loudly that I wake myself up and then every time I start to fall back to sleep I snore, again, and wake myself back up. It is horrible. I cannot sleep, I want to sleep, but the chainsaw stuck in the back of my throat keeps going off and waking me up. 

 

Last night I felt "birthy." I had mild contractions that didn't stop regardless to position, so I got up, since the snoring wasn't letting me sleep anyway, and cleaned the kitchen. I also drank an entire thing of gatoraide, which I had planned to throw out after that stuff in the news on what is in it, but I just felt like that was what I wanted to drink. And, I was feeling dehydrated. That seemed to make the contractions stop, but I'm a little nervous that we haven't purchased everything on the birth kit list and Pete is up at the ski slopes on Saturday with the kids. 

post #33 of 102

It makes me sad how many mean thoughts I have per minute. Everything and everyone is pissing me off. Why can't anyone do anything right!?!?!? Dang it!?!?!

 

I just wrote a text to DH apologizing for being such a beeyotch while we were getting ready for work this morning. 

post #34 of 102
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Oh, micah mae, my mom spent a month or two in denial through my early pregnancy. I'm lucky enough that she's too far away to do the rub the belly and tell me the u/s is wrong thing, but she swore up and down that it would be a boy. Now, she says that boys are evil, anyway, and I don't want or need a boy. *sighs* Ain't family great?

Oh yes and I just found out she and my mom are coming over today to help me unpack from moving. I really appreciate my mom coming but why is my grandma coming? She claims she can't lift anything over 5 lbs, says she can't keep track of my kids and generally complains about everything so why is she coming? Just to annoy me?

post #35 of 102
I got a little behind here, but I have to second the request for warm weather to return. I think it would be a lot easier if we could just take dd outside sometimes, but it's been so cold that we can only go out for a little bit and I just can't muster the energy to pull on all the snow gear for that. Poor kiddo!
post #36 of 102

I think my biggest thing is just feeling so useless. I want to take the kids and go out and do stuff in my HEAD, but then my body just says, nah, let's sit here longer. I'm so tired. And then when I do get up and get around for the day - the next day, I'm completely wrecked. Being pregnant at 40 is a lot different than being pregnant in my early 20's! I feel like I'm 80 most of the time. OK - done whining.:-)

post #37 of 102

I lied, not done whining...hemorrhoids. They suck. I agree:-) Also - I know what you mean Scruffy Too about not wanting it to be over. I do and I don't. This might be my last...so I want to enjoy the pregnancy. On the other hand, I'm very eager to meet the new wee one. Hrmmm....

post #38 of 102
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It makes me sad how many mean thoughts I have per minute. Everything and everyone is pissing me off. Why can't anyone do anything right!?!?!? Dang it!?!?!

 

Same here. 

post #39 of 102
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I really don't like it when people assume I must be ready for the pregnancy to be over.  Now that I'm in my final month, it seems like everyone is saying "Oh, you must be so ready to be done."  Nope.  I'm actually enjoying being pregnant (besides for some minor complaints listed on page one of this thread).  Why do people assume I want to be "done"??  Quite frankly, I believe the real work starts then!!  I could see if I was walking around, sharing my discomforts and whatnot, but I'm not complaining about anything...  I mean, I'm tired, but from what others have shared with me, that problem isn't going to go away with the birth of this baby - LOL!!  I feel like I'm constantly defending my position to be happy (or at least content) to be pregnant for another month...

I think you should tell them that!  It's true, I felt the same with DS.  One week passed my edd someone looked at me with sad eyes "I'm so sorry, I really hope he comes soon"  Yeah, probably will, and then I can't leave the house for 3 weeks.  Babies are much easier to take care of when wrapped up in the belly!

post #40 of 102

I've been telling people that I just figured out this pregnancy thing and I'm in no rush to start figuring out the mothering thing.  Then there's an awkward silence.  I love it.

 

I'm getting bored with going pee all the time - not that I'm looking for suggestions to "spice it up", I'm just tired of spending so much time peeing!  (Again, not a very deep vent, compared to other possible problems - LOL!!!)

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