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[SamiPolizzi]

I need to vent for a second...

I feel like I'm completely missing out on my last few weeks of only having one child. I want to give DS all my attention, but it's so hard. My pelvis is so screwed up. I can't even believe how painful it is. We just went on a trip to a waterpark hotel (I wouldn't have chosen to go at 37 weeks pregnant, but it was a group thing and we got a really good deal.) We were only there for 2 nights, but by this morning I could barely walk. I just wanted to take my kid to the arcade and have a good time playing some games with him, but instead I ended up sitting in the lobby crying while DP played games with him. 

[cabbitdancer]

*hugs* Oh, Sami. I hear you on the wanting to do stuff with the "baby" before the baby gets here. We've got more snow than we've had in a long while and I would LOVE to go out and play in it with my daughter, but everything hurts. Maybe you can come up with some kind of snuggle time ritual for the next few days/weeks to share with your son that will help alleviate some of the disappointment?

[SamiPolizzi]

Thanks. Yeah, I definitely couldn't imagine playing in snow right now. I think we're just going to be doing a lot of snuggling on the couch while watching movies and reading books and stuff. I didn't really realize how much he was missing out physical closeness with me until we were in the pool and he was SO EXCITED that I was able to hold him. I don't even let him him sit in my lap very much because he's constantly leaning against my belly and it's so uncomfortable. :/

[micah_mae_]

I feel ya on missing the "big" kids. I can't let them sit on my lap either and it makes me sad. :(

Last night I experienced a first since being diagnosed with arthritis (as), I woke up with a horrible ache in my right hip joint that would not go away despite positional changes or pillow arrangements. I was up for hours just being in pain with no relief. Sigh. Story of my life now? Hopefully this baby is a good sleeper.

[buko]

I should note that as soon as BIL heard baby had come (early the next morning, after she was born close to midnight), he rushed right over (bringing lots of food) and spent the whole day loving on her.  Not that that totally surprised me-- but basically, there's some hope!

[cabbitdancer]

Yay, Buko! That sounds like a good start to me!

Ugh, micah. Hip pain sucks. I had a lot in the beginning but, touch wood, it hasn't really come back.

Glad to hear you got in some snuggle time, Sami. I snuggled while reading to my daughter, last night. I have to remember to make time for that sort of thing, especially once Bun gets here.

[chocolatechip]

buko, so happy he came through! 

Sami and cabbit and micah, I hope you find the right amount of snuggling. 

[cabbitdancer]

I am SO ANGRY with my mom, right now. I should've known better than to accept her offer to come out and be childcare for my daughter while dealing with the baby, but I always somehow think that something will change and that she'll actually be a RESPONSIBLE ADULT for once in her life.

Today, in the OB's office, she was really pressing me to get the cervical check, even after I told her that I felt they were total bunk and not worth the pain. So, instead, when the doctor's assistant says they don't normally insist except in the presence of contractions, she says, "Well, weren't you just saying, the other day, that you were feeling crampy?" And, before that, she dropped a very big, and very painful, piece of my past like so much conversational flotsam into a discussion with the physician's tech, who I'm sure really appreciated the TMI. That is SO NOT her information to share and for her to treat it so casually really hurt.

Now, she is sulking in the guest bedroom because she is SO BORED and has NOTHING TO DO, probably because I totally got on her case for opening her big mouth. But, seriously, she could come out of the bedroom and out of the bed, and... I dunno... be social and watch something with me downstairs in the family room, instead of insisting on having a tv set up in the guest bedroom so that she can lay in bed all day and watch tv.

Long story short: she is not allowed at my OB appointments anymore. :(

[SamiPolizzi]

That sounds absolutely awful. And so much like my mother. How long will she be staying with you?

I'm actually pretty happy that I moved 2,000 miles away from my family right after I found out I was pregnant. One of my biggest fears is that my mom will somehow show up here before I've given birth. I just wouldn't be able to handle that. She's planning a trip sometime in April, but she keeps telling me how devastated she is that she won't be here for DS's birthday (the 30th) so I'm a little worried she's just going to decide to hop on a plane at the last second. 

[cabbitdancer]

My mom is going to be here for a few days over a month. We do have good days and she and my daughter have a ton of fun, but UGH, when she's bad, she's really, really, really bad.

[scruffy too]

Buko - I'm SO happy to hear that BIL stepped up!!!  I hope my brother follows suit!

Cabbit - that would be frustrating!  My mom's coming for a month, too (arrives Thursday) but we have a pretty healthy relationship, so it's very different.  And even though we're good, I still wouldn't bring her to an OB appointment, however, she was here at one of my MW appointments over Christmas and will be at next Friday's appointment, but to me, that's different...

My current vent: being sick SUCKS.  I woke up last night and my throat felt like it was on fire.  I could only squeak.  Then DP made fun of my squeaking and I started to cry.  I'm trying to believe that I wouldn't go into labor this week (I have NO "signs") but I'm having to battle myself and not stress too much.  I couldn't imagine trying to labor peacefully while feeling so $hitty... 

And DP and I have had 2 fairly huge fights in the last two days.  I know my part is a bit of over-reaction, but it would really help if he could get over himself, realize my emotions are running amok, and be the bigger person.  I'm tired of ALWAYS being the bigger person, no matter who's in the wrong, and bringing us both back down to earth...  And it's much harder to do with this many hormones!   So last evening I stayed in our room for 3 hours instead of trying to make things right.  He sent his son to get me when dinner was ready and then acted like nothing had happened. 

