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[CookAMH]

Thought I'd start a new one, no idea where the other one is. How's everyone doing? We announced at church today and on facebook.  It's fun to have it out, but our little secret was also fun too. I feel like this pregnancy is going to take FOREVER!! (#3). Anyone else feel that way? September feels so far away, and while I'm eager to have it come, I also don't want to rush the next 7 mo of my kids lives...they change so fast (almost 2 & 4) and I don't want to miss that just to have September come. It'll come when it comes.

DH and I have our 5th anniversary this week, so my parents are coming to stay with our 2 kids while we go away for 2 nights. I'm excited! We're going to a B&B in Friday Harbor, WA, up in the San Juan Island. It's supposed to rain though, so BOO.

Anything much going on this week?

[nettlesoup]

I know what you mean; September does seem very far away! I hope you have a great time while you're away and the weather isn't too bad!

Things have been pretty uneventful for me. I'm getting my 12 week scan on Wednesday so I'm really looking forward to that. We'll announce to the rest of our friends once we've seen the scan and are sure all is well with the baby.

I finally got my maternity clothes from my fiance's granny's attic which is a huge relief! I was wandering around the other day with my jeans completely undone because they were so uncomfortable! I'm so huge, but apparently that's a second child thing.

My daughter is going to be 4 on the 4th March, so I'll need to start organising a wee party for her. I can't believe how quickly they grow up!
 

[aidenn]

CookAMH - I feel like this pregnancy is going to take forever because of the many weather changes my area will go through before I deliver.  My other kids were concieved in Autumn and born in Winter/Spring, so it just felt like I needed to hibernate through the cold and holidays then voila - baby would arrive as it warmed up.  This baby, I am cold now, then I will go through Spring, Summer, and be just touching the tip of Autumn.  That makes it seem longer to me because of the perception of more seasons to buy clothes through.

Nettlesoup - Oh, congrats on being able to get those maternity clothes out of the DF's granny's attic!  I know you were getting pretty desperate for him to do that, so I understand what a relief it is to not have to button your fly to go outside to get the post!  :)  Or maybe I am projecting my own pants-feelings on you!

My week is shaping up to be pretty busy, which is a nice change of pace from last week's stomach flu extravaganza.  I am emetophobic, so last week was REALLY HARD for me and I spent the majority of it on the couch and fighting the urge to be ill, which I did succeed at, but only just!  I'd be interested to know what other do to boost their immune system, aside from eating a whole foods diet.

This week, I am teaching my biweekly breastfeeding class at our local WIC office (Tuesday) and having my first midwifery appointment on Wednesday, right at 11 weeks.  I am hoping to be able to hear a heartbeat at this appointment, but I always hate the vampire-like levels of blood draws that are needed.  I have 10 tattoos, so I'm not exactly scared of needles, but it seems like once they take a pint of blood or so, I get light headed.  Just having come off the queasy train, I do not want to willingly put myself there again, you know?  Then on Wednesday evening, I am going to a birth network meeting (I have my own lactation business) and then a La Leche League meeting I lead on Friday.  Whew!

Does anyone else feel like they might be feeling movement?  I swear, if I eat a good meal and then lay down/recline, I can feel faint little pushes and kicks down in my pelvis.  DH thinks I am doing wishful thinking, but I am convinced.

[nettlesoup]

Aidenn; I didn't think it was possible to be cold in Florida! I sometimes wish I lived somewhere that was warm once in a while! Last Summer, it was as warm as 68F if we were lucky, most of the time it was less.

I've not been aware of any movement, and probably won't even look out for it for a month or so. But you are so right about maternity trousers, the relief was amazing and they are so comfy!

[letniaLynne]

Adienn, I think I've been feeling movement! Also when I'm calm right before bed. I'm 12 weeks along and this was about the time I felt it with my second. I'm crossing my fingers since I have yet to hear a heartbeat ( no first tri ultrasounds and we could not find it on the Doppler last week)

[katalopolis]

I'm glad I'm not the only one who thinks September is SO FAR AWAY. I am not known for my patience though but I am trying to be restrained about it all.