[SamiPolizzi]

Cabbit, I hope the rest of the time she's in town goes a little more smoothly! 

Scruffy, I can totally relate to the issues with you're having with your DP. I'm at the point where I don't even tell me DP when I'm upset about something because I know I'm overreacting to things and he's either going to make a big deal about what a big deal I'm making about it OR he's going to write me off all together and just assume it's hormones so he doesn't need to take me seriously. I wish he could understand that even if I'm overreacting to something, my feelings are still legitimate and deserve to be taken into consideration. 

Also, I hope you feel better soon! Being sick at this point in pregnancy must be AWFUL. I've got a pretty nasty cough right now, but no other symptoms so it's not bothering me too much. I just wish my DS would stop coughing because he's had to stay home from preschool all week. He only goes for a few hours 3 days a week, but I NEED that quiet time. 

[Tear78]

Buko, I'm so glad BIL pulled through!

So sorry for those feeling sick! I can't imagine that on top of feeling so pregnant.

afm - Mom and dad are out of town. DH has a big job today that may lead to more steady work so he needs his sleep and then will be gone most of the day. I'm going to be on my own with DD who is almost 20 months and very active. And today is the day she decided that 4:45 was the time to wake up. Seriously, i went to pee and the second the pee hit the water in the toilet I heard "mama!" sigh...I love her SO much, and I feel guilty for complaining, but Mama's body is falling apart! I was in serious pain yesterday evening after cleaning in the morning and then watching her in the afternoon/evening. I was hobbling. And that was with a two hour rest/nap on my part. I'm nervous for today. Often when she wakes up early like this she decides naps are stupid too. OK....had to get that off my chest. Oh, and it's not like I can go anywhere cause we only have one cell phone and DH doesn't have a phone at his studio and he's worried I'll go into labor while out on the town and not be able to call him. Very sweet, but I feel trapped here. sigh...

[wildmansmom]

Ok - short vent.

Today I'm officially 40+3 but I think I'm closer to 39+5 (I think that I ovulated later since we were using protection around my normal ovulation date and I wasn't charting since we were out of town). 

I feel really great, I had a good nesting burst the last few days and now that everything is done and I feel like labor is getting very close I just want to sleep.

But,I can't seem to avoid the sad eyes and "You haven't had that baby yet?!" questions. Not to mention "why are you still working!?!"  Seriously, I'm not superwoman.  Lots of people work right up until delivery, right?  DH is a coach and his season started this weekend.  So I've been out at the games with DS and everyone is looking at me like I'm crazy or I must be miserable because I'm pregnant, full term to boot, and not in labor.  I'm trying so hard to be patient and wait for LO to come when she is ready.  I know I won't be allowed to go beyond 43 weeks so I can see the light at the end of the tunnel.  (19 days or less!)  But all these people are really messing with my mentality. I even had one of the player's fathers say "We can grab you and shake that baby out or you could come to our house, we have a trampoline."  Seriously?  

[spughy]

wildmansmom - if it helps, a neighbour of mine tried a trampoline when she was about 42 weeks and it didn't help.  But she said it was kind of fun.

[storygirlcindy]

Wildmansmom, I've been getting the "haven't you had that baby yet?" questions and I'm only 39 weeks as of today! They are making me crazy. I asked my husband, do people honestly think that if I HAD had the baby I would be holed up in the hospital keeping it a secret from the world??? Good luck!

And spughy - I'll admit I've thought of jumping up and down vigorously this week to see if it does anything. ;) But it just seemed like it would be reeeeally uncomfortable and not accomplish much!

[Carlyle]

Originally Posted by Tear78 

Buko, I'm so glad BIL pulled through!

So sorry for those feeling sick! I can't imagine that on top of feeling so pregnant.

afm - Mom and dad are out of town. DH has a big job today that may lead to more steady work so he needs his sleep and then will be gone most of the day. I'm going to be on my own with DD who is almost 20 months and very active. And today is the day she decided that 4:45 was the time to wake up. Seriously, i went to pee and the second the pee hit the water in the toilet I heard "mama!" sigh...I love her SO much, and I feel guilty for complaining, but Mama's body is falling apart! I was in serious pain yesterday evening after cleaning in the morning and then watching her in the afternoon/evening. I was hobbling. And that was with a two hour rest/nap on my part. I'm nervous for today. Often when she wakes up early like this she decides naps are stupid too. OK....had to get that off my chest. Oh, and it's not like I can go anywhere cause we only have one cell phone and DH doesn't have a phone at his studio and he's worried I'll go into labor while out on the town and not be able to call him. Very sweet, but I feel trapped here. sigh...

  Do you need me to call you?  You can call me on your home phone and I'll call you right back.  I'm hoping you and dd are both asleep right now...

[spughy]

I think gentle bouncing on a mini-trampoline could actually feel okay.  I'm not talking flinging yourself around on one of those big ones and bouncing six feet high or anything!

[wildmansmom]

Spughy - lol - I don't think the trampoline would be much fun right now either! 

Storygirl - exactly!  Yes, I had the baby, and now I have a beach ball stuffed under my shirt just to fool you! 

I guess they are just as anxious as we are to have a baby!

[spughy]

Weirdly I just woke up from a nap, and in my nap I dreamed that I was on a swing - one of those swingset double bench-type swings - and it felt really good.  Not quite a trampoline, but motion... maybe my subconscious is telling me something?  Also in the same dream I was watching Star Trek on a baby video monitor at the bus stop.  So... maybe not.