This last weekend I somehow managed to do a full load of workshops at a Western Martial Arts symposium held by my fencing school and not die of exhaustion! In fact, at points I felt less nauseus and gross than I do on days when I am at work sitting at a desk all day. I am actually quite impressed by myself really.

We've got the first ultrasound on Thursday and then my first appointment with my midwives/doctors. I'm trying out a nifty birth centre-place here where you see teams of doctors and midwives and get a lot of your prenatal care in small groups of other women with the actual appointments being private of course.

[tillymonster]

I was looking for this thread-- thanks CookAMH!

Man. I feel like September will be here very soon. TOO SOON. I wish things were going slow and steady, not for my life. The second I get pregnant (we moved 300+ miles with DD1) we get to start somewhere new and fresh, apparently. LOL.

We are losing our insurance (which imho wasn't great anyhow) in March and I'm fearful for the terrible HMO the state of CA provides for women who need assistance. It's scary to think about. All I wanted was an awesome doula and a homebirth. Maybe I can find one in training. Or the one who quoted me a very low price. The issue then is-- I hire her and boom-- we move out of state for a job. Which we are ready and willing to do. My life is a mess! 

I keep saying "if I wasn't pregnant, this wouldn't be an issue" omg. It makes me SO SAD to even think this. This baby was planned and wanted and I shouldn't be in  state like I am right now. Ladies, give me some perspective! It's been so so so good for me to have a place to vent about this stuff because we cannot fathom telling people we are pregnant and unemployed and possibly moving. It's all so sad.

I ate at taco bell tonight.  and no, it wasn't good. It was cheap and wasn't smelly. I haven't had fast food like that in over a year. I feel so guilty! My poor lil bean does not need this unhealthy food! Ok, pity party over.

[CookAMH]

Does anyone watch Downton Abbey? We watched the finale tonight. Really stinks! Why did they have to do that???? As an aside, that newborn baby was soooooo cute.

[tillymonster]

I. Love. Downton. Abbey!!! Wasn't the finale sad? Oh poor Mary! I love the tenderness between Anna and Bates. Such a great show and one I could watch with DD running around. I watched the entire 3 seasons and I must say it's all I look forward to.

[nettlesoup]

I've never seen it, but I should because I know it would be my cup of tea. Besides, I love Maggie Smith.
 

[aidenn]

We are Downtown watchers too, but we watch it as it airs in GB, so I have known the news for some time!! It was difficult to only talk to my British friends about it, but my MIL called me in a state yesterday grilling me about details!!

[MamaMash]

I sometimes feel like I feel tiny movements. But then I think I'm totally nuts because I'm only 11w5d and it has to be gas. In my very very low abdomen. And just one little bubble popping randomly.

I don't watch downton but I plan to start it soon!

[dakipode]

I had an awesome day yesterday with zero queasiness so of course I'm worried about it. My day included an afternoon of watching episode 1 and 2 of season 3 Downton Abbey with two friends, we've been waiting to watch them together. I've read some spoilers here and there as the season was airing but to me it's not just about the drama, it's about the beautiful settings and scenery.

September does seem ages away. I still haven't told many people and nothing's showing so it keeps me wondering if this is really happening. I'm sure at some point we'll start feeling like we have to get our act together but for now it seems like we're both pretending nothing's changed/changing.

We did go to the birth center orientation and DH is much more open to the idea of using them, which is a huge relief to me. I ended up liking the place better than I thought I would. We're supposed to get an insurance specific quote from them this week and unless it's outrageously expensive (though DH and I haven't defined that) I think I'll go with them.

[nettlesoup]

I'm glad the Birth Centre orientation went well and your husband likes it. One less thing for you to worry about!
 

[LivingSky]

aidenn: I too think that I've been feeling movement periodically. Not often, but every once in a while I'll get a bit of a push or a flutter that doesn't feel like "me". It might be wishful thinking, but I'm fine with that With my first I couldn't feel anything I recognized as movement until around 19 weeks (partly because it was my first and I had no idea what to feel for, partly because of an anterior placenta) so I may well just be imagining things!

I absolutely feel like September is SO. FAR. AWAY. Of course when I think of the number of things I need to do between now and then, it's overwhelming because I know there's no where near enough time!

1 week until my first ultrasound, then we'll do our broad announce of the pregnancy. Most of our close friends/family already know though.

[mrsandmrs]

dakipode, i know you were anxious about the birth center thing, so i am really glad it went well for you. 

dang it, i want to feel some flutters. i'm jealous. 

[bohemianmama]

Hi ladies!

I'm going to join you in some chat.  Yey for birth centers! we absolutly love ours!  September feels like years away to me,  but they I stopped to think of all the thing I need to do before then, and then relized I don;t have enough time! We are going on vacation for 3 week end of june to july so i will be back at about 36 weeks, DS2 was born at 38 weeks and my mid wife suspects that I will not keep this one in longer than that. (this is my 4th baby) I need to have all my prep done before I leave on June 27. And all of june will be bnusy with kids end of school stuff. So  really I have 3-4 months to knit/sewing full diaper stash, gather clothes, organize my tiny house (my life lol)

I guess I need to get hopping I ordered yarn this morning, and will order diaper fabric friday. :) I need a plan to get organized or this will never all happen.

[bohemianmama]

PS how come I can't bring myslef to eat all the great organic food that I spend $100s of dollars on? Seriously I can't even put it in my mouth without gagging, but the 7 layer burrito I just eat from Taco bell tasted soooooo great!

I don't see this as a good thing hummm

[mattie426]

What is it with taco bell?? I have always loved it even though I know how bad it is. We have been really trying to eat better, especially since TTC, and were doing ok. But now I have to FORCE myself to eat at all, and the only things that are appealing are crap. Taco Bell, 5 guys, chocolate, etc. They say that what you eat has long term effects on the baby, but maybe the baby is ALREADY a junk food junkie, and imposing his/her will on me.

[CookAMH]

MamaMash - I think it's perfectly reasonable for you to be feeling movement! That was a *little* earlier than I felt my second, but I wouldn't discredit it just because of that. I felt my first around 15w, second around 12-13, and this one I felt around 8-9.  Definitely no kicks yet, just flutters and moments of pressure.

Avid - that's great your DH is more open to the idea of the birth center. With my first, my DH was cautiously hesitant until we had the tour and he could ask some of the question he had (of course, about emergency treatment measures available). What they had available made him comfortable coming on board with it...and this guy later agreed to an HBAC with our second! :)

bohemianmama - have your pregnancies been similar lengths? I went around 39w with my first two, so I couldn't imagine going past 40 this time...I would love similar timing.  It just seems like my babies are ready then.

I find it odd too when I make allowances with food while pregnant that I don't usually make when pregnant. It's the worst time to cheat on nutrition, yet I do it! I don't get myself. My allowances was a box of cereal, lol.  I never buy boxed cereal as we try to eat according to traditional foods ideas, but I bought some Cracklin Oat Bran last week. I finished a big bowl today so my mom won't see it and scolds me when she visits me tomorrow.

Still depressed about Downton Abbey. Matthew was pretty central. My mom read the actor didn't want to do another season...so there's not much they can do. It's so depressing though that babies are born and parents die! I can't imagine how the next season is going to start. I saw the last few min of Mary admiring her son, thinking how she only has few moments of joy before her whole world comes crashing down. I wonder if the season will pick up right where it left off, with the news being discovered and told, etc. Sigh. And we have to wait nearly a year (well, most of us hehe).